You are about to tune into what is probably the most meaningful conversation I’ve had on this show. My guest is rock-star shaman Alyson Charlies, who is revolutionizing the way ancient wisdom merges with the world we live in today, uniting both the wisdoms of Earth-Sky for modern times and the worlds of consciousness and media. Alyson also happens to be my best friend, my beloved partner, and my favorite person in the entire world. This episode starts as a pretty traditional interview about Alyson’s journey of suffering to surrender to service and what she’s doing today to bring meditation and sacred ritual to the mainstream — her Shamanic Spirit School Rock-Star REBOOT is an incredible tool for anyone who wants to reboot and upgrade their human experience, by the way, and you can use code ‘lifestylist’ for 10% off.  But it takes a turn into a conversation about the nature and origin of our relationship, detailing the experiences that led to our eventual union. This is your opportunity to be a fly on the wall for a no-holds-barred conversation between me and the person I’m in the most beautiful relationship of my life with. So, I’m really opening the kimono today, sharing the most intimate conversation I’ve ever committed to (virtual) tape. We had second thoughts and almost didn’t pull the trigger on this one, but ultimately decided that this is the most honest and authentic way we can share ourselves with the world. Our hope is that this episode provides at least one person with the tools and inspiration they need to improve the relationship they’re in or find a partner they’re aligned with. P.S. You can also join the two of us for another conversation this Friday (April 24, 2020) at 11:30 AM PST, where we will be presenting a live stream with Frequency Mind titled “Love And Shamanic Medicine: Birthing Your Greatest Life From The Void” and leading you all on a guided meditation and shamanic journey.   11:50 — What has happened since Alyson’s first appearance on the show in episode 111 Going from “brother” to “boyfriend” The moment we first connected, the sparks that flew, and how we chose to ignore them Our first “I love you” My experience as a romantic late bloomer Social media life Vs. real life   23:00 — The New Paradigm + Alyson’s path The new paradigm will be life from the heart The two different styles of leadership Modeling the journey to awakening Why I like to show my ass… figuratively speaking Being a teacher doesn’t mean you know any better How the rebel in Alyson has expressed itself in unhealthy ways   32:47 — Do you ever find yourself focusing too much on the things you still have to work on? Celebrating the hard work you’ve put in The best relationship advice that Luke ever received, although he didn’t realize it until many years later Why you should be wary of spiritual bypassing Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins Honoring resistance   47:46 — Working through and speaking about growth with a partner Observing your feelings with a partner No one else can make you feel anything The layers of healing Working through my relationship with dogs Coming together from a healed, whole place   01:06:25 — Thanking all the people who we were previously in a relationship with, all of our teachers Why Alyson took a long break from relationships and how she knew she was ready to explore again Five years of celibacy How Alyson learned how to have a healthy relationship by being alone The work of active listening The tools we apply to keep our hearts open What it was like the moment I broke out of “the friend zone” Our first date on New Year’s Eve at a Kundalini Yoga party What Alyson thought of our first kiss   01:40:10 — Plant medicines + Peyote Alyson’s experience with plant medicines  How Peyote was at the center of becoming an official couple The difference between plant medicines and recreational drugs Alyson’s shamanic traditions What Peyote tastes like Trusting my heart and intuition th