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The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
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In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life.
During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question "How do I respond to expectations?" we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.
More than 600,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change.
The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought...
· People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself.
· How can I help someone to follow good advice?
· People say I ask too many questions.
· How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask—or who keeps telling me what to do?
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question "How do I respond to expectations?" we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.
More than 600,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change.
The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought...
· People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself.
· How can I help someone to follow good advice?
· People say I ask too many questions.
· How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask—or who keeps telling me what to do?
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
Editor's Note
Exceed your expectations…
When you’re asked to do a task, what’s your gut reaction? Do you oblige, or do you question why you should do it? Understanding how you — and your coworkers, spouse, and friends — respond to expectations will help you carry through on more projects, both professional and personal.
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Reviews for The Four Tendencies
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5If you enjoy learning about various types of personality profiling (MBTI, etc.), then you'll find this book to be a unique offering. Rubin does a good job in explaining the theory behind the four tendencies, and you'll have fun seeing how you and your family and friends' types interact.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Yes it's a bit simplistic and reductive but it also is quite logical. Some people are more motivated by outer accountability and some by inner and some are a mix and others reject your reality.I found it somewhat fascinating and the biggest thing to come out of it is that people think differently and work differently and you have to accomodate that in work and home.And for the record I'm an Obliger
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This is not a book to sit and read, but after looking through it, it is one that I will keep on my shelf. It is packed with information. Rubin has developed a personality profile based on how people respond to inner and outer expectations, and how to most effectively interact with all the different types. She goes into how people can misunderstand themselves and others, how different tendencies interact, and how we can harness our own and others' tendencies to best effect. Recommended.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Interesting seeing it all put together, but as I follow Gretchen on blog, facebook etc., not much was new to me. I find her first 3 books even more useful. One thing I really want to do is exercise more regularly, and I no longer live near aerobics classes which used to be my exercise. As an Obliger I need 'accountability' ... but I can't figure out how to achieve that ...
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Interesting, but not much helpful advice for a Rebel like me. Hard to avoid the implication that Upholders are the "best" type and the rest of us are much more limited.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5I've read Gretchen's other books and I listen to her podcast, so I think I'm too familiar with the four tendencies to get a lot out of this book. Still worth the read though.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Originally, I only gave the book three stars. But parts of it have stuck with me, and it turned out to be a life-changer. So I've revised my rating.The life changing part was realizing how much I need external accountability. (In Rubin's system, I'm apparently an Obliger.)It's always been hard to make myself exercise. However, I've learned that I will get myself to scheduled classes. I'm currently going to three classes a week. I'm also going to regularly scheduled weight loss support meetings. It's a big help knowing that needing this kind of external accountability is pretty common. I feel like I don't need to be embarrassed about it anymore.Thanks, Gretchen!
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Interesting. I’ve done several personality type quizzes and, while much of the info I already knew, there were a few new insights.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Jam-packed with practical and helpful info. Love how non-judgemental this framework is.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This has become the tool for me in learning how to beat communicate expectations from my staff and receive the results that I want.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5It's a very useful framework! Gretchen offers lots of detailed information and clarification without judgment. The stories and examples are so relatable. I loved it, as I loved the Happiness project. Both have been so helpful to me! Thanks, Gretchen!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Awesome, fun, life-changing book. Helpful in terms of self-discovery and understanding the people around you.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Looks book provides a framework for identifying your own tendencies in communication and thought process, along with identifying and working with the tendencies of love ones, friends, and coworkers. Light on research and academia, which is a good thing, and heavy on personal anecdotes and stories from readers. I highly recommend it!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5It made me think differently at people around me and myself. An amazing book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Brilliant. 100% Rebel and looking forward to learning how navigate more powerfully and effectively.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Interesting. I’ve done several personality type quizzes and, while much of the info I already knew, there were a few new insights.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I'm usually quite annoyed by self help books because they're clearly written by people who are good at following to-do lists and for people who are clearly good at doing what their told. But, this book is very different and helped to explain so, so much about myself and my life. It turns out I'm a "rebel" - I do things my way, I never follow through on resolutions, and push back when people try to push me in whatever direction they want me to go in. I think I always knew this (I've known that I tend to push back since my late teens), but I didn't understand to nuances of my personality and often assumed that I was just too lazy to follow through on to-do lists or resolutions. But, Rubin's book put a lot of things in perspective, both about myself and other people in my life.
This is a relatively quick and easy read. It's also very interesting and insightful. I kind of want to tell everyone that they need to read it, but I'm not the boss of you ;) - Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5It's a fun read but not informative relative to it's length.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very Interesting and inciteful. will help me with teaching my kids.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Gretchen’s deep study of the Four Tendencies is spot-on, yet she is careful to explain that our tendency does not box us in. This framework is a valuable tool to help us understand how to work with ourselves and others.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I’m a huge fan of Gretchen’s books and her podcast with her sister (“Happier”), and this book is another fun and informative read. You’ll understand yourself better and others better as you learn about the tendencies, and you’ll feel more in control of your life and more effective in your relationships as a result.