Emotional Intelligence: How to Resolve Conflict, Find Purpose, and Create Wealth God's Way!
By Denn Eagle
()
About this ebook
"Seventy-one percent of employers say they value emotional intelligence over IQ." -Jennifer Grasz, Writer for Career Builder
Is This Book for You?
Are you an entrepreneur, or do you have an entrepreneurial spirit? Are you internally motivated, a self-starter, and a problem-solver with a bit of wit and grit? Do you
Denn Eagle
Denn Eagle and his wife, Denise, make their home in Rock Hill, South Carolina. They have seven children and agrowing number of grandchildren. They enjoy time with family, reading, Christian music, and family vacations.Denn's career includes church planting, marketplace ministry, and writing, which covers a span of fifty-threeyears.
Related to Emotional Intelligence
Related ebooks
Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually through the Enneagram Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGod Searches the Heart Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsVictory Over the Darkness Study Guide: Realize the Power of Your Identity in Christ Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsConfused Men, Frustrated Women Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsI’Ve Fallen and I Can Get Up!: The Ultimate Life Recovery Program Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBecoming as God Intended Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsI We Us: A Journey of Personal Growth and Development Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWisdom of the Soul and Life's Challenges Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHave You Considered the Egg? Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsDiscerning Of Spirits: Seven Dimensions Of Revelation Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Mind to Heal: Creating Health and Wellness in the Midst of Disease Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLay Counseling Series: Psychologists and Theologians, Can They Integrate? Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsA Biblical Heart: What Is It? Where Is It? How Is It Used? Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsNegotiating the Inner Peace Treaty: Becoming the Person You Were Born to Be Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsIn His Image...Discovering Your God Given Personality Characteristics. Discussion Guide. Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYour Eyes Can't See My Heart Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAs Long as There Is Breath in Your Body, There Is Still Hope Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHear the Word: Catholic Psychotherapy and Faith: Reflections on Seven Parables of Jesus Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow's Your Soul?: Why Everything that Matters Starts with the Inside You Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A Spirit Never Tires Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Lasting Impact of Positive Leadership Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Looking upon the Heart: Volume 1: The Five Dispositions Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSpiritual Values in the Workplace: The Soul of Success in the 21St Century Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMove Mountains, Swim Rivers: Peace, Power, and Prosperity in the Twenty-First Century Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYou Are What You Think Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsKnow Yourself Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsRelationships That Work: The Power of Conscious Living: A Transformative Communication Approach to Self-Realization Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYou Are Your Best Soul Mate: Learn to Respect Yourself by the Numbers in Your Life. Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Meet the Secret Inhabitants of Your Mind: Discover Who You Can Trust in the Battle for Your Soul Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Christianity For You
The Book of Enoch Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Bible Recap: A One-Year Guide to Reading and Understanding the Entire Bible Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Mere Christianity Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Don't Give the Enemy a Seat at Your Table: It's Time to Win the Battle of Your Mind... Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Unseen Realm: Recovering the Supernatural Worldview of the Bible Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Holy Bible (World English Bible, Easy Navigation) Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Screwtape Letters Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I'll Start Again Monday: Break the Cycle of Unhealthy Eating Habits with Lasting Spiritual Satisfaction Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Four Loves Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Law of Connection: Lesson 10 from The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Evidence That Demands a Verdict: Life-Changing Truth for a Skeptical World Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A Grief Observed Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Story: The Bible as One Continuing Story of God and His People Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Wild at Heart Expanded Edition: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Changes That Heal: Four Practical Steps to a Happier, Healthier You Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for Emotional Intelligence
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
Emotional Intelligence - Denn Eagle
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
how to resolve conflict, find purpose, and create wealth God’s Way
Denn Eagle
Trilogy Christian Publishers
Tustin, CA
Trilogy Christian Publishers
A Wholly Owned Subsidiary of Trinity Broadcasting Network
2442 Michelle Drive
Tustin, CA 92780
Emotional Intelligence: How to Resolve Conflict, Find Purpose, and Create Wealth God’s Way
Copyright © 2023 by Denn Eagle
All Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Version of the Bible. Public domain.
