CONTROLLABLE DESTINY: INDIVIDUALISM VS COLLECTIVISM

By GBITE MARTINS

An adventure of a young man from a culture where individually born people were trained to live for going to learn how to become individuals, by others design as what education should be and remain.

For a group or a race to love the absence

• Language: English
• Publisher: URLink Print & Media, LLC
• Release date: May 30, 2023
• ISBN: 9781684864379

GBITE MARTINS

I went to school in Nigeria and America, used car salesman in California for some years, and tax preparer till present. Most especially, I have taken time to look into how culture is based on reasoning, understanding the language communication is conveyed. The notion that culture is not exchangeable for amicable interaction is foreign to my nature, and I choose to look into the thought within it.

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Controllable Destiny

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Contents

Introduction

The Journey

The Way It Is

The Way Out

The Journey

The Way It Is

The Way Out

Epilogue

INTRODUCTION

This book is about how a neutralist can take time to look at both sides of every story, bringing out the best in human being in term of reasoning and how lost souls can easily follow their managers to destruction unknowingly, if managers give them no way out of their predicaments. This consists of actual conversations and interactions that took place and created names in many cases to represent people involved and to express factual, sincere appreciation or condemnations as experienced, where and when necessary, within a groups, ethnicities and nationalities.

It may be painful for some based on perception, because loving the absence of truth manifests itself based on individual inability to take time to see beyond the immediate when necessary—a gracefully lived lifestyle to complain about others and condemn one another for unable to think and work together to see how they should work to build their world together.

Looking into how human minds can be rendered simply useless and at the same time be made utmost useful enables some people to claim perfection at time. To some, it’s god-given ability and to others, it is what they should learn from other human beings.

The notion is that the word we speak is god, explained in the Bible, which is interpretation of sounds shared and practiced. For some, they know that God is everywhere, while some continue to look for him or her all over and is well established within human’s thought.

If not that our mind is our god, how could some people be fighting for what is their own over what God created naturally for human beings? On one side of the ocean, there is a happily lived lifestyle to fight for what is their own and on the other side, they’re struggling to come and share from what was given by human beings as blessing from god. Why they can’t learn or become aware to keep what is their own and avoid conditioned lifestyle to be relived is in the psychic. This explains clearly the existence of god in human being, which is the vision in us that brings new things to light.

You can reasonably see the birth of unexchangeable culture as a natural phenomenon, unable to see beyond immediate or what was taught. God answered human being’s prayer based on how we seek consolation by relating to one another sincerely.

When human history is human’s creation, history doesn’t have to repeat itself negatively for a race if they consider their mind as god. But if you continue to blame others for what has happened and ignore what you have to do for yourself, you must have already wrapped yourself with blanket of lost vision. Therefore, something is dangerously wrong for you to continue doing the same thing to expect different result. For one group to happily share the same kind of education, in the same language that subjected them on both side of the ocean to subhuman bondage, unable to see what they should see and do together to get themselves out of whatever is considered their predicament is ridiculous.

Since mind has to be applied to practice either religious, social, and political principles, our minds can or should be considered our god, because infinite source of knowledge is within it. For any group to localize their thought from narrated freedom by others, not controlling what they’re using to manage themselves is the cursed world they’ve chosen for other’s blessings, which means a mental formation of continuing ignoring what they should attend to and a way to continuing to demand respect is seen as natural phenomenon. What a way of limiting existence of God in human being as a creator. It’s not about hating oneself but a thought process to stop negative history repetition.

For Africans, the foundation that produces leaders that put their nation’s interest in foreign countries’ hands to enrich themselves and continue producing future generation who claim others make them to live in distrust with each other. A psychological approach of dwelling on knowing the past and when is still being lived for other’s convenient adjustment to be relived by their generations to come.

