In the last podcast you could listen to the first episode of self-love, today it continues.
To love oneself, "one" must continue to understand oneself well, to make an effort to get to the true core, to look behind the self-chosen role. The great teacher spoke of the realities behind the perceived reality, because we humans are rarely ready to part with our illusions.
Why do other people's stinginess, promiscuity, or drug use bother me? Why do other "bad" qualities not bother me, while some habits "freak me out"?
Why do I "love" cats, or why do I "hate" dogs? How do my filters come about? Why do I sometimes get along with the attitudes of fellow human beings, but sometimes not at all? What do I like about myself, what do I dislike? Who am I? Where do I come from? Where will I go? Questions over questions.
The next thing I recommend is a self-mantra to get through difficult situations, to be able to "hold on" to something. Readers of my texts know that according to Buddha (in this life) we probably don't carry any guilt, because our karma might have already been acquired in previous lives, life comes anyway as it is supposed to come. So there is also no reason not to love yourself. So say the following sentence to yourself in exceptional situations: "I am good just the way I am."
If you fall into doubt then first take a deep breath, I recommend breathing meditation to come to some peace, because only in peace lies strength.
Further, everything negative is also positive in some way (my father used to say, "There is nothing negative that doesn't have something positive about it), so what qualities do you have? Write yourself a list of the important traits, and evaluate them. What is useful, what can go? What do I find positive, what not? What consequences do my advantages and disadvantages have on my surroundings, how do they affect the people closest to me?
What you find unpleasant about yourself, that other people might take as a good quality, what changes if you change your perspective?
No matter what, the Buddha's philosophy can guide even those followers who are not striving for "enlightenment," who are "just" practicing a kind of feel-good Buddhism. In such a case, one of the first steps could be to learn to love oneself, why not, by the way?
Wouldn't it be a "good" prospect if you could at least accept yourself?
The way is the goal!

What is impermanent is not worthy of love, is not worthy of joy, is not worthy of inclination
- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before the year zero

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