RITES OF PASSAGE: Nurturing Boys into Godly Young Men
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Every boy needs a Rites of Passage, especially those living in the inner cities of America. This how-to manual details how to start a program in your church. Everything you need is here!
Who do you need to begin?
What is the program goal and objectives?
When should you begin?
Where should you base the program?
How do you start?
Why now?
In this manual, you’ll find the answers to these questions, and more. Starting a Rites of Passage has never been easier!
Irving Tolbert
For 25 years, Irving Tolbert has served as Chairman of the Rites of Passage Ministry (ROP). His passion stems from a brief experience with fatherlessness that left him feeling abandoned and out of control. In this book, he shares what it took to get him back on track. As a result, Irving is acutely aware that every boy needs a father or mentor to help him mature into a godly young man. ROP—an annual, eight-month program dedicated to mitigating the destructive forces plaguing boys living in the inner city—was developed by a team of elders to address this need by modeling and mentoring spiritual maturity. Irving compiled ROP's documents and resources to help every church do the same!
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RITES OF PASSAGE - Irving Tolbert
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2023919204
WestBow Press rev. date: 10/11/2023
Dedicated to the Rites of Passage men, women, boys and families
Proceeds donated to the FCBC Rites of Passage Ministry
Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Chapter 1 A Lesson from Elephants—Why ROP
Chapter 2 The Way It Works—Ministry Overview
Chapter 3 Eight Months—The Program Schedule
Chapter 4 Pray for Laborers—Recruitment
Chapter 5 Field Trips and Fundraising—Financing the Vision
Chapter 6 Learning the Ropes—Orientation
Chapter 7 Graduation—Celebrating the Initiates
Chapter 8 Question—When Should You Begin?
The Author
Foreword
Irving had a wonderful childhood. Raised in Kansas City, Missouri, Irving was the youngest in a blended family of eight children. His parents each worked two jobs, served in the church, and partied at week’s end. Food and fun filled their home despite the frustrations of being born Black in America. Because there were few opportunities in the Midwest, Irving’s mom and dad were saddled with menial labor, which they did with pride because they could provide for their family.
Irving loved playing with his friends in the neighborhood after school. A loud voice calling from the apartment windows summoned him home where he was often gently scolded for the soiled clothes and scuffed shoes. Irving finished his usual household chores of washing dishes and cleaning the house aided by his three older brothers, whom he idolized. The Tolbert boys had a reputation!
Alonzo Tolbert, Irving’s father, never knew his dad. As a result, Alonzo was always home for dinner, except during the two years he and his wife separated. Irving was 11 years old. Irving’s Mom, Vernell, took Irving with her to Los Angeles, where they stayed with Irving’s oldest sister, now an adult with three daughters. His behavior deteriorated into near delinquency in this house full of women! Wisdom prevailed, and Vernell sent Irving home to his father, whose stern gaze was all it took to get Irving back in line. Soon afterward, Vernell returned to Kansas City and reunited with her husband.
Through experience, Irving understands the perils of fatherlessness and the emotional pain that results from what feels like rejection of the worst sort. Every boy needs his dad.
On Saturdays, Irving reluctantly trekked with his dad to luxurious homes to cut lawns and care for the rich folks’ yards. They often worked till sundown, and the money Irving earned bought him the expensive shoes and stylish hats he wore to school. Dad bought only the basics. Everything else was up to Irving, and work was how to afford anything extra.
In his spare time, Alonzo was a musician. He directed the men’s choir, was a bandleader, and played several stringed instruments—guitar, violin, banjo, and upright bass. His lifestyle of industry and worship left an imprint. Irving inherited his dad’s love of music, and in addition to serving on the Elder Board for 33 years to date, he sang in the men’s choir until it disbanded during COVID.
Like his dad, Irving is remarkably diligent. Twenty-five years of early-morning Saturdays, nine months of the year online or in-person, is a portrait of faithfulness. His passion is to instill in young boys the qualities he