Leadership should be seen as seed planter for the followers to harvest. If Black leaders on both side of the ocean can seek political barriers that stopped them from being in control of what to manage themselves as one, the education the Africans are acquiring will be worthy for positive result; only then there will be true freedom for Blacks. Leaders can be a curse to their people. With short vision, human ego built on superiority will never allow you to see the general but yourself in what you’re doing. A devil concept of living in heaven on earth as lifestyle, with love affairs for money, where interpretation of what is left undone is based on fear of the unknown, to fit into what was and will be introduced for individual comfort. The question to be addressed by African leaders remains. How can they continue to go to other societies, where their kind lives with the belief that the only way things can change for them is by fighting for what is their own. This makes the sin of forefathers as punishment on descendant generations after generations, meaningful both religiously and politically.

It’s the duty of African leaders and considered black intellectuals to question why their youth focus on individual survival on other’s creations, bringing up generation that can see the problems but can’t think of the solutions—a state of mind that will forever live to praise the mind that reforms their souls.

Look into some areas of their life before the future generation starts to travel out, to experience less appeal approach from their kind. It’s spiritual and not religious thing that father will never forgive people that deliberately ignored what they should attend to, for people that know not, still have the chance to learn to be forgiven.

Africans should look back to see how their people that have travel outside, have learn to love one another in other’s countries, and how that is translated in their lives on getting back home; it is like living among people who have love but don’t know what to do with it, until others will come to tell them what love is. Such societies have accepted things must remain the same for them when everywhere they go, majority of the people they met approached them with psychology of superiority, generated from masters and slaves relationship. How interesting will it be for others seeing them seeking comfort within domesticating them for their national growth.

What a ridiculous way to express one’s freedom.The knowledge of self will continue to diminish in time, once you stop interpreting sounds from your forefather’s initial formation of words, as we are seeing now, the future generation will always wait for others.

The language or languages that God gave Africans the ability to create, in each country of Africa, will enable them to use the good and discard the bad from what others are introducing to remain who they’re, if not, others will and can always create an environment of making profit out of their misery. A way of looking at god as love to bring people together can be easily taken away. Now, faith religiously can substitute lost vision, where father’s sin is meaningful as punishment many generations to come. Once creation of new words stops, expectation of what others will bring increases, and then expecting people that disconnected you to come and connect you back will be lived. No wonder it’s easy for some Blacks to accept been label genetically inferior beings in practice.

The foundation African leaders came should be questioned for permanent solution so others will not tell the future generation when and how to devalue their currency before they can do business with them.

There is nothing more satanic than for people to live dangerously among themselves, not looking into where the danger is coming from but deliberately and frequently hurt one another to seek forgiveness religiously. The essential part of what civilization should be is to know how to relate to one another peacefully, for community or society at large.

Disorganized people historically, imposing on each other with guns they don’t produce for a fearful lifestyle, will never practice man exploiting man philosophy successfully, even worse when dialects takes precedence over sincerity to always claim superiority on adopted languages.

Since education given is based on selective invitation to tell each other what to think (theories) but not what to do for the progress of their country, the struggle will continue forever. Introducing ideas to the future generation of Africans in their languages will enable them to find comfort in what they’re learning before focusing outside, enable them to see how many minds got lost, while they’re blindly glued to two religions that was used to enslave them, religions that teaches the only way to heaven as faith, while they’re living in faith every day. These are the two religions creating chaos and destroying each other in the world now. Most of their people now live in faith without substance, for the unfortunate to have stories of helplessness to tell and seek salvation from whoever can exploit them, thus enabling others to know how powerful psychological construct could perpetuate continuation of putting them in their place.

Now, in their faith without substance world, they created song to appease themselves. Onward Christian soldiers, marching out to war with the blood of Jesus going on before meaningful. War to whom! When Jesus himself teaches peace and humanity, they now have his blood going on before wars.

For an African to live with the belief that others people’s land is holy and must be visited once in their life time to be whole, logically they must have accepted that god does not exists among them. A way of knowing what to do with a race, before selectively inviting them individually, where selected person is monitored on every action is all about other’s agenda or script. Understanding the person will never think to use this position to fight outside the lay down policy for his or her group. What an acceptable way of life of letting others predict their tomorrow.

The hate for oneself must have come from their upbringing, if a group refuses to teach their kids in foreign countries their language. There is confusion in believing these kids belong to their parents’ countries but could not speak the language from these countries. Unable to use the language they believe that should unite them to see what their priority should be, but condemn each other on who speaks the best master’s languages from the top to the bottom and who get the most degree from accredited university on other’s agenda. This will never let them and their generations see themselves as one.

