Divorce Smart: How To Thrive And Come Out Whole

By Adam R Weiss

Divorce Smart: How to Thrive and Come Out Whole gives the reader leverage to incentivize the other person to settle. This might be information, money, or anything that you know will cause the other side to want to resolve the case, and more importantly, in a way that you want it to settle. 

Divorce Smart will provide readers with a st

• Language: English
• Publisher: Adam Weiss
• Release date: Apr 5, 2023
• ISBN: 9781088105849

Adam R Weiss

Dr. Adam Weiss is Board Certified chiropractic physician. Dr. Weiss graduated from National University of Health Sciences in 1992.Dr. Weiss has been in private practice for the past 30 years, specializing in neuromuscular injuries.As the medical director of Body By Pilates, PilateSmart in Deer Park, Illinois, Dr. Weiss has been successfully integrating the AbSmart , BackSmart, and StretchSmart Methods, sports conditioning and lifestyle changes including weight loss programs into his practice.Dr. Weiss's knowledge of endurance, flexibility, and strengthening exercises are a result of his own experience with martial arts and from years of weight training; he has held a first-degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do since the age of fifteen, having competed in state and national competitions at the junior and senior levels.Dr. Weiss teaches Pilate reformer classes while maintaining a full-time practice during which time he also presents strengthening and conditioning exercises at workshops for professional and amateur sport clubs and martial arts studios throughout the United States.Dr. Weiss has written The ABSMART FITNESS PLAN: THE PROVEN WORKOUT TO LOSE INCHES AND STRENGTHEN YOUR CORE WITHOUT STRAINING YOUR BACK THE BACKSMART FITNESS PLAN: A TOTAL BODY WORKOUT TO STRENGTHEN AND HEAL YOUR BACK, a complete full-body workout. STRETCHSMART: Dynamic stretching to improve the way you feel and moveDr. Weiss has also been interview on Project Health Radio on health and fitness based on this system.Dr. Weiss has written and been interviewed in national, local magazines, and newspapers.

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Divorce Smart

How to Thrive and Come Out Whole

ADAM WEISS

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Weiss, Adam, D.C.

Divorce Smart: How to Thrive and Come Out Whole/ Adam Weiss

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ISBN: 979-8-218-13652-9

1. Divorce 2. Marriage 3. Law. I. Title

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Disclaimer

Dear reader, full disclosure I am not a lawyer. I have no juridical education or background. Each state has its statutes and procedures. The bottom line you need legal counsel I tip my hat to those who are and deal with the interpretations of the law daily. Check with your local state laws and regulations regarding your laws in filing a divorce.

This is my story in retrospect and how my divorce turned out. No portion of this book should be regarded as legal advice or as a substitute for counsel from an attorney. This book should not be used as a replacement for legal counsel from a qualified attorney who is admitted to practice in your jurisdiction or who has that permission granted. The content of this book is for informational purposes only and is not intended to legally advise.

You understand that this book is not intended as a substitute for consultation with a licensed lawyer. Please consult with your legal representative regarding the suggestions and recommendations made in this book. The use of this book implies your acceptance of this disclaimer. You accept the risk that your results may differ from those of another person and that the advice and strategies in this book are not intended to represent or guarantee that you will achieve the same or similar results. The publisher and the author make no guarantees regarding the level of success you may experience by following them.

While the publisher, as well as the author, have taken all reasonable steps to ensure that the information in this book was accurate at the time of publication and while it is intended to provide accurate information regarding the subject matter covered, the publisher and author assume no liability for any errors, inaccuracies, omissions, or other inconsistencies herein and hereby disclaim any liability to any party for any loss, damage, or disruption caused by errors or omissions.

Dedicated to my four strong pillars in my life,

in no particular order.

Rachel, Brandon, Nancy, and my mother.

Table of Contents

Introduction

CARDINAL RULES OF CRISIS MANAGEMENT–DO NOT GET INTO A CRISIS!

Chapter 1 Welcome to the club!

