On this episode, Amy speaks with author, Lisa Qualls, who is an adoptive mom and shares her experience parenting children with trauma and the resulting blocked care. She talks about the challenges they faced and how their family has changed because of their children's needs. Lisa also discusses her book, The Connected Parent, which provides practical and honest tools for parenting children with trauma, and emphasizes the importance of seeking support from trauma-informed counselors. Lisa believes we can reclaim compassion by releasing the idea that we can completely heal our children. Join us for an insightful and eye-opening conversation. Ep.134; June 27, 2023Key Moments:[07:07] Admitting you need help with traumatized kids [11:45] Grieving old family dynamics [15:30] Blocked care: stress-induced defense mechanism in parenting [19:44] Compassion for self and child's trauma. [27:24] Reclaim Compassion: regulate your nervous system, not gritting your teeth Resources:The Connected Child The Connected ParentThe Whole Brain Child Reclaim CompassionThe Adoption ConnectionIG@lisacqualls If you enjoyed the show:Order our book: The Other Side of SpecialSubscribe to our newsletter on the Take Heart WebsiteGet our free resource on finding Gratitude, Peace, and HopeReview and like us on Apple Podcasts Share us with others from wherever you listen to podcastsFollow us on Instagram @takeheartspecialmomsFind Amy at www.amyjbrown.com/  or on Instagram @amyjbrown_writerFind Carrie at www.carriemholt.com or on Instagram @carriemholtFind Sara at www.saraclime.com or on Instagram @saraclimeSupport the show