Self-sabotage
Who doesn't know it, the stupid feeling when you stand in your own way. Sometimes this even happens intentionally, self-sabotage happens more often than we think, just when thoughts make your life harder.
For example, when we say YES but think NO, we do everything possible to sabotage the YES, even at the risk of harming ourselves.
Such behavior is harmful, and not really appropriate for the Buddha's followers, since the great teacher taught us to look behind the scenes.
But whoever thinks about such behavior comes to the conclusion that he should better say NO right away, that is, he should not tell a lie, because the result is already clear, the thinking individual must be aware of it as a consequence.
To stand in our own way is normal, not all our decisions can be right, but the conscious self-sabotage, that is a completely different kind of quality in our emotional actions. Emotions pull us in different directions, it is not always easy to recognize the right way.
And the truth also requires a good portion of courage, which is why we often say YES, but mean NO. When was the last time you dared to tell an annoying person what you think, not to let them get away with their nonsense? We don't want to say unpleasant things!
But if you have the courage to talk about annoying problems, you will probably belong to the group of more successful people, because in order to assert yourself, you have to get to the point.
What do I want, what do I need? These are the kind of questions that awakened people no longer ask themselves, but on the way to "enlightenment" you will find the normal stumbling blocks of interpersonal relationships.
Especially the "feel-good Buddhists" don't want to hurt their environment, just make things worse (in the long run) with technology. For my part, I always address the things that bother me right away, I don't leave anything in the room simply out of convenience, not because I want to assert myself, but because I want to be such a role model for my environment, honest but uncomfortable, not ducking away, but also professing the philosophy of the great teacher.
Many people suffer unnecessarily because they do not have the strength to do the right thing at the right moment. Here I would like to refer to the noble eightfold path of the Buddha, which begins with: Right cognition, right mind, then right speech and right action.
The way is also here the goal!

Wise men know: Desire does not satisfy even golden rain
- Buddha - "The Enlightened One" - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480

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