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without written permission from the author. All rights reserved. Printed in the USA.
Rights Department, 2442 Michelle Drive, Tustin, CA 92780.
Trilogy Christian Publishing/TBN and colophon are trademarks of Trinity Broadcasting Network.
For information about special discounts for bulk purchases, please contact Trilogy Christian Publishing.
Trilogy Disclaimer: The views and content expressed in this book are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect the views and doctrine of Trilogy Christian Publishing or the Trinity Broadcasting Network.
Manufactured in the United States of America
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is available.
ISBN: 979-8-88738-455-9
E-ISBN: 979-8-88738-456-6 (ebook)
Endorsements
Emotional Intelligence is a must-have manual for all influencers to maximize organizational effectiveness and for individuals to excel in all matters of life.
After a thirty-year HR career, hiring corporate leaders, and training hundreds of sales professionals in Fortune 500 companies, I find this book a must-have resource for a quick reference or in-depth study for corporate leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals.
I have known the author personally and professionally for over fifteen years. I have admired his effectiveness as a business and spiritual leader. Furthermore, I respect him as a personal friend, confidant, and counselor.
—Larry Raad,
Author of Transformational Prosperity
and The Power To Prosper
I loved it!
Once I started, I could not put it down. Eagle’s book is most applicable to our times. You will be blessed by reading it too.
—Noel Fuller, DMD
Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1. A Game-Changer
Interpersonal Dynamics
Emotional Injury
The Beatitudes
Claiming the Promises
Comparing Competencies
Chapter 2. Humility
A Kingdom Worldview
Kingdom Authority
Mastering Humility
Chapter 3. Patience
Patience in Suffering
Suffering Braces You for Avoiding Physical Harm
Suffering Prepares You for Forgiveness and Compassion
Suffering Equips You for Comforting Others
Suffering Helps to Shape Your Character
Suffering Opens the Door to Glorify God
Suffering May Lead to Salvation and Healing
Suffering Leads to Hope and Peace
Suffering Identifies with Christ’s Suffering
Suffering Readies You for Christ’s Ministry
Suffering Strengthens You for Leadership
Mastering Patience
Chapter 4. Meekness
The Game Stands Tall
The Meek Shall Inherit the Earth
Self-Empowerment versus Grace
Bitterness versus Forgiveness
Ownership versus Lordship
Greed versus Gratitude
Guilt versus Blameless
Mastering Meekness
Chapter 5. Integrity
Wisdom of Our Fathers
Righteousness Required
First, Legal Righteousness
Second, Imputed Righteousness
Third, Personal Righteousness
Character Disciplines
Emotional Soundness
A Clear Conscience
A Spiritual Appetite
Mastering Integrity
Chapter 6. Compassion
Great Commandment
First, Do I Love God Above Myself?
Do I Love My Neighbor as Myself?
Do I Genuinely Love Myself?
The Challenge of Compassion
Chapter 7. Motivation
Motivating Desire
Idenifying Your Passion
Discovering Your Why
The Golden Circle
Motivational DNA
Chapter 8. Leadership
Leadership Essentials
Kingdom Leaders Are Humble
Kingdom Leaders Have Patience
Kingdom Leaders Are Meek
Kingdom Leaders Have Integrity
Kingdom Leaders Are Compassionate
Kingdom Leaders Are Motivated
Kingdom Leaders Are Peacemakers
Calling Out Entrepreneurs
Chapter 9. Endurance
Patience
Testing
Tolerance
Adversaries
Persecution
Opportunity
A Crown of Righteousness
Chapter 10. Final Thought
Introduction
When I first heard that emotional intelligence (EI) could matter more than IQ, I was mesmerized by the name and concept. After months of research, I arrived at three questions:
What is a simple working definition of emotional intelligence?
How does EI trump mental intelligence most of the time?
