When Father's Don't Hug
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I hope you have enjoyed reading about my relationship with my dad as much as I have enjoyed writing about it. And most of all, I hope you have remembered some moments or times where you can look back and say, "My father did love me and cared about me." And if your father is still living and you do not have a relationship with him or
James Kirkwood
James Edwin Kirkwood was born in Houston, Texas and raised between there and the East Texas piney woods. He received his BS degree in Mathematics from Prairie View A&M University and an MBA from Texas Southern University. He spent 29 years in the US Army and retired as a Colonel.He served in a number of infantry positions to include platoon leader, company executive officer, company commander and aide-de-camp to MG Julius Becton in the First Calvary Division, division staff positions in the Second Armored Division and company commander in the Eighth Army (Korea). After retiring from the Army, he worked for several corporations before establishing his own IT consulting firm. James is single and has a son and daughter, five grandchildren, two great grandchildren and currently works on his tree farm in Texas.
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When Father's Don't Hug - James Kirkwood
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Published in the United States of America
Brilliant Books Literary
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Contents
Acknowledgments
Foreword
Learning to Work
Learning to Survive
Little League Baseball
Hunting with the Big Boys
Learning to Drive
College Days
Army Days
Being a Grandparent
His Humorous Side
When He Got Old
My Hope for You
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Iwould like to thank my children for putting up with me all these years, take the good and bad from me and try and do a better job with your kids. To my cousins, James and Carl Young, thanks for being there for me. To Pastor Ralph D. West, thank you for the confirmation. Last but not least I wish to avail myself this opportunity to Thank God for keeping me around and express a sense gratitude and love to my friends and my beloved parents for their support, strength, help and everything else.
FOREWORD
If you have a father that does not hug or a father that did not hug, I writing this book in hope that you can reflect on my relationship/experiences with my father and realize that your father does/did care and loves/loved you, even if you did not get any hugs. Each chapter in this book is an experience that I had with my father. I hope this book will help you look at your pass relationships/ experiences with your father and if he is still living, start, rekindle a relationship with him and if he has passed, find that one experience that you can hold on to that lets you know that your father did care and loved you .
After I wrote my first draft of this book, I sent a copy to my cousin, Carl Young. He has is a gifted, I mean gifted speaker and author. He spent a lot of time with our uncle, Rev. James (Uncle Bubba) Smith. I think a lot of Uncle Bubba rubbed off on Carl. He recommended that I include some lessons learned after each chapter. I thought about it and decided that I would include them. Then I started really thinking about those experiences, and what would be some lessons learned. I think lessons learned are not where I want you to go; I want you to really think about the same or similar type experiences with your father. So I included what I am calling Reflective
. Reflective by definition is relating to or characterized by deep thought
, that is what I would like you to focus on.
I think it is important for you to understand where my head was when I was growing up. We are all a factor of our environment, that’s no debate. Like my long time elementary, junior high and high school classmate, Larry Buzzard
Johnson says. We did not know we were poor until they told us we were. We had food to eat, clothes to wear, and a place to stay, everything was good from our viewpoint
. The only thing I had to compare my childhood to was the other kids in the neighborhood. And from that standpoint, I was doing well. I did not have to share a room with a brother and I had a way of making some money.
One thing that stuck in my head from all that time Mama made me go to church was, Honor thou mother and father, for thou days will be long. So I did 95% of what they said. I made sure I did not get caught doing that 5%. I just thought that all of those things I did growing up were things I was suppose to do. I never gave it any thought. Well let’s get started.
It was during marriage counseling with my second wife, third marriage that gave me the idea for this book. I married my first wife twice. During one of the sessions, the counselor started asking about my mother and father, but more so about my father. The questions centered around, did he have