The gap between our expectation of where we think we should be at 30 & where we actually are can lead us to a pretty dark place. Today - we’re going to tear down those expectations and get you back on your path, not the one you think you should be on, regardless of which milestone birthday is filling you with dread. My guest today is Kate Berski - she’s on a crusade to tackle 30-phobia after feeling the same wobble in her late twenties but going on to find that her best years were ahead of her - fulfilling relationships, growing a successful business that she went onto sell for $150 million and finding true life satisfaction. This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠. CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Kate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & TikTok. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com PODCASTSThe Science Behind Your Weirdest Thoughts TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:02:08 - 30 is not the deadline, it’s the start line 00:07:30 - Why is 30 often perceived to be the deadline? 00:11:00 - The truth about 30 00:13:00 - The changing nature of careers   00:14:28 - How to break free of 30-phobia 00:21:27 - How to back yourself in choosing what you truly want to do 00:23:50 - The expectation gap 00:27:51 - Being mindful of self talk 00:29:57 - The ‘should’ test 00:35:00 - The ‘yes and’, ‘yes but’ strategy 00:37:50 - Avoiding burnout 00:40:04 - Getting great at taking rejection 00:44:11 - The arrival fallacy 00:48:00 - The one thing to remember