How does EI embody so many behavioral traits?
My befuddlement was that every talent, skill, discipline, and principle known to mankind appears bundled under a single umbrella concept—emotional intelligence. That didn’t register with me! I asked myself, How could that be?
I argued, It just doesn’t make sense.
Eventually, however, I unearthed an excellent little book titled Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry, Ph.D., and Jean Greaves, Ph.D.¹
In their excellent work, the authors used the picture of a tree for visual support. When I saw that picture, I recalled Psalm 1:3 says, He shall be like a tree planted [roots implied] by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither, and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.
Jeremiah used a similar analogy, Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots [the keyword] by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit
(Jeremiah 17:7–8).
For thousands of years, Jews and Christians alike have understood how a healthy tree represents a righteous person’s walk with God. After the structure (trunk, limbs, and branches), a tree has three primary and distinct components: roots, leaves, and fruit (with seed). So the moment I noticed that picture from Bradberry and Greaves’ book on EI, a fresh insight into EI flashed across my mind. The tree had leaves but not a single fruit, nor were the roots visible.
Immediately, I knew how various facets of behavior would converge when using the analogy of a tree. Moreover, as a tree’s roots go unnoticed by the naked eye, the eight root competencies of emotional intelligence are hidden just under the surface of biblical insight. Therefore, this book highlights the eight biblical competencies foundational to EI—the roots.
As proficiency with the multiplication table is essential in mathematics, healthy competencies are critical in developing emotional intelligence. Proverbs 18:24 says, A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Not only will EI competencies help you create friends for life, but you will also likely find or confirm your purpose in life. Once engrafted into your heart, the eight competencies and nine promises of blessed
will also shed light on a path to favor, influence, opportunity, and abundance.
The psalmist describes a man as blessed
when his life is analogous to a healthy fruit tree. In select scriptures, the Greek defines blessed
as prosperous and happy, in that order. A blessed man is mentally and emotionally congruent in EI disciplines, honing these skills to precision. Moreover, he will be spiritually, financially, and materially successful. In other words, an honest and diligent person is prosperous to the degree his life reflects the three essential components of a viable fruit tree: roots, fruit, and leaves.
Perhaps you’re like me, desiring a more challenging, enjoyable, and rewarding way of life. If so, mastering emotional intelligence may be for you. EI will benefit anyone who pursues high achievement and personal satisfaction in life. This could include someone ranging from a high schooler to an educator, the terminally ill to a doctor, the disabled to an athlete, and a janitor to the company president.
A study on this subject will reveal universal and timeless root competencies that will change you and the world around you. So, join me on this journey to discovering new and lasting relationships, clarity of purpose, and how to fund your divine assignment.
Author’s note:
Proceeds from this book will go to non-profit organizations to help the socially distressed.
Unless otherwise noted, the Scripture passages used are direct quotes from or paraphrases of the King James Bible.
Chapter 1
A Game-Changer
A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good, and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil; for out of the abundance of the heart, his mouth speaketh
(Luke 6:45).
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he
(Proverbs 23:7).
For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness…
(Romans 10:10).
Scientific research sheds light on a surprising variable explaining why some individuals have higher achievement levels than others with the same mental IQ, education, skill, and experience. Consequently, Seventy-one percent of employers say they value emotional intelligence over IQ,
says Jennifer Grasz, writer for CareerBuilder.²
The term emotional intelligence
(EI) went public when psychologist Daniel Goleman published Emotional Intelligence, Why It Can Matter More Than IQ in 1995. Goleman’s book immediately became a New York Times bestseller. The business community embraced EI as vital to success across the board. Since publishing his book, Goleman has spoken around the globe, claiming that effective leaders have a high EI. He believes, In a very real sense, we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels.
³ Goldman’s research reveals, As much as 80% of adult success comes from EQ.
⁴
Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, co-authors of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, write,
EQ is so critical to success that it accounts for 58 percent of performance in all types of jobs. It’s the single biggest predictor of performance in the workplace and the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence.
