DJ Fat Tony has spent time actively learning what love is after being in abusive relationships and being an addict. Having done trauma therapy, he’s not only begun to understand what healthy relationships with others look like, but also how it feels to love himself, to have self-worth and self-compassion, and not be forced into silence by shame.In this chat, Fearne and Tony talk about the power and freedom that comes with saying out loud that you need help, as well as how much of a challenge it is to unlearn and re-learn behaviours.Tony’s memoir, I Don’t Take Requests, is available now at all major book retailers.CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank chat about child abuse and suicide, so do take care while listening.  Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.