The understanding is that the leaders are saying deal with the situation to demand respect, while nobody is saying attack the situation intelligently to take respect. Some go and join in, continue fighting for equal level plain field for over 250 years, while 80 to 85 percent of people inside airplanes going to do business in the African continent from all over the world were whites. If you don’t know who you’re, you can’t blame the people that train you of what to think to be what they want you to be. The understanding that education Africans received all over the world does not allow them to question deeply whatever that was introduced as to know where they should go together must be shared. If not, it will be shortsighted, blaming Black appointed to a position or called activist, who can’t see the wrong in supporting rebels against a majority elected leader of a Black nation, without questioning where the rebels got the guns to fight for years when they don’t have money to buy shoes. Now the concept of waiting for another Moses to lead the race to the promise land, which is commonly shared, where many Moses are living in limbo among them, will be erased.

The question Africans should be asking themselves on what they call history. Do they want to have a body of lawmakers, where 80 percent had been in wars with their neighboring countries in the continent, as ways to defend or protect their domestic interest? A psychology of doing unto one another as others have done unto them has now been created, as a way of paying dues. It’s very interesting most African minds are geared toward seeing inside from outside without being in control, focusing on international countries where history repetition is by design for them.

The fact that most Africans are products of run-down information in others languages should be reconsidered by the so-called intellectuals. Stop producing generations that think of changing things from outside. Where 70 percent were unable to achieve half of what their fathers achieved at home in their middle age, while some sold their father’s properties to go and live in debt on what totally belonged to the banks in these foreign countries, living a confused life of others’ modernization as their civilization.

The question of who god is, how god operates, should be answered by people that live with the belief of running to what usually hurt them. There is no god in love that hurt because there will never be peace within it.

There is nothing wrong in learning from others; what and how you learn should be able to teach, holding onto what you have, able to create your needs, without waiting for other to do these things for you. It is an interesting way of indoctrinating people to live in that limited world, taken how others are being civil to one another as their civilization.

Since most Blacks were displaced on both sides of the ocean, it’s then in the African’s psychic that the displacement and disconnection must continue, also between old and new generations if things continue to remain the same. This will enable African blacks to see the present clearly to create better tomorrow. The idea of what Africans know is what they teach them will not be what the future generation would be drooling on—how education subjected youth to continue looking for green pasture created by others when everything around them is green. It’s like a man who is madly in love with a woman that dictate the time she want to welcome him to her place. It’s not about that’s all you have but what you can create to stop others predicting your tomorrow. If something is good for few and bad for majority, in time it will be bad for the whole if it’s not properly addressed. The world of do what I say but not what I do, where people that makes the law can break it to demonstrate superiority, where foreign people’s interest front indigenous people’s for few to consider themselves civilized in Africa should be considered a curse. If Africans cannot create a way to monitor foreigners as they’re being monitored in foreign countries, they’re learning what they can’t practice. If your teacher teaches you how to climb the ladder and you don’t take time to see why you’re falling, unable to get to the top, don’t blame the teacher for playing with your head to stay on top of you.

As long as directionality is behind the concept of indoctrination, managed by the favors, freely born people will forever continue to seek and fight for freedom outside their domain.

It’s practically impossible to live in true love among disorganized people, individually born, but believe they have to go and learn how to become individuals from people that work collectively. Producing generations who only know what they expected their leaders to do, unable to see clearly as to work with them on what they’re doing but expect one leader to change their country singlehandedly. If Mr. and Mrs. Weak cannot change Mr. and Mrs. Powerful Minds for peaceful tomorrow, they should be able to change their ways.

