Can we find a way for men to be BOTH Relational and Masculine?  It couldn't be a more important time for thoughtful, honest, and provocative discussion on what it means to be a man in today's culture.  Perel makes a case that men are both harmed by the existing power structures and perpetuate harm by the codes imposed on them by all of us. In 2018 there are many contentious ideas about masculinity and “the male code” including confusion by men about how to hold themselves out as safe and masculine during this time of #MeToo and Kavanaugh.