In this fun and enlightening episode, I interview Gaby and Raj, two powerful relationship coaches and teachers with a unique perspective on marriage, conflict and personal growth. They are committed to spreading one message—if you are struggling to have a sense of play, peace or passion in your relationship, it’s not your fault (relationships can be seriously challenging!). And they share how resolving conflict doesn’t have to be so serious or significant. I love how artfully they weave lightness, humor and play into their work with couples. SHOWNOTES What did one guest say at their engagement party that gave them a reality check? [4:50] How did Gaby and Raj get into relationship work? [5:36] One key distinction on how to view struggles in a relationship [8:15] The two things that define a fight [10:10] Three words that can transform a fight in an instant [13:35] Introverted man and extroverted woman [16:50] How to reframe the things you don’t like about your partner [20:03] Why we attract our opposite in a partner [24:16] Does the behavior define the person? [24:55] What role does community play in a marriage? [25:15] What to say to each other before each meal. [34:28] Different versions of fights [38:40]