There’s an understanding that the fruit doesn’t fall far from it tree, where effect of war on men created a nonchalant behavior for women as culture. Africans, there is no country that uses women for pleasure than the one that encourages promiscuity as part of growing up, where female grows up as drama queens of getting paid for their body as freedom for men who have the money to buy them. Thanks to the mind, at least Black American knows where they belong and hold unto what they believe is their own, either given or fought for. One thing the Black American and the southern Nigerians have in common is that they live for being managed to consider themselves educated. You don’t need to wonder why they can’t get along to build communities together. People that don’t know who they’re always see what they’ve ignored in their past, pointing fingers at each other but never taking the time to know how to address future problems collectively. On the other hand what the Northerners have things in common with white people—they live for managing others to hold unto what they believe belongs to them. It’s not about disrespecting the mind that reform the soul that cannot reform itself but to respect the mind that see beyond the reformation process.

What distinguished first and third world is that the so-called third world believes they have to wait for others to come and teach them how to catch fishes, while they’re watching others catching fishes all the time. It translates to, if you can’t practically do what you say or think as to create your kind in your image, the existence of god in you must have been reduced, in the course of seeking consolation in dealing with what others have created for you. How are you living it and why?

THE JOURNEY 

Adedeji’s observation about the differences between his country Nigeria and the western world; he observed in his stopover about the differences in the quality of planes, plane’s fare, and the new place he’ll be residing. Segun’s experience about how and what Africans considered education, both religiously and academically, shifted their spirit away from their domain without realizing it, because it took shape in other languages. His understanding of how Africans should appreciate how Black Americans recognize and demonstrate to stay and contribute to where they belong. How Segun revealed to his junior brother’s friend, about any group that do not know how to hold onto their base or do not have a base to hold onto, turn to be scattered group for others to play with around the world.

Segun advises about less appeal approach he’ll experience in countries outside the continent because of the way these societies think of them, especially among their own race, justified in most interactions because of what they’ve signed into in their quest to acquire what they consider education. Not realizing they’ve compromised their existence by going to countries that create jobs for each others on their stimulated economy, monitoring as to manage them and living in fear for staying in other’s created world. Saying others turned you to stay who you don’t want to be is an open declaration of either not knowing who you are or don’t know how to get back to where you think you belong. Interpretation of what introduced religion teaches God as word, while the student live to throw away their words gracefully to attach to other’s words.

The chance to realize politics is always used to lay foundation for every new culture is replaced with faith without substance. While religion teaches to forgive people that do them wrong, politics make them seek severest penalty before they can be at peace with themselves for people that does wrong to them. Why Africans don’t take time to analyze these things among people they’re running to most of the time is a mystery. This give birth to unnecessary emotional hassle, generated from culture of equality with special treatment for female gender, making it difficult for men to live with women who think they don’t need a man around them but expect men to meet certain demand before they can be loved. What a love for sale world?

Africans, why are you living a magical world of selling your souls, going to join to live with the concept of what was given to be what you’ve paid your dues on as what belong to you. Until the word slave is redefined in many Africa languages to see how they’re living what was introduced, then they’ll start bringing up generations with different perception of connecting to one another, instead of searching all over the world for what is already in them. If any group believe in a form of education for seventy years and still selling themselves, whatever every seventy-year- old considered educated have learned must not be good for them, the rest are excuses to attack and condemn one another as to go back to learn from their masters, as they are living it. This is where Segun expressed to his junior brother’s friend, how easy mind can be rendered simply useless than to first mass produce liquor for them, people that strongly believe in education of theory in your language as their future. It will then be natural phenomenon for them to keep producing generations that will run back to you to learn what people before them had learned, without the understanding of how you’re domesticating them for your growth.

THE WAY IT IS 

The first observation of Deji about how Dapo has changed in his personality greatly attributed to the new culture that swallowed him. Understanding interest without application of common sense will enable others to see the weakness in you. Where life is now meaningful when program setting is changed in the middle of the road, different to what you’re been made to belief (economist turn to study to be a nurse to survive). It now comes in many ways individual can imagine to what majority lives as culture. Sometimes it becomes misunderstanding when people don’t know how to listen to each other, from one culture to another even in the same language—a way of life of running away from what they should attend to before education can be meaningful, to go and happily deal with ladies of twenty-five years of age with four kids by four different men, condemning polygamy as Africans uncivilized way.

