Diamonds of Truth: For Successful Personal Relationships
By Linda Christensen and Norma Strange
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Diamonds of Truth reveals truths about personal relationships that few people discover on their own.
The discovery of these truths is like entering a dark room, turning on the lights, and finding diamonds of truth.
The book presents diamonds of truth from the Bible. The
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Diamonds of Truth - Linda Christensen
Diamonds of Truth
for Successful personal relationships
Linda Christensen and Norma Strange
(Previously titled Mission ImPossible)
Trilogy Christian Publishers
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Diamonds of Truth
Copyright © 2022 by Linda Christensen and Norma Strange
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Acknowledgements
Praise God for His amazing love and guidance.
This book presents the dream to communicate the truths in this book to children and grandchildren, sisters and brothers, nieces and nephews, best friends, Christian and non-Christian friends, and as many others as possible. For many years, this dream seemed hopeless. However, God’s direction and presence in recent circumstances has allowed the revised publication of this book.
Thank you for your time and consideration of this book. Thank you in advance for reading the book. Our desire and purpose for writing is to illuminate some truths about personal relationships that few people discover on their own. Discovering these truths is like entering a dark room, turning on the lights, and finding diamonds—diamonds of truth.
We are honored and thrilled for you to take the time to read this book and to look prayerfully for these diamonds of truth.
In Christ’s Love,
Linda Christensen & Norma Strange
Dedication
Each of us believed, received, and confessed faith in Jesus as young teenagers. We dedicate this book to Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord, and to Linda’s husband, Don, and Norma’s husband, Al, as well as to our children, grandchildren, sisters, brothers, and friends.
Don and Linda enjoyed almost thirty-two years of marriage before Don went home to heaven in 2015. Praise God for loving relationships, specifically their children: Dagny, Eric and Jean, Kira and Mike, Brett, and Tiffany; and their grandchildren: Jerry and Toni, Danielle, Ethan, Andrew, Christian, Wyatt, and Emily.
Al and Norma celebrated their thirty-seventh wedding anniversary in 2021. Thank God for the love of their children: Dawn and Dave, Michelle and Matt; and their grandchildren: Mason, Andrew, Britney, Ainsley, and Lena.
We dedicate this book with sincere praises to God. We are grateful to God for the persons listed above and for our parents: Maurice and Vera; sisters and brothers: Larry and Donna, Diana and Allen, Marvin, Robert and Susan, and Kenneth; and our blended families: Beverly and J.W., Jeff, and many other relatives and friends who have modeled and shared true Christian love.
We thank each encourager of this project. Only God knows everyone who contributed to achieving this dream. We express sincere gratitude to Tiffany Christensen, Kira Christensen Durham, Michelle Hutchens, Candace Deans, Dave Shreve, Gregg Hauss, Jamie Fish, and especially the persons who provided thoughts for the following pages.
Comments & Endorsements
The hardest work you will ever do is maintaining good relationships. The world teaches you to expect a quid-pro-quo; you give to get. If you are not fulfilled, it is their fault, and you can just move on, close off, or engage in other self-defeating behavior that leaves us unsatisfied. Jesus says that He has come to give us abundant life that is fulfilling. The Bible says to give and expect nothing in return and then God Himself will fulfill you. This book provides practical aids to follow Christ’s example to die to self, take up your cross, and be Christlike in your relationships. The text provides many examples of how to replace actions that lead to discouragement and distance in relationships with actions that lead to encouragement and growth. When you give Christlike love to others it will be returned to you, …give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give will be the measure you get back
(Luke 6:38). Are you willing to trust God on His Word? If you are frustrated with the quality of your relationships and you are ready to try God’s way according to His Word, then this book can provide many helpful tips to replace harmful behaviors and show Christ’s love in all situations.
Dr. Timothy Manuel, Rudyard B. Goode Professor of Finance,
University of Montana, Missoula, MT
This book takes a refreshingly honest look at our human frailties and how, through the power of the Word of God, they can be overcome.
