Mighty Gorgeous: A Little Book About Messy Love
By Amy Ferris
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Full of the stories that have brought her to this moment and the accompanying wisdom those experiences have lent her, Mighty Gorgeous is Amy Ferris’s answer—tender, fierce, irreverent—to these questions, and much more.
Why? Because we are not on this earth to master suffering; we are here to create magic. Because perfection is overrated; all of our flaws and imperfections and scars are our beauty marks. Because all women deserve to speak their truth, to be heard and seen, to awaken to their own greatness. Because life is so very hard and so very brutal at times, bitter and cruel and excruciatingly difficult to navigate, and sometimes we need a light to guide us through that darkness. Because it’s time for us all to come home to ourselves—and Amy’s here to cheerlead you all the way to your own front door.
Amy Ferris
Amy Ferris is an author, editor, screenwriter & playwright. Her memoir, Marrying George Clooney: Confessions from a Midlife Crisis (Seal Press), was adapted into an Off-Broadway play in 2012. As a screenwriter, she wrote the film Mr. Wonderful and was nominated for a Best Screenplay Award (BET, Black Reel Award) for her adaptation of the film Funny Valentines. Her YA book a greater goode was published by Houghton Mifflin. As an editor, she curated Shades of Blue: Writers on Depression, Suicide, and Feeling Blue (Seal Press) and coedited the anthology Dancing at The Shame Prom (Seal Press). She recently coauthored the book Old School Love (HarperCollins) with Rev Run of Run-DMC fame. In 2019, she was named one of Women’s eNews’s “21 Leaders for the 21st Century,” and in 2021 she was a recipient of NextTribe's “Women of the Year.” Amy is a cofounder of the Milford Readers and Writers Festival and resides in Dingman's Ferry, PA.
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Mighty Gorgeous - Amy Ferris
Intro
A Little Bit About Me
In sixty-eight years, I’ve had my heart ripped to shreds, broken into pieces, and Krazy-Glued back together.
I dropped out of high school, tried suicide, and spent some time on a commune. (I was thrown out for shaving my legs. True story.)
I got my GED at seventeen and never went on to college.
I filled my body with enough drugs to open a pharmacy and I slept with a gazillion wrong men whose first name was either Joe or David or I’ll call ya.
I fell down.
I got up.
I fell down.
I got up.
I fell down.
I got up.
I spent all the money I made as a waitress and temp worker on fast food and rent and useless dreck, and then I started making a ton of dough as a writer.
I wrote a couple of groovy movies that got made into groovy films and have had more than a few books published.
I have loved bad men and cruel men and married the coolest guy on the fucking planet.
I’ve been betrayed and hurt and cracked wide open by women friends, and you’ll still get me to love you and champion you and toss you a line.
I lost my mom to dementia and I lost my dad to a heart attack and my family unraveled into a million estranged threads.
I don’t believe in God, but I do I believe we are all capable of being god/goddess-like—kind, good, loving, and compassionate—and I do believe if there is a God she is a woman.
I think Colin Kaepernick is a SUPERHERO and men who abuse their power are insecure and small little fucked-up slimy creeps.
I believe in redemption with my whole entire heart and soul, and I believe it’s one of the most underrated and necessary issues that we don’t talk about enough. I wanna talk about it.
I believe in second chances, and I believe that the third time is in fact a charm.
I believe there is nothing more glorious than a human who can stand in their own power and be comfortable in their own skin and own their beauty and their greatness.
I can safely say that, yes, I have made it to that place.
I believe getting loved is way better—way better—than getting laid but getting laid beats phone sex by a good mile.
But nothing beats self-love—nothing.
. . . nothing beats self-love—nothing.
I know for a fact that kind is way better than nice and the Verizon friends and family plan is pretty bogus.
I recommend we put a fast halt on being needed and pump the motherfucker gas on being wanted.
I feel strongly about inequality and injustice and that poverty destroys and kills more lives than we care to admit.
