The Mindful Woman: Gentle Practices for Restoring Calm, Finding Hope, & Opening Your Heart
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“Based on scientific research and its author’s deep insights, it is comprehensive and caring… a wonderful book.” —Rick Hanson, PhD, psychologist, author of Buddha’s Brain, Resilient, Hardwiring Happiness, and Neurodharma.
Discover a greater sense of focus through a combination of inspirational words of wisdom from various women and mindfulness activities that teach you about the importance of your well-being.
Life moves fast. As women, we wear various hats in our lives. Oftentimes, we forget to stop and take a deep breath to center ourselves. Author and champion of women, Sue Patton Thoele, shows you how to incorporate mindfulness into your busy and dynamic life. Learn to take control of your peace and discover how to maintain a clear head amid the chaos while keeping your feet firmly on the ground.
A practical and easily understood mindfulness guide. This book is a friend whose hand you can hold on the path toward being present in the moment. Finding your way leads naturally to a more open heart, inner peace, and greater zest for life. Theole uses a gentle and humorous approach that makes The Mindful Woman a practical and easily understood guide for those who are new to the practice of mindfulness and those who are already familiar with its gifts. Even the busiest of women among us can embrace mindfulness and reap the benefits.
This mindfulness activities guide is with you every step of the way and offers you:
- Sixty-five simple and effective mindfulness activities
- Stories from real women who provide inspiration
- Lessons on healing and connecting with your innermost self
If you enjoyed books like The Self Care Prescription, The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness, or The Mindfulness Journal, you’ll love The Mindful Woman.
Sue Patton Thoele
Sue Patton Thoele was a psychotherapist for more than twenty years, and is the author of ten books including The Woman's Book of Confidence, The Woman's Book of Soul, and The Courage to Be Yourself. She and her husband, Gene, live in Boulder, Colorado near their children and grandchildren. Visit her online at www.suepattonthoele.com.
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The Mindful Woman - Sue Patton Thoele
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The Mindful Woman: Gentle Practices for Restoring Calm, Finding Hope, & Opening Your Heart
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Table of Contents
Foreword
Do You Know What Your Mind Is Doing?
Introduction
An Ongoing Quest
Part I
Exploring the Basics
Chapter 1
What Is Mindfulness and Why Do We Want It?
Elements of Mindfulness
Myths of Mindfulness
Differences Between Mindful and Automatic Living
A Word about Women
Practice: Mindfully Inviting a Quality Through Breathing
Busy Women Can Be Mindful Too
Intention as Ally
Why Choose Mindfulness?
Benefits of Mindfulness
Part II
The Practices
Chapter 2
Cultivating Compassionate Awareness
Beginning with Breath
Stopping to Look, Listen, and Feel
Paying Attention to Warning Signs
Showering Yourself with Stars
Taking Time-Outs
Uncovering the Origin of Feeling
Recognizing Emotional Fallout
Accepting Rather than Rejecting
Living Gently with Yourself
Inviting Awareness Through Haiku
Chapter 3
Being at Home in the Moment
Taming the Monkey Mind
Choosing a Positive Attitude
Enjoying Everyday Beauty
Surrounding with Space
Feeding Body & Soul
Blessings of Breathing
Keeping Hope Afloat
Infusing Meaning into the Monotonous
Rebelling with Radical Wisdom
Chapter 4
Savoring the Qualities of a Quiet Mind
Seeing with Clarity
Experiencing Equanimity
Making the Best Choice
Upping Tolerance Levels
Cultivating Cockeyed Optimism
Tuning in to Wisdom
Activating Awe
Saying Yes to Receptivity
Opening to Spaciousness
Chapter 5
Accepting What Is
Earning Angel Wings
Giving Up Grumbling
Choosing the Parts You Play
Waiting for Ripeness
Making Heaven of Hell
Remembering to Exhale
Taking AIM
Giving Grace Your Hand
Chapter 6
Overflowing from an Open Heart
Starting a Kindness Revolution
Finding Freedom in Forgiveness
Being a Friend
Knowing You are Lovable and Loved
Giving Gratitude a Go
Expecting Good
Being a Cheerleader
Acting Lovingly
Chapter 7
Generating Soft Power
Tying Up Loose Ends
Accessing Body Wisdom
Reeling in Projections
Noticing What’s Right
Valuing Authenticity Over Perfection
Finding and Using Your Voice
Erring on the Side of Generosity
Transforming Fear
Chapter 8
Inviting Serenity Through Simplicity
Overloading Evolution
Moving at Your Own Pace
Lubricating Life with Time
Opting for Simplicity of Thought
Being for, Not Against
Discovering Simple Solutions
Rightsizing Each Day
Expecting the Best
Noticing Singular Beauty
Chapter 9
Fulfilling the Promise of Presence
Awakening Beginner’s Mind
In-Bodying Life
Perceiving Wholeness
Instilling Strength
The Healing Power of Listening
Seeing Synchronicity
Trusting in Goodness
Doing unto Others
Highlighting Lovingkindness
Part III
Enjoying the Benefits
Chapter 10
Why Mindfulness Feels So Good
Awareness First
Freedoms that Follow
Walking Mindfully
Acknowledgments
References
Author Biography
Foreword
Do You Know What Your Mind Is Doing?
