The Humor Habit: Rewire Your Brain to Stress Less, Laugh More, and Achieve More'er
By Paul Osincup and Jenn Lim
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Discover and embrace the untapped power of your sense of humor
In The Humor Habit: Rewire Your Brain to Stress Less, Laugh More, and Achieve More’er, veteran speaker, corporate trainer, and comedian Paul Osincup delivers a hilarious and effective new take on how to make yourself and your team more productive and resilient by focusing on the funny side of work and life. In the book, you’ll learn why humor isn’t an in-born quality you’re either born with or without. Instead, it’s a habit you can develop over time.
You’ll find 100 ways to have more fun at work, methods to improve your resilience in dealing with adversity, and an explanation of the author’s “LAFTER” model that shows you how to leverage levity at work. You’ll also discover:
- The latest insights from contemporary positive psychology combined with timeless comedic techniques that enhance your wellbeing
- Strategies to help you battle “chronic seriousness,” a condition affecting virtually every professional, tradesperson, consultant, employee, manager, and business leader in the working world
- Ways to boost your team members’ brainpower and productivity using humor
Perfect for managers, executives, team leads, directors, and other business leaders, The Humor Habit is the practical, hands-on guide to improved productivity that’s actually fun to read—and even more fun to implement.
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The Humor Habit - Paul Osincup
Table of Contents
Cover
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Foreword
Introduction
How to Use This Book
Notes
1 Combatting Chronic Seriousness
Stress: The Hidden Costs to Show Your Boss
Notes
2 Let's Geek Out on the Research! (Why Humor Helps)
Some Benefits of Humor
Notes
3 Improv(e) Your Mindset
Be Present
Listen. Like, Really Listen.
Notice Gifts
Say Yes, and …
Notes
4 Cultivate and Consume
Follow Funny
Have a Humor Homie
Take a Funny 15
Screening Your Screen Time
Learn to Laugh
Notes
5 Develop a Funny Focus
Three Funny Things Intervention
Humor Jar
Mirthful Mantra
From Seeing Funny to Being Funny …
Humorous Reappraisal
Guess the Punchline
Caption This
Hashtag Games
Notes
Bringing Humorto Work with L.A.F.T.E.R.
la-UGH-ter
Notes
6 Lead by Example
Confidence
Humility
Participation > Permission
Notes
7 Ask for Help
Punch It Up
Note
8 Fun over Funny
The Fundamentals of Fun
101 Ways to Have More Fun at Work
Notes
9 Tell Your Story
Job Descriptions and Interviews
Wynn L. White Consulting Engineers: Registered Engineer or Architect
Marketing and Social Media
Auto Responses, Chatbots, and Websites
At the Office
Ellie Mental Health: A Case Study in Making Humor a Part of Its Story
Notes
10 Earn It
Earn It by Building Trust
Meeting Deadlines > Writing Punchlines
Earn It by Creating Psychological Safety
Notes
11 Rituals
Daily Rituals
Weekly Rituals
Monthly Rituals
Annual Rituals
Other Times for Rituals
Notes
12 Take Your Pain and Play with It:
Humor Hacks
Notes
Conclusion
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Index
End User License Agreement
List of Illustrations
Chapter 1
FIGURE 1.1 Photo of me in sixth grade. Mom, I think I'm gonna need a suit.
...
FIGURE 1.2 The stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue danger zone—"Literall...
Chapter 2
FIGURE 2.1 Rx for a Laughie.
(Adapted from [28])
FIGURE 2.2 Rx for a deep belly laugh. (Adapted from)[29]
FIGURE 2.3 Rx for stand-up comedy to cope with trauma. (Adapted from [³⁰])
FIGURE 2.4 Rx for improv comedy to ease anxiety. (Adapted from [³¹,])32
Chapter 3
FIGURE 3.1 Twitter (now X) post of framed wall art. Turning their son's mist...
Chapter 6
FIGURE 6.1 Using humor in leadership.
FIGURE 6.2 My own leadership award for "Excellence in Leadership, Supervisio...
FIGURE 6.3 Four Ps Formula.
Chapter 8
FIGURE 8.1 The Fundamentals of Fun cheat sheet.
Chapter 9
FIGURE 9.1 Ellie billboard. (Credit: Erin Pash)
Chapter 10
FIGURE 10.1 Using humor positively.
FIGURE 10.2 Humor trust continuum.
FIGURE 10.3 What to do if your humor harms?
Chapter 11
FIGURE 11.1 Rituals.
Chapter 12
FIGURE 12.1 Amy O meme. (Credit: Marilyn Oestreicher)
FIGURE 12.2 Casey's head wraps. (Credit: Casey Shank)
Foreword by Jenn Lim
Paul Osincup
the humor habit
Rewire Your Brain to Stress Less, Laugh More, and Achieve More’er
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Title: The humor habit : rewire your brain to stress less, laugh more, and achieve more’er / Paul Osincup.
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They say behind every good man is a great woman.
For me, it took four.
For my mom, Debby; my sisters, Ali and Laurie;
and for my incredible wife, Kelly.
