Are you building healthy boundaries, or putting up restricting walls? With the former taking center stage amongst the collective, it’s an important question to ask. This episode was inspired by the journey Krista’s been on to have deep and real intimacy in her relationships – a growing desire to untangle defensive mechanisms that create negative static between people and move toward a more heart-centered exchange with the people in and around her life. The truth is that some forms of boundary building have evolved into a method for gaslighting ourselves, a means to create a cozy victimhood to hide away in, an excuse for closing ourselves off from things, situations, or people that may expand us.We also talk about:A different angle of boundary building What boundaries are meant to beHonesty and open heartednessBuilding walls makes a victim How to receive a boundaryThe need for controlWall building instance from Krista’s lifeGood friction between two peopleBad examples from The HillsLeaning into love and connectednessResources:Read: Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie HendricksJoin our community:almost30.com/membershipfacebook.com/Almost30podcast/groupsPodcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer. Find more to love at almost30.com!Almost 30 is edited by Crate Media.Mentioned in this episode:BetterHelp | This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try and get on your way to being your best self. Visit BetterHelp.com/ALMOST30 today to get 10% off your first month.HigherDOSE | Use code 'ALMOST30' for 15% off sitewide at higherdose.com.High Frequency Flash Sale | Get 30% off our course and workshop bundles with code 'FREQUENCY30' at almost30.com/sale.Match | Match believes the most important relationship is with yourself. So, in a world where you can choose to do anything – or anyone – choose you first. Download the Match app today.Nike | Nike Go are the perfect pair of leggings with infinite lock fabric, extra wide waistband, and six pockets for all your gear. Get yours today at Nike.com.Athletic Greens | Visit athleticgreens.com/almost30 to take control of your health.