You'll Do Anything for Her: A New Relationship Perspective - 2nd Edition
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In this breakout self-help book from Psychologist, Maureen Hosier and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, the language of relationships is redefined as you read about your "self". Traditional labels are set aside in favor of understanding what you're truly thinking and feeling, why you're the person who gives up your "self"
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You'll Do Anything for Her - Maureen E Hosier
For all of us who learned to give up ourselves and to do anything (and everything) for those we love.
If there are physical threats, out-of-control rages, or violence in your relationship, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for referrals in your local area. They can guide you and your family toward safety. They are available 24/7.
1-800-799-7233
TTY 1-800-787-3224
http://www.thehotline.org
http://www.loveisrespect.org
(for teens and young adults)
If your partner is lying to you, stealing from you, addicted to drugs or alcohol, having a long-term affair or series of affairs, or is verbally or physically abusive, the consequences of these substantial and difficult behaviors must be addressed by you first.
It is your responsibility to protect yourself and your dependents from your partner’s inability to care about anyone but herself.
You cannot change her, nor can you wait for her to change.
No matter your circumstances, even if you’re not sure what’s happening and just need someone to talk to, we encourage you to consider individual therapy, counseling in your religious affiliation, or a recovery program specific to your needs.
Disclaimer
This book is not intended to provide personalized professional psychiatric or psychological counseling, advice, or services. The coauthors specifically disclaim any liability, loss, or risk, personal or otherwise, that is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, of the use and application of any of the contents of this book.
The information and content of this book is intended for informational purposes only and is in the nature of a self-help
book rather than a treatment service. If you need therapy or psychiatric consultation, we recommend you contact a licensed mental health professional or religious counselor. The advice of your doctor or therapist or religious affiliation should always be considered when it comes to your health-care and relationship decisions, and information received in the form of a self-help book or similar publication, even when produced by licensed professionals, is not personalized and can in no way be considered treatment for mental health problems or relationship issues. The authors and publishers of this book provide this information and content exclusively for educational, informational, and self-help purposes, and do not represent this book as a treatment service.
The information is general in nature and provided only to give you a starting point for further reading and/or seeking help from a qualified professional in relation to your personal circumstances.
Dearest,
What I want most is to feel cared about and loved by you.
I’ve tried everything, but it’s not working.
What more can I do?
I love you so much, but I feel like there is just one of us in our relationship.
Me
A New Relationship Perspective
This book sets forth a framework of understanding for people who want to know why they don’t feel loved and cared about when they give their partner all their focus, attention, caring, understanding, consideration, and love.
Doing anything for her is your style of relating.
Throughout my professional career, I observed many similarities between my own personal relationship experiences, my sister’s relationship experiences, and those of my clients.
It was emotionally painful to listen as my clients of all sexual orientations used words such as unhealthy,
dysfunctional,
or codependent.
Many of them talked about themselves or referred to their partners as passive-aggressive,
borderline,
or narcissistic.
These words tended to trap those individuals into thinking that there was something wrong with them or their partner.
I then began to describe what was happening in their relationships without labels, and more in terms of growing
and changing their perspectives.
My observations and understandings converged into a desire to write a book about what was happening for many of us.
I came to believe that relationships are important opportunities to grow emotionally by learning how to take care of one’s self. Growing emotionally requires that I stop trying to get love from the outside, and instead focus on giving love to myself.
When I decided to write a book on relationships, I asked for my sister’s help.
As we began to dissect and discuss the experiences and issues of my clients, who were in great emotional pain because their relationships were not working, we began to identify and organize a framework that would best explain what was happening for those who would do anything for their partner.
The starting point was how each person in the couple was raised and how they learned to relate with their parents.
As we began writing, multiple relationship issues came up between us that we, ourselves, had to experience and understand. We had to