How to Talk to Your Kids so They Listen and Grow

By Martha C. Joy

As a parent, you want to have open and effective communication with your children. But how do you talk to your kids so they will listen and grow?

In "How to Talk to Your Kids So They Listen and Grow: Step-by-Step Guide for Raising and Building Confidence in Kids," you'll learn valuable tips and techniques for communicating with children of all ages, from little ones to teens.

 

With a focus on building trust, fostering healthy relationships, and helping your kids develop confidence, this book will guide you through every step of the communication process. You'll learn how to talk to kids so they will listen, even when they're feeling frustrated or upset. You'll also discover how to talk to kids in a way that promotes their growth and development, whether you're dealing with boys or girls.

 

Through real-life examples and practical advice, "How to Talk to Your Kids So They Listen and Grow" will teach you how to talk to anyone, not just your children. You'll learn how to use active listening, ask open-ended questions, and create an environment of mutual respect and understanding.

Don't let communication challenges with your kids hold you back from building strong, healthy relationships. With this comprehensive guide in hand, you'll have the tools you need to connect with your children and help them thrive.

So why wait? Take the bold step now and start your journey to building a healthier and everlasting relationship with your kids today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Kevin K. Milton
• Release date: Feb 22, 2023
• ISBN: 9798215178560

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SUMMARY

We all know that parenting could be hard and challenging sometimes especially when dealing with teenagers. Being a mother of 5 has not been easy considering how I have to talk to make my kids listen and then listen when they begin talking.

Even though I tried several strategies in terms of building an effective communication with all my kids, I got to realize that, yelling and always telling them what to do was not the best way to approach the situation hence, I took time off to analyse the situation and came up with an easy approach to make my kids listen even when I’m not talking and vice versa.

It will marvel you to know that we are now more than just best friends but a strong family due to the simple effective communication tricks I will share with all readers in this book. This book will not only teach you how to talk so your kids will listen and vice versa but will also help you raise confident adults  

CHAPTER 1

How to listen to kids when they talk

For some parents, bringing up a child who listens can be quite possibly the most difficult and significant illustration throughout everyday life.

Not exclusively is the capacity to listen basic to a child's initial improvement empowering them to gain and be careful from hurt however it is likewise fundamental for building connections and making proficient progress sometime down the road.

In any case, so frequently it can feel like a child can't or is reluctant to tune in, prompting contentions and fits of rage, with parent and child miles separated in their positions.

1. Express out loud whatever you see

The most important phase in the Language of Listening is straightforward: Say what you see. As opposed to forcing your judgment on your child's way of behaving, fight the temptation to respond and straightforwardly express what you see.

For instance, you might think your child isn't sharing, and you wish that they were, at the same time, in their eyes, they are in the middle of playing. Say exactly that: You're in the middle of playing with that toy. Equally, you might think they are giving you disposition, when, to them, they are feeling disappointed. Recognize that: You're having a disappointing outlook on this present circumstance.

At the point when your child feels unheard, they feel like you're excusing their needs and needs.

That doesn't imply that you want to surrender to their requests. Be that as it may, it offers you a chance to step into their point of view and sort out the underlying driver of their way of behaving.

2. Offer a can-do

Whenever you have perceived and sympathized with your child's way of behaving, you will be in a superior situation to help them push ahead and track down an answer.

On the off chance that they are showing conduct, you could do without, assisting them to divert that energy toward something you do like.

For example, they might be bouncing on the couch and you would incline toward they didn't. Recognize their longing to bounce around and vent, however, assist them with guiding that energy to an alternate space like the floor or a trampoline. On the other hand, they might be requesting another toy and their birthday has quite recently passed. Assist them with thinking about certain ways they can buy it for themselves, for example, by bringing in additional pocket cash.

On the off chance that, however, they are exhibiting conduct you do like, recognize and empower it to assist with building up such ways of behaving in future.

3. Polish off with a strength

At the point when you have deescalated the circumstance and arrived at a split the difference, finish up the conversation by featuring a strength your child has shown.

Try not to structure the criticism with yourself in the middle, be that as it may, for example, I'm so that's what cheerful you did. Rather, make them concentrate, for instance by saying: You're such an issue solver, you figured out how to fix that.

Taking on the child's internal voice assists them with building up those ways of behaving.

Like that, they will perceive themselves as a functioning member in the circumstance and one with solid dynamic capacities, which are bound to be rehashed over the long haul.

Changing your response

While the Language of Listening system is organized essentially for children, one can likewise be applied to other age gatherings and circumstances, including young people, associates, and heartfelt connections.

On account of teens, for example, expressing out loud whatever you see can assist them with better comprehension themselves