In today's episode we discuss how feelings of low self worth and self esteem may influence your partner choice and your relationships. Often people are attracted to partners who seem confident or have high levels of self esteem as a way of compensation for your own feelings of not being worthy. You may choose a confident partner in order to have higher self esteem by proxy. When your self esteem is low you are likely to experience deep seated feelings of shame. Often these feeling stop people from looking for a partner in the first place.While relationships can offer a healing experience where you learn that you are loveable, feelings of low self worth or self esteem are usually deep rooted and may resurface again and again. Thinking and feeling  that you are not good enough is usually learned through earlier experiences. These beliefs need to be brought into awareness, reviewed and can then be challenged and changed.The Relationship Maze courses:What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship.Related podcast:Social Anxiety - what you experience and how to address it