Positive Parenting: A Beginner's Guide to Helping Children Develop Cooperation and Responsibility

By Oliver Miller

Are you sick and tired of not being able to get through to your child?

You are not the first. Lucky for you there's a solution...

Making the decision to be a positive parent will benefit your whole family. You will find that your children want to behave and follow your rules. You will be less stressed out by the end

• Language: English
• Publisher: Oliver Miller
• Release date: Sep 13, 2023
• ISBN: 9781803626055

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Positive Parenting

A Beginner's Guide to Helping Children Develop Cooperation and Responsibility

Oliver Miller

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1:  Positive Parenting: What it is  and What it Isn't

Chapter 3:  The Four Types of Parents

Chapter 4:  Why Every Parent Should  Choose to Parent Positively

Chapter 5:  How to Build a Connection  with Your Child

Chapter 7:  Common Mistakes and  How to Avoid Them

Chapter 8:  Positive Parenting Does  Include Discipline

Chapter 10:  Motivation

Chapter 11:  Character

Chapter 12:  What are Healthy Boundaries?

Conclusion

Introduction

The ideal of parenting is not to raise people who live in the house for the rest of their lives and turn out to be carbon copies. The purpose is to present individuals who grow up with the capability of discovering who they are, make a decision, think critically, have an opinion and be kind to people. It's a complicated parenting philosophy because it means you are not dictating what's happening. Instead, you are guiding what is happening.

For example, suppose something is dangerous, destructive, immoral and illegal. In that case, the parents have the final say about what those things can do to their offspring while living under their roof and the job of making them understand that they have to become responsible in life. In this guidebook, we have outlined some topics centered around positive parenting and moral discipline for kids.

As a parent, we all wish to bring up well-trained, amazing kids. However, to actualize these ambitions, we need to present them with an opportunity to acquire life skills. According to triple P, these skills comprise the ability to express their needs and desires, get along with others while trying to be their best, controlling their feelings, and believing in themselves as they develop in all areas of life.

Your child builds a self-image from the words, body language, attitudes and judgments of others. The responses a child receives from others, especially parents and family, about him/herself determines how he/she views his or her self-worth in comparison with others. A high level of self-esteem results from continual positive experiences with the family and other important people in the child's life.

How can we teach our children high self-esteem if we don't think much of ourselves? Your children will pick up on subtle messages about their self-worth from your body language and the way you talk about yourself. As you do to yourself, so you do to your child!

Being openly self-critical in front of your child teaches your child to be self-critical. For example, if you make a mistake, instead of saying, I messed up, use a positive response like, Well, that didn't work. I'll just have to try something else.

If you do feel a lack of self-worth, you can do something about it. Take classes at the local community college, find a job that better suits your personality, talk to a friend, or take up martial. You can even go to a professional counselor. Do whatever you need to help you feel better about yourself!

By feeling better about yourself and increasing your self-worth, you increase the self-worth of your child. The better you feel about yourself and the higher your self-acceptance level, the better your child will think of you and, therefore, him/herself.

Chapter 1:

Positive Parenting: What it is

and What it Isn't

W

e've all heard the old lament – wouldn't it be nice if each child came with an instruction manual? Yes, it would be! Unfortunately, that's simply not the way parenting works. When it comes to positive parenting, there is no one, single framework of rules that tell us what it means to use positive parenting in the home. Instead, positive parenting can be thought of as a perspective from which parenting choices can be made.

Positive Parenting – What it is

Positive parenting is a style of disciplining children that focuses on positive, rather than negative, behaviors and responses. Discipline is focused on finding solutions (rather than punishments) for misbehavior, recognizing good behavior, and learning for the future rather than punishing negative behavior that has already happened.

Positive parenting fosters mutual respect between parents and children and encourages growth and communication, making them partners in success.

To fully understand positive parenting, an important distinction must be made between discipline and punishment. It is the process of helping kids learn how to behave and self-regulate. Punishment is one form of discipline that involves giving a negative consequence in response to undesirable behavior. Punishment aims to decrease unwanted behavior by giving children negative experiences physically, emotionally, psychologically, or socially when the misbehavior itself occurs. They will be less likely to repeat the action in the future.

In punitive parenting systems, children behave because they are motivated to avoid punishment rather than because they understand the value of positive behavior for their lives. And although punishment can sometimes be used in gentle, healthy ways, in practice, it all too often leads to negative consequences for children (and in some cases, outright harm) and can also contribute to parental stress.

On the other hand, positive parenting relies on mutual respect and teaching moments to help little ones understand the value of good behavior for their goals, relationships, and development. Children behave well because they are motivated to act in ways that encourage positive responses and authentically understand and experience good behavior benefits.

Positive parenting is characterized by:

Focus on positivity: Positive parenting recognizes and acknowledges children's good behavior, positive choices, and growing independence in regulating themselves.

Focus on the future: Positive parenting focuses on helping children learn for the future rather than making them pay for what they've done in the past.

Focus on empowerment: Positive parenting seeks to empower children to make their own choices, rather than merely managing children not to misbehave.

Focus on individual strengths: Positive parenting recognizes and draws from the unique strengths, abilities, interests, and desires of a child.

Teaching moments: Positive parenting views discipline and misbehavior as opportunities for growth and teaching, rather than failures or shortcomings to be punished.

Natural consequences: Positive parenting recognizes the value of natural consequences for misbehavior.

Unconditional love: Positive parenting occurs in an atmosphere of unconditional love. In this atmosphere, children feel safe making mistakes, behaviorally or otherwise, because they know that even if discipline occurs, it is not because they are loved or respected any less. When children aren't afraid to make mistakes, they are more likely to engage with the world around them and have more learning and growing experiences, further contributing to their sense of empowerment and self-esteem.

Child-centered: Positive parenting is child-centered, meaning that parents work as partners with their children to help them construct healthy, productive behaviors, rather than simply handing them a set of rules and expecting them to comply arbitrarily. Parents act as guides, assisting children in learning for themselves by coaching them through their growth and discovery journey. As children grow, parents help them understand what behaviors are adequate and appropriate for reaching their goals as individuals and succeeding as members of a family, community, and increasingly global world.

Cognitive: Positive parenting isn't just about helping children to approximate a standard of socially-acceptable behavior. It also promotes cognitive skills and self-awareness as children learn to make mindful decisions,