People don't wake up and say, "I'm going to have an affair." People usually “slide” into affairs. They think that crossing a boundary will feel like an electrical fence (“Ouch! I don’t ever want to do that again!), but it doesn’t — it often feels good.
 
It can feel liberating because it usually involves feeling heard and understood by someone. It doesn’t even seem like a problem at first.
 
In today’s episode, Lori Pearring, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, walks us through very practical steps for affair-proofing your marriage. She also guides us through some affair-recovery principles that she uses in session with couples.
 
 
Here are the books that Lori references in the interview:

Torn Asunder by Dave Carder


Torn Asunder Workbook


Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for Connection by Sue Johnson


Created for Connection by Sue Johnson + Kenneth Sanderfer



 
Here's a link to Lori’s website.
 
Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com
 
P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode:

FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g



SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA



REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh




 
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