Dr. Ken C. Snead, professor of accounting,
Bowling Green State University, Bowling Green, OH
Authors Christensen and Strange have provided a valuable resource that strikes at the heart of our existence: relationships and encouragement. Their practical approach makes this book both a blessing and a ready guide for life. I heartily recommend it and encourage you to read the book and apply its timeless principles.
Dr. Michael Spradlin, president,
Mid-America Baptist Theological Seminary, Cordova, TN
Relationships that are real are always challenging. Linda and Norma provide scenarios that aid us in evaluating our roles in important relationships and invite us to consider what Jesus would do. If you want to improve your relationships—marital, family, friends, or business—spend some time with this book.
Connie Inglish, retired assistant vice president
for employer services,
The Pension Fund of the Christian Church, Indianapolis, IN
This book offers much encouragement for those who struggle in negative and discouraging personal relationships. The application of the Scriptures to these difficult issues is excellent. Thank you for writing such an encouraging and needed book.
Brenda Smith, retired adjunct teacher,
Southwest Tennessee Community College, Memphis, TN
Dr. Linda Christensen has done a marvelous job of blending together her training, her personal experience, and her love for the Word of God into a timely tool to assist you in managing and surviving some of life’s challenging situations. The book includes many practical suggestions for applying the ideas into your life.
Phil Newberry, retired minister of pastoral care,
Bellevue Baptist Church, Memphis, TN
This book provides interesting and eye-opening ways to approach real-life situations. Its experience-based scenarios are useful to motivate better understanding of us as human beings. It is a valuable reference for those striving to have good and meaningful relationships.
Pettchu Ting, friend, Singapore, Asia
Goals
This book was written specifically to:
Emphasize Christ’s redemptive gift to each true believer—the Holy Spirit’s power to replace natural human tendencies with Christlike behaviors.
Reflect our passionate desire to provide the impetus and momentum for transformed relationships with God first and then with everyone else.
Take the subject of discouragement and create a book about enlightenment.
Explore details behind behaviors and illuminate opportunities for behavioral changes—diamonds of truth.
Encourage greater depths of understanding about how our hearts and minds affect our behaviors.
Emphasize the heart changes that are so essential for behavioral changes.
Describe scenarios or life dramas, illuminating pathways for specific behavioral changes.
Produce a fast read
and a valuable reference book.
Contents
Acknowledgements iii
Dedication iv
Comments & Endorsements viii
Goals x
1. Vision: Purpose and Intended Audience 1
Mission Impossible→Mission ImPossible4
Diamonds of Truth 5
You Can Change Only Your Own Behavior 7
2. Roles: Protagonists and Recipient 9
3. Environment for Discouragement 13
4. Examples: Scenarios of Discouragement 19
Power Plays 22
Expecting Immediate Response(s) 24
Refusing To Accept A No
Answer 26
Cutting Communication 28
Name-Calling Or Bashing 30
Using Veiled Attack(s) 32
Being Negative, Negative, Negative 34
Insisting Upon An Apology 36
Passing Judgment Via Performance Testing 38
Zeroing In On Worst Aspects Of Performance 40
Seeming Impossible To Please 42
Transferring Anger 44
Justification Ploys 46
Using Overstatements 48
Justifying Judgment 50
Pursuing Antagonistic Attack(s) 52
Projecting Frustations onto Recipients 54
Escape Routes 56
Assigning Or Delegating Tasks 58
Rejecting Ideas 60
Repositioning the Relationship 62
Conveying Double Messages 64
Initiating Uncertainty 66
Using Manipulation 68
Professing Martyrdom 70
Indulging in Substitution Dreams 72
Discouragement: Recognizable and Identifiable 74
5. Defense Mechanisms: Reactions to Protagonist’s Role 75
Take Defensive Position
78
Pursue A Lifelong Quest To Prove Yourself 82
Believe You Are Perfectly Okay the Way You Are 84