Adeko, a Nigerian with a different perception of education to David, a Jamaican, resulted to insulting words from Adeko to David. Adeko was unable to get out of classroom education with certificate of being a graduate as being educated, and David sees education as learning process to create one’s environment to one’s taste, which won’t take reasonable people time to know which one will be dealing with clear perception in their daily live. Veronica’s insight of the result Africans’ usage of their master’s languages produces, how it subjected many generations spending their time, money, and energy to wait for others to interpret sound, which is creating new words, before they can learn new things.

They’re now being taught how powerful the word can be to make Mother Nature he in most religion. Learning to continue imitating this is a different mentality to learning to create something people will imitate. If others can make you believe you’re running things, while you’ve been ran, then thy faith is making you whole, likewise the others. How and when you should or if you want to get out of it is in your hand. You can think that your mind is a terrible thing to waste, but you can always wait for time to change things your mind can change in time. It’s all about the existence of god in human nature.

Veronica’s and Tunde’s outlook of how colonized people never questioned why they keep going back to their colonizer but feel superior toward each other on what they were ask to fulfill to be comfortable, within the environment created for them as educated people. Finally, Abodunrin’s concept of education, brought up with building of one’s ego to individually feel good to live with the belief that others will have to come and help them to build their society by bringing industries they should have created collectively to develop.

How well can people be saying God had denied them what was willing given to others without realizing it, if he or she is somewhere and not our state of mind?

THE WAY OUT 

Interesting stories about the adventure of Owo’s four white friends, Charles, William, King, and Dickson to Nigeria, an experience common in most Africa countries they’ve visited, explained as creation of heaven or hell is a state of mind and that it’s mental application that makes sacrifice to yield favorable, progressive result and not a race holding another in subhuman bondage, where institutions established allows the leaders to disrespect the general all the time. During the day, you can see how people are happy living in disrespect from desperation, and at night, the darkness from streetlight that never turned on will let you imagine how hell looks like, different to what you’ve seen in the movies. There is no other way to know how people create mysterious world for each other than watching people enjoy inflicting pain on their people to get their way than Africa. You can see from Nigeria that most African leaders preferred to be monitor by their colonial masters than to manage each other successfully by continuing to take the money out to their master’s countries.

Three of Owo’s white friends declared how African definition of freedom is different, by ignoring the concept of seeing both sides of every of their story affecting them educationally, to live with the thought that history must repeat itself for them. Forgetting thought created history as history is in thought and continues to breed generation that run to where most of their kind comfortable projecting negative image toward them on other’s agenda as unchangeable cultural differences. Their journey is not far as most of them always claimed it’s far, if they can take time to address the question of why the so-called educated people in these colonies cannot stop running back to their masters on education they’ve acquired.

For a citizen to invite company from foreign country to produce four types of vehicles with 70 percent domestic materials, why leaders and rich people importing cars from abroad is a mystery. It’s a satanic state of mind, Owo’s friend considered these leaders full of hate for their people after they’ve been taught in America how Ford and car companies always get support from the government. This is a continent where leaders don’t consider themselves Satan to whom god gave everything, but continue to look for nothing around to create hell in their countries. What is dangerously wrong about Nigeria is the southerners, especially the Yorubas who travel in multitudes around the world to experience being numbered to be managed, unable to implement their experience in their immediate environment to get the same result their teachers are living with, who claimed to know what is wrong in their society individually, know whom to blame and enjoy using what they were taught against each other to feed their ego.

For Africans to continue waiting for God to come and solve their problems, when people around them are teaching them, that mind is a terrible thing to waste, while they continue to wait for time to change things their mind can change in time.

THE JOURNEY 

Since traveling out of the African continent has to be a journey of one or two airplanes to your destination, you’ll clearly experience other’s modernization. Most airplanes that take you from African countries have lower standard in amenities with different fare price. I guess there are people that know and love to take care of themselves first.

In any society where the forces of transformation lay foundation for decaying society, sharing of information negatively either introduced or generated is a norm for lower standard compared to others. Thereby, the fundamental question to solve problems must have been ignored.

The method of operation and the latest modern equipment will explain to you what you need to know about the differences in all these countries. It’s like comparing a virgin wife’s knowledge of men to a three times divorcee wife with four kids. Nobody has to tell you what a new experience you are about to live, if you are somebody that apply common sense often.

