#428 Jayson Gaddis Tuesday, September 5th, 2023 TITLE: Being Relational(with Jayson Gaddis)   The most effective way to de-stress a kid when upset is through another person to co-regulate into eye contact.   Relationship expert and coach Jayson Gaddis(@JaysonGaddis) advocates for us to remember that life is relational. Shining his talents as an artist, author, podcaster, speaker, and executive coach, he developed The Relationship School, where he trained over 200 coaches in 11 countries. His book Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationship was voted editor's choice, best nonfiction, and best leadership and business book in 2021 on Amazon.    Jayson Gaddis(@JaysonGaddis) believes in being relational with self and others, which ignites openhearted living. Jayson's an artist, author, and executive coach. As CEO and founder of The Relationship School, he is passionate and prepared to train and support anyone ready to break unhealthy patterns and liberate themselves in relationships. He has trained over 200 coaches in 11 countries as a relationship expert. He's got a fantastic book called Getting to Zero: How to Work through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationship.    “Depending on what you want, right, like a guy has to look, if I want good sex, if I want a heart connection, if I want my kids to trust me, if I want to be a trustworthy leader, most of us are more and more drawn to heart-centered leaders.”   - Jayson Gaddis   Key Takeaways:   Head, Heart, & Hands: Jnana, Bhakti, and Karma are the paths of wisdom, devotion, and action/service. Many people pick just one to live their lives and evolve by. When striving for integration and integral living, having all three areas developed and aligned is where balance is found.    Emotional Health: Being Metally clear and focused is directly tied to emotional awareness and resiliency. Heart-centered leaders are needed and desired in the new marketplace, home, and communities. Due to society's conditioning, taking the reigns of your emotional landscape is essential. At this tipping point on the planet, it is vital to acknowledge the emotional numbing that we have been conditioned to, to connect with your own heart intelligence, and to allow yourself to be open and vulnerable to connect with others in authenticity and love.   Being vs. Doing in Relationships: Presence in a relationship is not a box to be checked. People can smell the bullshit from a mile away. To participate in conversations and authentically listen, the first step is empathy. The second step is recognizing that negative attitudes and lack of presence potentially negatively impact people. If you want to be successful in leadership, as a relational leader, or in your home, you must be sensitive to impact and consider other people's feelings as you walk through the world.    Slowing Down to Connect: Connection takes slowing down from the hustle and opening your heart in the moment with another person. To make contact with another person, put away your devices, look in their eyes, and take a breath. Sponsors and Promotions:   Caldera + Lab! - As you age, you might notice more Fine Lines, Wrinkles, and signs of Aging. It’s time to take control of your skin with Caldera + Lab! Caldera + Lab creates high-performance men’s skincare products by combining pharmaceutical-grade science, with nature’s purest and most potent ingredients. Get 20% OFF with code [DIVINE] at www.calderalab.com and make unforgettable first impressions that lead to the charming words, “You look younger!”.   Lectric eBikes   Make every day feel like an endless summer vacation with an XP 3.0 from Lectric!   Visit LECTRIC E BIKES DOT COM to learn more and explore the epic models Lectric has to offer.    Links for Mauro Guillén:   Instagram LinkedIn The Relationship School