How the Queen Can Make You Happy
By Mary Killen
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A witty and passionately argued essay calling for a return to good manners, using the Queen (the mother of all Brits) as the ultimate example. Mary Killen is an expert on manners and social etiquette, and her humorous advice column in the Spectator provides original solutions to the problems of modern life. In a world currently ruled by reality TV, over-sharing through social media, and an increasingly fractious and fractured public space, we could all do with a lesson or two in from Her Royal Highness. Examining such under-rated virtues as discretion, politeness and kindness, My Queen is a humorous celebration of long-held British values in an age where discretion is not generally the better part of value. Never mind the curtsey, where's the courtesy?
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How the Queen Can Make You Happy - Mary Killen
Compartmentalizing
‘Man was made for joy and woe’, observed William Blake, adding words to the effect that, once we accept that’s the nature of being alive and stop taking the setbacks personally, ‘then through life we safely go’. Betty Parsons, the late childbirth expert and fountain of wisdom, agreed when she said, ‘Life is a jigsaw’, and that, ‘At the end of it, you look back and see that you cannot separate the dark pieces from the light – they go together.’
Mrs Parsons is known to have been integral to royal pregnancies, including the Queen’s with Prince Edward. She never divulged a detail, but the royal patronage assumes an accordance with the 20,000 other women who attended Betty Parsons’ London clinic between 1963 and 1986, and who believed that she was far more than a ‘birth guru’. In fact her words had a resonance of truth to the extent that most of Betty’s ‘girls’ report that, even now, they continue to hear her voice telling them what to do.
At Betty’s ninetieth birthday party at Brooks’s Club, St James’s, in 2005, women she had not seen for decades swarmed in to pay tribute and lined up to tell her ‘what you taught me for childbirth was so helpful, but what you taught me for life was invaluable.’ One of the nuggets of wisdom our Queen would have learnt from Mrs Parsons is, ‘Plan for tomorrow, but live in today’. In other words, there is no use ‘catastrophizing’ about what disasters may lie in store. Disasters are part of life – but so are enjoyments. Enjoy.
The Queen could be in mourning every day of her life. For over 86 years she has had social access to top-of-the-range human specimens from all points of the globe, and these crème de la crème must die off at the rate of about five a day. Imagine having to cope with serially losing people of the standard of Sir Winston Churchill and Ted Hughes, om, the Poet Laureate. But as Churchill himself pronounced, ‘If you are going through hell, keep going.’ On the afternoon of the death of her sister, Princess Margaret, the Queen was visiting Great Ormond Street Hospital for Children to celebrate its 150th anniversary. She was clad in black but smiling.
How does she do it? She compartmentalizes. Her philosophy seems to be, there may be trouble ahead and behind but, at this precise moment, I am enjoying doing something useful and cheering people up so I will concentrate on that.
Clearly, she plans for tomorrow but lives in today.
Moving constantly between houses and palaces helps to inculcate compartmentalizing, not only of the different aspects of life but also of the people in it. If a guest is particularly tiresome, they won’t be there for long – and neither will you. If they are fabulous, like Sir David Attenborough, anyone would make the most of every second. Of course we can’t all move constantly between palaces but we can get away from ourselves by going to stay with friends. What blessed relief to get away from the physical objects that remind us of our problems and undone chores. By going away, we too can learn to compartmentalize. Distance lends enchantment and perspective and, no matter how humble your hovel, you can play your part in the Big Society by inviting people to stay with you. Let them get away from themselves.
Your own premises need not be four star. It is widely observed that, unless there is a food-poisoning risk, few people mind eating or sleeping in chaotic houses owned by their friends. On the contrary, they almost prefer a friend’s house to offer inferior standards of comfort to their own. They can then gain a warm glow of superiority as they count the blessings