Justify Impatience 86
Nurture Jealousy 88
Seek Comfort Via a Bad Habit
....................90
Refuse to Quit Indulging in a Bad Habit
.......92
Pursue Best Defense Is Superb Offense
94
Strive to Be Successful in the Protagonist’s Role 98
Determine to Be and Prove You Are Right
100
Pursue Self-Sufficiency and Total
Independence 102
Refuse to Set and/or Prioritize Personal
Goals 104
Indulge in Wishful Thinking 106
Choose Friends Recklessly 108
Throw in the Towel
110
View Every Opportunity or Challenge
Negatively 114
Refuse to Believe in Change for the Better 116
Pretend to Be Innocent Until Proven Guilty 118
Resolve That You Will Not Care 120
Believe The Lie That Everyone Is Against You 122
Resolve to Avoid or Reject Others 124
Become Dishonest with Your True Feelings 126
Seek to Escape Life 128
Penalize
130
Fake or Minimize Cooperation 134
Using Jokes to Camouflage Aggression 136
Be Vengeful 138
Resolve to Ignore Anyone Else’s Beliefs or Feelings 140
Rebel by Being Wasteful or Destructive of
Property 142
Refuse to Acknowledge the Distinction
Between Penalties and Consequences 144
Use Purchasing to Penalize 146
Use Sexual Encounters to Penalize 148
Defense Mechanisms: Destructive and Tragic 150
6. Rebirth: Dominant Preference for Protagonist’s
Role 151
Dominant Protagonist 153
7. Metamorphosis: Recipient to "Dominant
Protagonist" 154
8. Results: Tragic Outcomes versus Preferred
Outcomes 162
Behavior: Hurt Someone (Unintentionally or Intentially) 168
Behavior: Observe Someone’s Pain 173
9. Attitudes: Discouragement Modes 179
Driven by Independence 185
Incapable of Viewing Own Perspective
Objectively 185
Incapable of Viewing Recipient’s Side 186
Supersensitive to Criticism 187
Reluctant to Take or Trust Advice from
Anyone 188
Refuses to Be Entangled with Relationships 189
Fatalistic 190
Envisions Few Choices or Alternatives 190
Reluctant to Take Responsibility 191
I Think I Can’t
192
Impossible 193
Denial of Reality 194
Denies Own Attitudes and Feelings 194
Tends to Shoot the Messenger
195
Denies the Risks af a Bad Habit
196
Prefers Living in Fantasy or Denial of
Reality 197
Justifies Lies or Half-Truths 198
Fears Partnership and Commitment 199
Fears Abandonment 200
Jealous of Attention 201
Pursue Christlike Character 202
10. Hallelujah: With God All Things Are Possible! 203
"I am the LORD, the God of All Mankind. Is
Anything Too Hard for Me?" (Jeremiah 32:27) 203
Believe God 205
Love God 206
Love 206
Pray 207
Be Honest 207
Forgive 208
Find and Replace 208
Be Generous and Extend Grace 209
Reject Evil 209
Be Joyful and Merciful 210
Be Strong and Courageous 210
Live So Others Can See Your Faith by Your
Deeds 210
Reject Your Natural Human Tendencies to React by Doing What Comes Naturally
211
Mission Impossible→Mission ImPossible212
Diamonds of Truth 214
Chapter 1
Vision: Purpose
and Intended Audience
This book reveals truths about personal relationships that few people discover on their own. Discovery of these truths is like entering a dark room, turning on the lights, and finding diamonds of truth. The book’s main goal is to motivate you to replace the seemingly impossible with Mission ImPossible
and encourage you to discover what changes you can make to improve your life and your personal relationships.
Self-help books seem to be so plentiful. Who can justify another? What makes this book valuable? What important concepts does it present? What unique content does it contain? Why invest your precious leisure time to read it?
How could so many self-improvement books exist and yet coexist alongside so much blindness and ineffectiveness? Men and women seem to embrace widespread skepticism about the wisdom of expecting to be able to discover behavioral changes to improve personal relationships. Three interconnected Christian truths provide the foundation for some of this skepticism.
First, too many books omit or ignore the ultimate truth. Jesus’s fulfillment of His unique mission in this world is the ultimate truth. Jesus is the Redeemer of lost mankind. Jesus Himself said, I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me
(John 14:6).
Second, too many people do not believe