I know for a fact that depression comes in waves and tsunamis and dementia grabs you by the throat and doesn’t let you go.
I know that money doesn’t buy happiness or friendship or love but having some cash sure the fuck makes you less worried.
I learned a long time ago that marrying well can’t hold a candle to marrying good and if you can’t find a light at the end of a tunnel you are in the wrong fucking tunnel.
There is always a light somewhere.
I love that my life is made up of broken-edgy frayed magnificent glorious sexy gooey messy amazing life-pieces; I am so proud of who I have become, because I gotta say for a while it was touch and fucking go.
Thrilled to be here.
Absolutely thrilled to be here.
Chapter One
No Cape Needed
It all started here.
A ritual.
Every Saturday we took the Long Island Railroad from Bellmore to Manhattan. New York City. The train ride was about forty-eight minutes, station to station. At the candy store in Bellmore, he got a newspaper and a coffee with a little milk and I got chocolate milk. On the train, we would find seats—two together, side by side—and we would sip, and he would read, and I would stare out the window watching the world swish by.
He had been arrested.
A bribery case—the United States vs. . . . my dad.
He didn’t expect to be caught.
He didn’t expect to be arrested.
We didn’t expect life to change.
She didn’t expect to pawn all her jewelry.
I didn’t expect to be bullied and harassed, and to have only imaginary friends. We had never known that kind of fear and sadness before, and now they had moved in with us, constant companions, tagging along wherever we went.
You don’t expect that kinda shit when you’re eight years old.
He needed a job—to feed us, to pay the bills, the mortgage, the car, the clothes.
He got a job working at Melvin’s Frame Shop in the West 30s. Or maybe it was the West 40s. We would walk from Penn Station, the LIRR, to the shop. His friend, Murray, got him the job. Melvin was Murray’s cousin. Melvin made frames for museums and art galleries and was pretty well known in that world. Elaborate frames. Fancy frames—gold and silver, huge frames. My dad was hired to sweep the floors and clean the place. A janitor. He would sweep, and clean, and label frames, and organize things, and I would sit on the wooden table, my skinny little-girl legs dangling, watching—mesmerized—as he swept the wooden shavings from under the tables with a huge broom and dustpan.
Melvin would berate him, in an accent sprinkled with angry, Sweep here. HERE. This. This. Here. THIS. This dust, and this sand, and these wood chips . . . and the mess . . . sweep, goddamn it, sweep, you lazy man, can’t you see where you’re sweeping, goddamnit?
And my dad would shrink right before me—right before my eyes.
He would shrink, and disappear, and I was so scared he would disappear forever. He was a tall man—six foot one—but Melvin could make him disappear.
Melvin had the same tattoos that Phyllis and Henry had. The same exact tattoos. I called them cartoons. I didn’t know what tattoos were. Numbers—like a telephone number—on their forearm. Melvin had the same tattoo as them. I knew about those numbers. I knew that Phyllis and Henry had lost both sets of parents. All four. They had burned to death in an oven. I knew that story. I had heard that story over family get-togethers, dinners. Incinerated was the word used. I sat on the wooden worktable, my skinny little legs dangling, and watched, witnessed, as Melvin spewed at my father—Goddamn you, you lazy man—and I watched my dad lose whatever faith he was clinging to while I was clinging to him.
I wasn’t sure why he brought me with him on Saturdays. Maybe he wanted me to know that he loved me. Maybe he was lonely. Maybe because it was a Saturday, and he’d never needed to work on Saturdays, and that was our day. (Our days were different before the arrest. They were filled with hope and possibility, museums and plays and theater and movies and Aunt Jemima pancakes.) Maybe he needed to know that no matter what, no matter fucking what, I would love him. We would leave the frame shop right on the dot, five o’clock, and we would walk down Broadway to Penn Station. We’d stop at the automat. He would get a steaming-hot cup of coffee and I would get a milkshake. Chocolate. And we would sit at the counter, and I would watch my dad stare into his coffee, a million miles away.