I’m honored to be writing the foreword to Sue Patton Thoele’s The Mindful Woman for two reasons. The first is because in my work helping CEOs and other executives around the world grow and change, something she taught me decades ago is one of the things I most often say to my clients: Be gentle with yourself and others. It was the self part I needed to learn most about.
Sue taught me self-compassion long before it had a name and researchers and institutes. It’s such an important lesson. We can’t truly change if we aren’t kind to ourselves. Harshness creates shame, and shame is a toxic emotion that we draw away from. We run mentally from whatever is causing that feeling, and thus we don’t learn and grow. Plus shaming ourselves causes adrenaline and cortisol to go racing through our systems, and we all have too much of that already! Gentleness or self-compassion produces oxytocin, the love hormone, which makes us feel calmer, more capable, and therefore better able to transform.
Sue’s gentle approach runs through every thought and word in this book. She treats you kindly as a reader and hopefully that will translate to how you treat yourself as you explore being more mindful in your life.
Which brings me to the second reason I am grateful to be introducing this book to you: there is nothing more important right now in the world than the cultivation of mindfulness. It’s not the only thing we have to do to heal our world and find our way together. But it is the base from which we create wise thought, wise speech, and wise action.
Here’s why: Mindfulness creates what interpersonal neurobiologist Dr. Daniel Siegel calls mindsight, the ability of the mind to observe the mind. Mindsight helps us get ourselves off of the autopilot of ingrained behaviors and habitual responses,
writes Siegel on his mindsight website, which gives us greater options of response: Oh, I see I am about to say something unkind; do I really want to do that? That noticing, that awareness, is where transformation is born. The more we know what our minds are doing, the more we become in charge of them, then we can respond more, rather than react.
And it’s not just our thinking that gets better, but our emotional responses as well. With mindsight, we are able to name and tame
the emotions we are experiencing, rather than being overwhelmed by them. Labeling creates a space between ourselves and our feelings that allows us to dig fewer holes that are hard to get out of.
Mindsight has been called many other names: Going to the balcony,
the Witness Self, your wise mind. Whatever you call it, it’s the part of your mind that knows what your mind is doing. And growing that capacity is the door not only to freedom, but to truly being able to live gently with yourself and others.
May this journey bring you greater kindness, peace, and connection.
—MJ Ryan
Introduction
An Ongoing Quest
I am thankful for the opportunity to republish The Mindful Woman during this incredibly intense and life-changing time. As the world reels from the effects of a pandemic and the United States is being called to live up to its name by ending racism and inequality, the opportunity to explore what many of us yearn for in our heart of hearts is an honor. Even in the best of times, women want peace of mind, open hearts, and an enduring sense of balance and purpose. We want to dispel fear with steadfast gratitude, compassion, and hope. And especially in uncertain times filled with anguish and outrage, we need to love ourselves as deeply and unselfishly as we do others. We want to make a positive difference, be heard, and feel fulfilled.
Can learning to live mindfully grant us these desires? I don’t know, but I do know I feel more openhearted, calm, and hopeful since discovering the promise and practice of mindfulness. Although I’m sure age and circumstances are factors in my softening toward myself and life in general, I’m continually amazed by the calm joy that so often accompanies mindfulness…when I remember to do it.