The windy air with the snow on the ground at Washington airport in Maryland will tell you the time of the year and different society for your new experience. This is always how the end of November is in this part of the world; I thought to assert all the information I’ve gathered. Everybody in winter coat confirmed my expectation from many stories inside many magazines about the western societies. Since I was on transit in London, I could only witness the snow from the plane and felt a little cold inside where we (transit passengers) were allowed to roam, awaiting airplanes to take us to our destinations. Coming from a country with sun all year and some months of rain makes the weather here an enemy to my skin, but all the beautiful things around redirected my thought off the effect the cold had on me a little.

Comparing the country you’re coming from to these countries is something you do subconsciously because there were lots of rapid flows of event that will interest you.

A beautiful black immigration officer, with the name Lisa on the badge to the top of her left shirt’s pocket, interrupted my thought from reading the sign in front of me.

Looking at my face and back to the passport I gave to her, I sensed some kind of difficulty from watching her lips. Mr. Thompson. She avoided pronouncing my first name. Your ticket and your school document reads California. Do you have somebody you want to visit in Washington? Lisa asked.

Yes, I intend to visit a family friend whom I put his name in the paper in front of you for a week, I answered.

How do you pronounce your first name? she asked. Adedeji, I answered.

A-di-di-jai. Forget it, she said.

She looked through the papers again to check the date on the computer and all the necessary things she has to do. You have two and half weeks before your school start," she said to confirm my understanding of what she had read.

Yes, I answered.

After typing something on the computer in front of her for about one to two minutes, waiting for another thirty seconds, she looked directly into my eyes, stamped my passport, and wrote something in it. Welcome to United State of America, Lisa said, looking away from me and back to the paper in front of her. As she was working on my papers, I couldn’t take my eyes off her complexion, with no spots on her face and a finger like she never used it for anything else than to write on paper. Her eyes were so white like somebody that never experience stress in her life. While she was handling the papers back to me, I was comparing her skin to mine, and it took my mind to how angels’ skins will look like in heaven. Taking the papers and looking at her face once again, it reminded me of beautiful faces I’ve seen in imported magazines in my country. Thank you, I said and followed the direction everybody was taking to the custom. I was set aside by the custom officer attending to me, looking through my briefcase one article after the other for whatever seems to be strange to this custom officer, he gave my luggage special attention.

I knew there was nothing to be afraid of, but I was curious about his different approach toward me compared to other passengers, being one out of seven blacks on the plane. About twenty-five minutes of the so-called contraband search, I was left to put my properties together myself. What a firsthand experience, I said. Since Segun Oladunjoye, a brother of my friend who lives thirty-five miles away from the airport is picking me up, I waited at the airline terminal Brother Segun knew I was arriving at, which was the only choice I have, because he had already left home by the time I called him and was left to talk to the answering machine.

Knowing Brother Segun is my senior brother’s age, which is ten years older, I knew it’s our custom not to call much older ones by name, while they always treat their junior with concern, which the juniors must reciprocate with respect all the time.

As arranged, I will be spending one week with him, before heading for California where my friend lives, which will enable me to spend some time with him after almost two decades of not seeing him.

Thinking of how he might have changed and to see a different person was another thing that shaded my thought.

Looking through the glass-built airport, I saw everybody wearing gloves or having their hands in their pockets. Their heads were covered with hats, caps, or scarves by women in some cases, but it’s difficult to notice stress on people’s faces. This will tell you the differences in people’s lifestyle in the so-called developing and developed countries.

I waited close to the class so that he could see me from inside, since I could not go out with the kind of clothes I’m wearing. They must be using a lot of gas to keep such a big place warm, I thought in my wait.

After about fifteen minutes wait, I spotted a big size BMW thirty-five feet away with somebody looking around. I said to myself, This must be Brother Segun.

My assumption was right; three minutes later, he parked his car at the passenger’s loading zone with the hazard light on and walked toward the entrance with hasty expression on his face. Since it has been almost twenty-one years I last saw him, I was expecting somebody older than the person coming toward me.