The Transcending Divorce Journal: Exploring the Ten Essential Touchstones
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An aide for the challenging emotional process that follows a divorce, this companion journal to Transcending Divorce explores the 10 crucial touchstones for finding hope and healing the mourning heart, including dispelling misconceptions about divorce, seeking reconciliation, and appreciating the transformation. Highlights from the companion book are provided throughout as well as corresponding questions regarding the grief journey. Private and independent, this compassionate journal provides ample space to unburden the heart and soul.
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The Transcending Divorce Journal - Alan D. Wolfelt
WOLFELT
Introduction
Writing is the most profound way of codifying your thoughts, the best way of learning from yourself who you are and what you believe.
Warren Bennis
I have written this journal as a companion to my book Transcending Divorce: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart. My hope is that this guided journal can be a safe place
for you to explore your experience with the ten essential Touchstones.
As you tell your story, your words will guide you on your unique journey through the wilderness of your divorce. I hope this resource will become your road map and guide you as you journal your way to what I’ll define as integration of your divorce into your life.
The Value of Journaling
Journaling has proven to be an excellent way for many people to do the work of mourning when their marriage ends. Journaling is private and independent, yet it’s still a great way to put things outside of yourself. I’ve been a counselor for a long time now (over 25 years!), and I’ve found that while it may not be for everyone, the process of putting the written word on paper is profoundly helpful to many people who experience a major life transition.
Journaling…
helps you clarify your thoughts and feelings.
creates a safe place of solace, a place where you can fully express yourself no matter what you are experiencing.
clears out your naturally overwhelmed mind and full heart.
helps you explore the pain you are experiencing and transforms it into something survivable.
creates an opportunity to acknowledge the balance in your life between the sad and the happy.
strengthens your awareness of how your divorce journey changes overtime.
maps out how you are changed and transformed by this experience.
allows you to tap into the Touchstones of the book
Transcending Divorce, the companion to this journal.
As one author observed, When you write, you lay out a line of words. The line of words is a miner’s pick, a woodcarver’s gouge, a surgeon’s probe. You wield it, and it digs a path you follow.
To this I would add that a divorce journal can provide a lifeline when you are in the midst of the wilderness. As you learn, remember, and discover new things, you can and will integrate this divorce into your life and go on to find meaning and purpose in your future.
Journaling Suggestions
First, please remember that there is no correct
or right
way to use this journal. You will not be graded on how well you complete the pages that follow. Actually, I would suggest that you take your time. If you are using this resource as part of a support group experience, your leaders will probably encourage you to take your time as you complete this journal over several months.
If you are reading Transcending Divorce and completing this journal on your own, I suggest you find a trusted person who can be available to you if and when you want to talk out any thoughts and feelings the journal brings you. When I say trusted person, I mean someone who accepts you where you are right now in your divorce journey. This person shouldn’t judge you or think it’s his or her job to get you over
your divorce quickly.
You will notice that in addition to the guided journal sections, in which you are asked to answer specific questions about your divorce experience, there are a number of Free Write
pages. This is a dedicated space for you to freely write about whatever is on your heart as you are completing the journal. At the end of the journal, you will also find