Foreword
When Paul first asked me to write the foreword for his book I thought, Oh, great. Do I have to be funny?
Then I realized that in the world of comedy, a headliner wouldn't want the opener to be funnier than them, so I'm happy to temporarily shelve my inner comedienne—you know, for Paul's sake.
The next thought I had was to what do I owe this honor of writing the foreword to The Humor Habit, especially at a time we could all use a bit (if not A LOT) more joy and laughter. Since the world got 2020'd, it's taken some time for us to adapt. And as we've consistently seen in Gallup's reports of burnout and stress in the global workforce, I think it's safe to say that most of us still have yet to fully exhale with relief.
With all this talk of doom and gloom, you might be surprised that I've been in the happiness space for 15 years now. I helped launch a bestselling book titled Delivering Happiness and became the CEO of the culture consulting company of the same name. We've worked with hundreds of organizations around the world—from Fortune 500s and hospitals, to startups and the government of Dubai—to instill sustainable happiness in its processes and employees. Years later, I launched another bestseller, Beyond Happiness, a book and company that's prioritizing how we can all be more human at work (and therefore, life).
I share all of this in the context of how The Humor Habit couldn't be timelier and more relevant to our 2024 A.C. (After Covid) world. In my work with individuals and organizations over the past several years, I've observed that people might not want to be happy all the time (and let's be real, it's impossible to be), but no one denies wanting to be true to their authentic selves and having a desire to grow.
To me, The Humor Habit hits both those notes in a way that captures what Paul's purpose is—in this book, in his keynotes and comedy, in his every interaction with people he touches—to positively impact others with practical tools, knowledge, and inspiration. But the best part about his approach is that he does it with his superpower of sprinkling just the right amount of humor in any given situation, with tact and integrity. And it helps that he's damn funny too.
I first met Paul in 2019 at a retreat to become a Delivering Happiness certified coach. It was a stellar, experienced group of coaches joining the team, and it made an impression that Paul was selected by the group as the Culture Champion
who best exemplified the team and organizational values.
Over the years, I've been impressed and entertained working with Paul and seeing him in action. Doing anything with him, whether it was in a meeting or podcast, was always a little more fun. Being known as the company's funny guy
might seem to be a tall order to live up to, but Paul never disappointed.
Yet, something struck me most when the world got 2020'd with the pandemic, social unrest, climate change, and the umpteen other things that turned our lives inside out. Even when times were rough, when humor might be the last thing on people's minds, there was one thing that stood out in how he navigated it … with discernment.
During COVID, Paul reminded our team of coach|sultants™ about the value of levity and humor, not just for lightening the mood, but for human connection, well-being, and feeling both a sense of progress and control when VUCA (Volatility Uncertainty Complexity Ambiguity) was relentlessly breathing down our necks. His empathy and sympathy showed in how seriously he took humor as a tool to keep things intentional, fresh, and playful for the greatest impact with our clients.
What also differentiates Paul is that he's not just an academic, but a practitioner too. You'd be shocked to know how many academics in the happiness space are simply not happy. I love how Paul keeps walking his talk as a humor expert by making me, the team, and clients laugh and learn at the same time—which is why you're going to love this book. I respect how he weaves his passions of improv and stand-up comedy into his content and delivery, making it obvious he is showing up as his true, authentic self.
It's been a few years since the pandemic, but with the constant drumroll of another news headline that makes us think WHAT THE WHAT?! the world is still a super heavy place. And by reframing the role of humor in our everyday lives, we can learn how to intentionally dial up a more meaningful, enjoyable life as we dial down the noise that just gets in the way.
Being in the science of happiness space for years, we know there are certain habits (like gratitude and optimism) that are tools to make us sustainably happier. I've always considered humor as a byproduct of happiness, but in this book, Paul shows us that it's not a result of happiness, but a means to it—another habit.
These days I'm all about what's beyond happiness, and I can't highlight enough what I appreciate most about Paul's approach in this book—it's not about using humor to avoid negative feelings or the shitty parts of life; it's about using it to face them, invite them into your living room, play with them, and learn how humor brings you closer to your authentic self.
I wish everyone could have a miniature-sized Paul they could keep in their back pocket. How cool would it be to have someone who can lighten up the room (even Zoom rooms) and communicate with safety, intention, and impact? While we haven't figured out the tech for cloning or miniaturizing yet, reading this book is the next best thing (and it protects pocket-Paul from being sat on or put through the wash).
So have fun learning, laughing, and developing your own Humor Habit!
Jenn Lim
CEO, Cofounder of Delivering Happiness
Author, CEO, and Founder of Beyond Happiness
Introduction
I don’t want to live my life as an actor in a drama just to reach the end and realize I was the director, and it could have been a comedy.
Do you get stressed out, burned out, or checked out? Do you feel overworked, overcommitted, and overwhelmed by the demands at work and home? If the answer is no,
then thanks for scanning this page, AI bot, and please forward this book on to a human. I wrote this book for anyone who wants to be less stressed and live a little lighter—which really only excludes infants, transcendental philosophers, and Matthew McConaughey.