While I’m not an expert on mindfulness, I am passionately committed to increasing mindfulness and presence in both my inner and outer journeys. I leaped at the chance to write about mindfulness because one of the best ways to learn something at a deep and enduring level is to study and teach it. However, in the process of trying to practice what I write, I’m alternately appalled and amused by just how elusive mindfulness can be—and how incredibly easy it is for me to be seduced away from simplicity and focused awareness into multitasking and rampant mind-mucking.
The other day I caught myself being absentminded as I was simultaneously bringing up my emails, scrubbing allergy-inducing cat dander off my computer screen, and obsessing about the state of the not-so-unified union. There was no harm done in that episode of mindlessness, and I even felt a little amused when I became conscious of it. However, when I’m too exhausted to sleep because I’m overcommitted, obsessively fretting about people or circumstances I can’t change, resentful, or chastising myself for something, that’s not funny. How I wish I’d known about mindfulness and conscious presence when I was a single mom losing sleep over many nights, worrying about how I was going to take care of myself and my sons.
Thankfully, both science and psychology now recognize that the stress of busy mindlessness is epidemic in our society. Many of us know from experience that unrelenting, helter-skelter thoughts and behaviors can result in damaged health, poor relationships, and a chaotic mind, to name only a few harmful effects. We can alter stress-provoking behavior. Awareness is the first step in making positive change. Knowing that mindlessness increases stress, we can choose to turn toward mindfulness, which roots us deeply in the moment and plants us firmly in the reality of now. Even when now is painful and difficult, mindfulness can help neutralize inner and outer chaos and invite balance and harmony into our lives and beings.
Searching for the grace that comes with mindful living is an ongoing quest. When grace holds my hand during comfortable times, I feel in-the-flow with all that is good and right within and around me and life seems joyous, light, fun, and comforting. During challenging yet mindful times, life can feel rich, fertile, and growth producing. So why are mindful times inconsistent? Why do I too often feel the need to exhort myself to Slow down! Shut up! Stay open!
in a manner that contradicts my long-term motto of Live gently with yourself and others?
I imagine mindful times are rarer than I would like because my energy is jangled and scattered, my awareness snagged on the past or the future—a fragment weighing problematic options, a slice gnawing on the malfunctioning computer, a wedge worried about injustice or a struggling adult child. In other words, when I’m not inhabiting my life right now, there’s no place for balance, harmony, and hope to stick. Now is the only time anything truly exists. Right now—this moment, this experience, this feeling, this interaction—is your life. All else is shadow and smoke, often colored by fear.
Consciously living in the moment is at the core of mindfulness practices. To be mindful is to be truly alive. Mindfulness allows you to be fully present to your authentic self and to live your life with acute awareness and an open heart. Does this mean you may experience pain more deeply? Possibly. Will mindfulness bring you more joy and serenity? Yes, I’ve found that to be true. Is it worth the effort? For me, absolutely. Because you are reading this, my bet is you already have tasted the depth, meaning, and magic of mindful living and would love to experience more of it.
My intention for The Mindful Woman is that it defines mindfulness in an easily understood way, provides stories and examples of women who find mindful living rewarding, and gives you many practices that can make the path easier and more fun should you choose to pursue it. My wish for The Mindful Woman is that it provides a springboard for both you and me from which we can dive openheartedly into the numinous now and live our lives more fully, joyously, and consciously. I hope the stories included in the book not only inspire you but also allow you to feel you have friends along the way. They show that I—and all the women portrayed in these pages—lurch, stumble, fall, and forget a thousand times, but the beautiful feelings of peace, joy, relaxation, and openheartedness that mindfulness brings keep us recommitting to the journey.
The Mindful Woman can be used in a variety of ways—as a meditation guide, a daily friend and reminder, or the answer to a specific question. If you want to make one particular practice a habit, try concentrating on it for twenty-one days straight. Experts have found it takes twenty-one days to either break an old habit or create a new one. You can also ask for the perfect, right entry for the moment and open the book at random. Random opening is intuitive and fun and sometimes elicits an amazed No way!
Or you may enjoy the process of moving through the book in sequence. Trust