There is no couple
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When did being in love turned into a toxic fairy tale?
Ending a relationship, or reviving the fire, means acknowledging love as energy emanated from a healthy conscience.
Dr. Nilda Chiaraviglio provides tools and thought keys to build connections through agreements that deal with sensitive topics such as sex,
Nilda Chiaraviglio
Nilda ChiaraviglioEs sexóloga y terapeuta clínica familiar, experta en diversidad sexual. Se ha desempeñado como directivo en diferentesasociaciones como el Instituto Latinoamericano de Estudios de la Familia. Ha impartido clases en universidadesde Perú, Argentina y México. Es conferencista e imparte distintos diplomados.
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There is no couple - Nilda Chiaraviglio
For my first seeds, my daughters Maria and Ana, and for my nephew Gabriel, who taught me that children are children of life, never a private property.
To Baruch, the man I chose to build a loving-erotic relationship, to enjoy the pleasure of living and to make every minute a golden century.
There is no couple
First edition | September, 2023
Text copyright © 2022, Nilda Chiaraviglio
Art copyright © 2022, Ordinal, S.A. de C.V.
Design | Sergi Rucabado Rebés
Illustration | Oldemar
Photo cover | Rames Xelhuantzi
Cover design | Manuel Hernández
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Index
About what we call being together
Love and butterflies
I, in love, am an idiot
Like and dislike
Emotions and love
The great dilemma: choosing a partner
Different types of couples
What does it depend on?
Paradigms of the Patriarchal Apocalypse
About what we call being together
&The couple does not exist, what really exists is the way in which a person is linked to another and how they affect each other; that is the couple's relationship , not the couple.
What we call couple
is a specific relationship between two people, that is, it takes two adult individuals interacting under certain rules defined by both.
Life changes through time and geography (culture); today, everything is transformed more quickly due to technology; it mutates in different ways thanks to situations such as the pandemic.
We are facing an unknown world that demands a new, creative and flexible way of relearning how to relate to each other and to nature.
Couple or partners?
Divorces, single mothers or fathers, people who decide to remain single after a breakup , marriages that live without communication, in conflict and violence or, in the best of cases, relationships that went from couple to cohabiting partners, parenting teammates, economic-financial convenience companions, or good friends.
All this makes us think that the relationship models that were functional more than half a century ago, have ceased to be so, in most cases. I'm sorry, but the world is no longer a Disney movie.
«There's only one thing worse than having a partner: not having one», Carl Whitaker said. Many people still think so; however, today more and more adults choose singleness and feel at ease, love and are loved: they perceive themselves with the freedom to do and undo their life as they please this afternoon, tomorrow and in the future.
Relationship models fall like statues of old tyrants, and one of the heaviest is patriarchy.
&Dear Carl, the world is flooded with people who think that there is only one thing worse than not having a partner: having one.
These adults, who build new ways of relating, share their free time, their travels and their sexuality with others who have similar life goals, will always find another human being who wants to share a good plan with someone independent and free from the commitments of a loving-erotic couple.
&Today, chatting with acquaintances or strangers is considered to be an excellent plan when deciding to stay at home, not to mention the video meetings that we inherited from the Covid-19 pandemic. Nothing as simple as swiping right or left on the smartphone screen, inside a dating app.
Love in evolution
In any of its forms, from those practiced in African savannahs thousands of years ago, to those customary in our days, love has taken and will take infinite forms of expression.
&We are biologically loving beings, for love has been our central emotion for millions of years.
Life is like that
As a result of our decisions, we get feelings or situations that disgust or hurt us; however, that never means that we are wrong or bad, or, in the worst case, «that our life has been a mistake».
We have to reflect again on what were the behaviors that have brought us to where we are, what variables we forgot to take into account, which we did not contemplate enough and from what beliefs we made