Studies show that how often you argue actually doesn't matter when it comes to your satisfaction in the marriage; how those arguments are handled, however, will definitely be a determining factor in predicting not only satisfaction, but divorce rates and other important dynamics in your marriage.


So how do we argue well? Today on the podcast, Matthew and Sabrina Schlesinger share five rules for arguing effectively:



Seek first to understand.


Call a grown-up time-out.


Don't go to bed angry.


Respect their process.


Become a safe place.


One of our favorite things that Matthew and Sabrina said during this episode was, "Have a good customer service desk for your spouse." You may not always agree, but seek to understand. This will definitely result in a much happier customer.


Matthew + Sabrina gave a couple of book recommendations:



The Naked Marriage by Dave and Ashley Willis



Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It by Jerry Jenkins 



You can contact Matthew and Sabrina at www.mommentor.org or hello@mommentor.org (or on IG: @sabrinaschlesinger). Their two podcasts are "Marriage on the Go" and "Parenting on the Go"
 
Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com
 
P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode:

FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g



SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA



REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh
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