Regardless of their age or how long they have been together, couples experience tension, arguments, or discussions at some point. The outcome of those moments and whether they turn that moment into a huge fight or a friendly conversation depends entirely on how they respond to their spouse's comments. If they feel attacked, they'll react aggressively. If they put their senses together and acknowledge how much they love the person in front of them, they will respond differently.There are several techniques really easy to implement in our lives to prevent us from getting into unproductive arguments, and our guest, Alisa Goodwin Snell, visits us to teach us exactly how to do it.Alisa Goodwin Snell is the Nation's #1 Dating and Relationships Strategist. She is an author, podcast host, and the creator of the Lasting Love Academy, a platform that supports singles and couples to find the formula for loving and lasting relationships.Throughout our conversation, we delve into Alisa's personal story and why she decided to help people find their way into healthy and lasting relationships. We talked about the three red flags all of us should be aware of when we meet someone new, how to train ourselves to detect those red flags in a short time, and the ESP and the ARE model. We also dive into the difference between being a master or a disaster communicator, how to avoid falling into our ego's traps, and preventing unnecessary arguments with our spouses.Tune in to Episode 322 and learn everything you need to know about the best way to solve issues without getting into an argument with your significant other.Some Questions I Ask: Tell us about your background, including any turning points in your life that led you to where you're at today (3:33)You talked about ESP; could you explain what it means? (7:28)What are the four horsemen of disasters of communication? (24:35)In This Episode, You Will Learn: How to recognize almost immediately any of the three red flags (7:38)How we can get into secure attachment with our couple using the ARE model (10:11)The difference between being a master or a disaster of communication (15:05)What are the self-soothing techniques, and how can they assist us in preventing arguments and discussions (22:52)Resources: Lasting Love Academy websiteLasting Love PodcastBook: Sue Johnson - Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of LoveAlisa Goodwin Snell's booksConnect with Alisa: LinkedInFacebookInstagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.