Chapter 2 Buckle up it going to get ugly

Chapter 3: Psychological Warfare

Chapter 4: Preemptive strike

Chapter 5 Get your ducks in a row

Chapter 6 School Loans

Chapter 7 Credit card debt

Chapter 8 Net worth

Chapter 9 Estate, your humble home

MY MONEY DOESN’T JINGLE; IT FOLDS: DUKES & JONES

Chapter 10 Income-Numbers don’t lie; people do

Chapter 11 Tally it up

Chapter 12 Being married was a commodity to be treated as such

Chapter 13 Gather the evidence-Time to become a detective

THE LAW

Chapter 14 Lawyer dating game

Chapter 15 Legal stuff

Chapter 16 The Legal Discovery Nightmare

THE COURT SYSTEM

Chapter 17 The court Mill- court motions

Chapter 18 Judges, they are human too- how to prepare for the encounter

Chapter 19 Alimony

HAVING THE RIGHT MINDSET

Chapter 20 Be Present

Chapter 21 The future is bright- steps to improving your outlook and outcome

Chapter 22 How to get better- from burnout to living the dream

Chapter 23 Resolving the tension in your life

Chapter 24 Hello Blue Eyes -Stumbling Onto Happiness

Chapter 25 Conclusion

Terms you should know for a Divorce

About the Author

Introduction

THE TRUTH HAS NO DEFENSE AGAINST A FOOL DETERMINED TO BELIEVE A LIE

Mark Twain

This book, Divorce Smart: How to Thrive and Come Out Whole, is a narrative of self-help and education through the divorce process. It will be of value to those who are currently going through or contemplating divorce because it will help them retain their sanity and hopefully their assets. It will help provide readers with necessary facts (such as when it is essential to speak up for oneself and when one’s legal representative should handle the issues). The beginning of the divorce process is the time to gather intel and come out ahead in the forthcoming battle of your life.

The book is sprinkled with outrageous encounters from people who have experienced the pain and dilemma the reader will most likely encounter. It provides a view of a broken legal system and an approach to overcome the confusion that awaits those seeking a divorce: just because something is practical, straightforward, and common sense to the reader doesn’t mean a judge will view it the same way. You will likely need to pivot and zig-zag to achieve your objectives; otherwise, it could cost you thousands of dollars in assets and possibly additional legal fees. It is common knowledge that a person doesn’t understand a situation unless he or she has gone through it. I have found this to be true of the divorce process, and the books I encountered on the subject matter were dry and far from motivating.

By immersing yourself in the data of your once-blissful marriage, you will be better off mentally and physically. It is the time to gather financial records, which includes locating all assets and identifying loans. It is also essential to determine how many charge cards are in your name and whether your soon-to-be ex-spouse has opened any without your knowledge. All of these are important components to coming out ahead. This isn’t the time to wallow in self-pity at what just happened.

Divorce Smart: How to Thrive and Come Out Whole offers readers a step-by-step process of what they need to do to help their case and save time and money along the way;

Trust me: Penny wise and pound foolish can add up to tens of thousands when you are dealing with an irrational or vindictive spouse. This book will help readers obtain the best legal counsel you can afford and prepare them for the nonsense that waits at every turn. It does not take an academic approach to what is wrong with family court, mill is a more accurate term. Instead, it presents readers with approaches for organizing paperwork, which will ultimately reduce unnecessary costs in and out of the court system. It is a well-thought-out guide to all that is essential for getting through the challenges of the divorce process.

I realized that this kind of book was necessary when I saw my lawyer's retainer fee dwindling with each encounter from conversations with opposing counsel to court hearings and filing motions. And during each of these proceedings, I recognized that something was missing: a lack of concern for proper human compassion in the court system. I knew it wasn’t going to be a lovefest, but I was still shocked by how the opposite was true, the chaos and emotional dumping from strangers, family, and friends.

I have spent the past two years during a pandemic and via Zoom attempting to settle my divorce case from someone with who I had been in a relationship for 38 years and who has been represented by not one, but five lawyers! I have endured the frustration of hearing countless allegations and false reporting against me, all while having only a few minutes of the judge’s time (Chapter 18: Judges Are Human Too). In the blink of an eye, my case was dismissed to another time, which left me bewildered as I listened to my lawyer explain, in legal terms, what had just taken place.

I have learned that the court system is not interested depending on your state in your mental challenges (or whether your spouse slept with another person or you paid all the bills until the very end of your case); in the end, it’s all about the data of your marriage. If you thought it was gut-wrenching to hear or say the words I want a divorce, wait until you must agree with that person simply to get rid of him or her. I will also prepare readers for what to expect if there are children (such as how a spouse is likely to use their offspring as pawns, regardless of the child or children’s ages). Throughout the book, I use layperson’s terms and share my firsthand experiences. Providing practical response tips and action plans, I show readers how to become healthier mentally and financially stronger.

Divorce Smart will break down the divorce process so that you will know what to expect. Each chapter is concise and to the point, with a summary or calls to the action plan. Examples include what to ask your lawyer on the first visit and how to locate tax returns. The reader will learn about important data to gather and what to expect during hearings, because being better prepared leads to better outcomes!

CARDINAL RULES OF CRISIS MANAGEMENT–DO NOT GET INTO A CRISIS!

Chapter 1

Welcome to the club!

You are not alone, far from it. Millions of people choose to unhitch themselves annually.

Didn’t think you married a jerk? A blood-sucking narcissist? Think again, Put love aside for a minute and look at the person you chose to enter an agreement with. Were they all that you imagined they would be? Did they hold up to their end of the deal? For sickness, health, and support? If not, then this is the book for you.

You are about to enter the dissolution of a bad partnership. Think of it as your credit card being wrongly charged for a service you didn’t have. Or item that did not live up to the quality standard you deserve and would like to return and receive a refund. Coldhearted or bitter outlook you might think? If you are just getting started or thinking of divorcing you will think this is light compared to what