Of all the people we’ve studied at work, we have found that 90 percent of high performers are also high in EQ. On the flip side, just 20 percent of low performers are high in EQ. You can be a high performer without EQ, but the chances are slim. People who develop their EQ tend to be successful on the job because the two go hand in hand.⁵
The Harvard Business Review (HBR) released an article in 1997 by psychologist Daniel Goleman that ranks as their most requested article. The response to this article prompted HBR to re-examine this subject again in 2003. Its conclusion?
In hard times, the soft stuff often goes away. But emotional intelligence, as it turns out, isn’t so soft. If emotional obliviousness jeopardizes your ability to perform, fend off aggressors, or become passionate in a crisis, no amount of attention to the bottom line will protect your career. Emotional intelligence isn’t a luxury you can dispense with in tough times. It’s a basic tool that, deployed with finesse, is the key to professional success.⁶
Emotional intelligence has come to be recognized as critical to human achievement. Consequently, there is growing interest in human emotions and how they affect attitude and behavior. Simply put, a person becomes emotionally intelligent as moral and rational thoughts correspond to a predetermined set of mental values and restraints that direct his decisions and conduct. Conversely, when the heart and mind send conflicting messages to the will, decisions and behaviors become unpredictable and unreliable. The conclusion is that positive character qualities, values, and disciplines will unite the heart and mind to function for good.
God has walked me personally and often painfully through most of what I share in the following pages. This book is a record of why and how Christ totally and radically changed my life. By mentally and emotionally engrafting eight specific life skills, you’ll compress the learning curve and fast-track your way to remarkable achievement, promotion, and lasting success.
Interpersonal Dynamics
I visited a Charlotte, North Carolina, client in his home about twenty-one years ago. We had only started a conversation when I asked, What kind of work do you do that provides this amazing home and comfortable lifestyle for your family?
He explained that he consulted with Fortune 500 companies regarding conflict management, which involves interpersonal dynamics affecting workplace culture and productivity. He added that ignoring these qualities will lead to disputes between workers, disgruntled staff, production downtime, and unnecessary employee turnover.
I asked, What, in your opinion, is the most significant relationship issue in Fortune 500 companies?
However, to my surprise, he hesitated and could not single out the most significant problem he faced daily. He appeared well-informed and had a four-year degree in his field of expertise, but he still didn’t have it nailed down. Here is how our conversation progressed from there:
I said, As I see it, the biggest conflict is between various levels of authority. For example, leadership has trouble with subordinates or employees failing to respect or follow management.
The client said, Yeah, that’s a big problem. That very well could be the biggest problem I see in management teams. It’s everywhere I go. Everyone wants to be the boss nowadays. You know, it’s the old saying that there are too many chiefs and not enough Indians.
I agreed.
Then I asked, In light of productivity loss, what’s another area of conflict responsible for hindering better profits?
He thought a minute and said, Well, it usually isn’t a single issue or just one person who shares in the problem. So, by the time I’m called, it’s a ‘he said, she said’ thing, and I have to determine the source and extent of the conflict.
I responded, I have a small business that can’t compare to a Fortune 500 company. However, my experience suggests that human suffering and loss create work problems. I think suffering from sickness, disease, sorrow from divorce, or losing a loved one would be high on the list. These issues are often behind absenteeism, tardiness, and emotional distress. I think it’s difficult for people to work when life forces them into these situations, right?
My client nodded in agreement and said, Yeah, people come to work with their pain, if they come to work at all. They may need support from co-workers or management leaders at work but often fail to get it. There are times when no one seems to care when a co-worker is suffering, which often creates isolation or loneliness. Instead of being indifferent and unsympathetic to a co-worker, a little understanding or compassion could transform their workplace culture.
As we talked, I realized that he could see the forest but was overlooking the trees; he could see the big picture but was missing the details. So, I asked, "What do you think would be another significant area