Smotherly Love: I Know Where Your Buttons Are and I'm Not Afraid to Push Them!
By Debi Stack
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No one can push your buttons quite like your mother can. After all, she's the one who installed them. - Anonymous
In sixteen "she said / she said" hilarious tales of overwhelmed mothers and their daughters, every day relational situations provide not only a humor break, but a ton of insight into how to be a better mom.
Sections include: She's So Bossy, She's So Stubborn, She's So Picky, She's So Clueless, and She's So Dramatic. Tidbits of lighthearted yet practical take-aways follow each encounter of mother-daughter drama.
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Smotherly Love - Debi Stack
Smotherly Love
I Know Where Your Buttons Are
and I’m Not Afraid to Push Them
Debi Stack
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SMOTHERLY LOVE: I Know Where Your Buttons Are and I’m Not Afraid to Push Them © 2007 by Debi Stack
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Stack, Debi.
Smotherly love : I know where your buttons are and I’m not afraid to push them / Debi Stack.
p. cm.
ISBN 10: 0-8499-0198-7
ISBN 13: 978-0-8499-0198-0
1. Motherhood—Religious aspects—Christianity. I. Title.
BV4529.18.S73 2006
248.8'431—dc22
2006037675
Printed in the United States of America
07 08 09 10 11 QW 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
To my mother, Beth Lawson:
a pianist, a poet, the world’s best cookie baker—
and a woman who still gets the giggles in church.
Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction: Join the Party!
She’s So Picky!
1. Almonds at Ten Paces
2. A Tents Situation
3. Don’t Burst My Bubble
She’s So Clueless!
4. Quest for a Dress
5. Working Mom Goes Postal
6. Shortchanged
7. Text Me
She’s So Stubborn!
8. Sleeping Beauty and the Beast
9. Arguing Tooth and Nail
10. Lost
She’s So Bossy!
11. Bathroom Blitz
12. A Hair Trigger
13. The Problem with Prom
She’s So Dramatic!
14. The Elaborator
15. Tiaras for Two
16. Caution: Hormones Ahead!
Conclusion: Last to Leave the Party
Acknowledgments
Thanks to Beth Lawson, my mother. You fueled my word-smithing from childhood with books, library trips, and magazine subscriptions. You paid for speech therapy when I was in grade school so I could speak with confidence, a car in high school so I could stay late for journalism, and my first typewriter in college so I could write everything from term papers to poetry. You’ve always been there so I could do this. You are awesome.
Thanks to Elizabeth, my daughter. You blow me away with your eloquence and editorial insight. Your writing in this book is fantastic and funny. I can hardly wait for your bylines to surpass mine. You are exceptional.
Thanks to Neal, my husband. Your love language of service—from shipping books to assisting at my speaking gigs to refilling my printer with ink cartridges—is a constant encouragement to me. You are extraordinary.
Thanks to Andrew, my son. Your amazing artwork and hilarious sense of humor give me endless joy. You deserve a T-shirt that says, The farce is strong in this one.
You are inimitable. (Go look it up.)
Thanks and thanks again to my book club, lunch bunch, and other supportive friends. You are priceless. (Though I wanted to mention you each by name, my editor said there were too many to include here. She also nixed my listing of all the books I read during the writing of Smotherly Love, the music I listened to, the meals I ate, etc. Check out the unabridged acknowledgments at www.debistack.com. Another reason to go online: stuff for daughters on how to deal with their picky, clueless, stubborn, bossy, and dramatic moms.)
Thanks to the steadfast pray-ers around the world who lifted me up and carried me through. You are blessed.
Thanks to the mothers and daughters who related their stories of smotherly love to me. Sharing your voices with women and girls around the world is bringing laughter to us all. You are delightful.
Introduction
Join the Party!
No one can push your buttons quite like your mother can.
After all, she’s the one who installed them.
—Anonymous
Welcome to the world of mother-daughter drama. As every girl knows, conflict between mothers and daughters is as old as dirt and almost as fun.
So if you tell me that you and your mother (or your daughter) never butted heads, locked horns, or argued, I will be forced to accuse you of being in denial.
But, Debi,
you may say, I’m not in denial.
Yes, you are.
No, I’m not.
Yes, you are.
No . . . I’m not!
Yes, you are. And apparently you also have an anger problem.
NO, I DON’T!
Oh, that sooo proves it.
We’ve all had conversations like this with our mothers or daughters. Back and forth we go, debating until our blood boils. The topic may be curfews, hemlines, or something of true life-or-death importance like the merits of a three-quart saucepan.
Why do we do this? Psychologists may postulate about power struggles, but coffee-cup wisdom says it all comes down to love. It’s simple. It’s complex. It’s emotional. It’s a choice. It’s gone. It never really left.
Smotherly Love is all of that. It’s the poignant mingling of pride and loss in a mom’s heart every time her baby girl reaches another milestone. It’s the sense of urgency to pour every bit of maternal wisdom into her daughter before she leaves the nest. It’s