If you're like me … you're 5′4″ and bald. But now that I think of it, that's not really applicable to this book, so let's start over. If you're like me … you get stressed out. Sometimes the stress is manageable, maybe even helpful, and other times it's a full-blown freak-out. I speak about humor, happiness, and make people laugh for a living, so I feel like I'm supposed to maintain the image of always being this easy-going, fun, and light-hearted guy. While I do think I am all those things, the truth is, I also have my fair share of freak-outs.
I've screamed into pillows, stomped my feet like a two-year-old, I've even been so stressed I hit myself in the face. I know that sounds weird and it caught me by surprise too (apparently, I've got a jab like Mike Tyson), but at times my stress could get out of control. Even when I wasn't going full toddler Tyson, stress could get the best of me, keeping me up all night worrying about things that were never as big a deal as my brain made them out to be. When I was in graduate school, my doctor told me my stress was so bad, I had developed an arrythmia. I said, "An arrythmia? Oh, don't worry. I've never had rhythm. He was like
No, idiot. Arrythmia is an irregular heartbeat." Man, was I quite the catch—a short, bald, 24-year-old stress case with heart problems … and no rhythm.
But I wasn't always such a stress case. In fact, as a kid, humor was a core part of who I was. I loved getting laughs, and even began to see the power of humor at a young age. The first time I remember noticing the influence and effect of humor was in third grade. I was distracting other kids by talking and was promptly yelled at by Mrs. Temple, who glared at me and yelled Paul, you have diarrhea of the mouth!
Half the class laughed, and the other half went Ooooohhhh!
because it was a pretty sick burn. Now I was embarrassed, and without thinking, I put my open palm to my bottom lip, looked at Mrs. Temple and said Aw, sick, it's running down my chin!
That unsophisticated, yet age-appropriate retort earned me a raucous laugh from my classmates … and a trip to the principal's office.
The principal asked me what happened, so I told her, I said something inappropriate in Mrs. Temple's class.
The principal replied, Tell us what you said.
Well, she said I had diarrhea of the mouth, so I said, ‘Aw, sick, it's running down my chin.’
The principal and the other staff members in the office laughed. Then they quickly tried to straighten their faces as little smirks were peeking out the corners of their mouths. They couldn't be that mad at me … because it was funny! Of course, she collected herself and told me it was inappropriate with a fake stern look on her face, but I knew deep down she was thinking, Not bad, kid.
I knew I had discovered something, and I felt like a Jedi. Not only did the humor soften the blow in the principal's office, but it got me out of the stressful and slightly traumatic situation of being embarrassed by my teacher in front of the whole class.
Fortunately, over time, I learned there are more sophisticated forms of humor than diarrhea jokes. However, what I learned about humor instinctually at a young age, and have now relearned formally as an adult, is that our sense humor is an incredibly powerful feature in the human psyche that can be used intentionally to cope with distress, build relationships, and enhance well-being. It came natural to me as a kid, but somewhere on the road to adulting, I developed a bad case of chronic seriousness that I've been battling ever since. And, after speaking with people all over the world about the benefits of humor and how to use it strategically, I learned that I wasn't alone. Particularly, the past few years have been tough: even as far back as 2015 B.C. (Before Covid), the U.S. surgeon general warned that both stress and isolation were at an all-time high and were two of the most prevalent diseases in America. Now, after navigating a pandemic, we live in a strange new world where we're somehow even more stressed, more isolated, and more likely to clear a room with a cough than a fart. (Okay, perhaps my humor hasn't become fully sophisticated.)
A new reality brings new stressors to add to the pile of original stressors that have been sitting in the corner since 2020 like that old pair of work slacks—the only difference is, the stressors still fit. We need all the coping strategies we can find. For some, traditional mindfulness and stress-reduction strategies like exercise, yoga, or meditation may suffice. But for many, those strategies just aren't enough, aren't the right fit, or require too many essential oils. Here's the good news: In this age of overwhelm, there's an untapped resource we all possess that helps foster connection and boost productivity and enhances our lives—and no, it's not Zoom.
It's our sense of humor.
Don't worry, I'm not just going to review all the research proving that stress is bad and a sense of humor helps. And this book isn't just a bunch of old jokes about the pandemic—because the bad thing about a Covid joke is … you don't want people to get it. When we're faced with stress, overwhelm, and trying times, people often say You just need to have a sense of humor about it
or Just laugh it off.
It's great advice, but the problem is, nobody ever tells us how to do that. When am I supposed to laugh things off? When I lock the keys of my rental car in the trunk just before needing to return it to the airport? Oh, ha, ha, ha, look what I've done! Life is just so silly!
Not realistic. I start to get pissed off, get stressed, and freak out. In this book, I'll provide you with practical strategies for developing your sense of humor into a powerful mindfulness tool. You'll learn specific approaches drawing on cutting-edge positive psychology and neuroscience research combined with timeless techniques from the world of stand-up and improv comedy that will help you freak out less and see the humor in life more.
My stress-induced heart palpitations started to subside toward the end of