We know seeking after perfection is not good for our mental health.  But we really want that family with those adult kids to be a little more perfect.  That image of what we thought life with adult children would look like is often crushed by their behavior and our perspective of something has gone wrong.  But the messy parts of life are not bad; they are not only just the parts of life that didn't work out but also they are the parts of life that offer us wisdom.....our lesson in life.  Did you know that your parenting has nothing to do with your child's behavior as adults?    There are no negative emotions; we just have emotions.  If we listen to them and validate them, they will serve us.  Example:  When Meg was feeling anger, she figured out that she was really just feeling resentment.  Resentment was trying to tell her to stand up for herself.  She gives so many helpful ways to process these feelings that we feel are harmful to our emotional well-being but how to use them to help us feel self-assured and act like the person who self-validates themselves.Here is where to find out more about Meg Tilton:Website:  Megtiltoncoaching.comIG and FB:   megtiltoncoachingemail:  meg@megtiltoncoaching.comIf you enjoyed this podcast and want to start finding out how to work with me, go to the following resources:Go to bonnielyman.com to:*Book a free, 60 minute consult with me*Sign up for my weekly email*Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children.*Find me on IG or FB bonnielymancoaching*email:  Bonnie@bonnielyman.comHave you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a call with me to find out how coaching can help you. I offer an 8 week coaching program where I help you practice seeing things from a perspective and thinking new thoughts that result in you living a more peaceful life with your adult children. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.