In the workplace, bullying, including manipulation and gaslighting tactics can masquerade in unrealistic expectations, encouragement to play it safe and criticism of leadership skills. Big facts to help you recognize when it's happening.

Constructive criticism and concerns about readiness will always come with offers of support. If someone makes you doubt your ability so you won't set ambitious goals, question their motivation not your abilities.
Be wary of unrealistic expectations. Doing something you don't feel good about to please someone else makes you responsible for their happiness. Practice using healthy boundaries to avoid codependent exchanges.
Leaders don't try to bring everyone along. Be a mama duck and head down your path. Those that are inspired will follow.
Go where your wanted, not where you're needed. Trying to convince someone who isn't ready to make a change (even if they would benefit) is manipulation.
Disagreement is healthy. Never accept being made wrong for making a decision someone else doesn't like. Be respectful of others decisions then agree to disagree if you can't find common ground.
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