Summary of John Townsend's Boundaries with Teens

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

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#1 The more you can recall how you felt and what you did in your youth, the better a parent you will be.

#2 Parents should remember how difficult the teen years can be and connect with their teens, as that will help them empathize with them.

#3 Parents want to be remembered by their kids as someone who stuck with them, helped them make sense of the world, and learned from the consequences of their actions.

#4 Reflect back on your own childhood and see how you handled conflict with your parents. You may have been surly and angry, or you may have sneakily done what you wanted behind their backs. Either way, you probably didn't enjoy the alienation.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Oct 8, 2022
• ISBN: 9798350040371

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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The more you can recall how you felt and what you did in your youth, the better a parent you will be.

#2

Parents should remember how difficult the teen years can be and connect with their teens, as that will help them empathize with them.

#3

Parents want to be remembered by their kids as someone who stuck with them, helped them make sense of the world, and learned from the consequences of their actions.

#4

Reflect back on your own childhood and see how you handled conflict with your parents. You may have been surly and angry, or you may have sneakily done what you wanted behind their backs. Either way, you probably didn't enjoy the alienation.

#5

Remember how you felt as a kid, and you will be a better parent.

#6

Remember how you felt as a teenager, and you will be a better parent. If you are able to recall your youthful emotions and experiences, you will be much more effective at parenting. Remember how difficult the teen years can be and connect with your teens. Remember how you felt as a kid and you will be a better parent.

#7

Remember your own past, and you will be a better parent.

#8

Know who your teen is, and be interested in him as a person rather than a problem. He will be more likely to want to connect with you.

#9

Ask questions that require more than yes and no. Begin with questions about facts, move to thoughts, and then to emotions. Your teenager needs you to know him at a heart level, not just at an event level.

#10

Remember your own past, and you will be a better parent.

Insights from Chapter 2

#1

Remember your past, and you will be a better parent. Know who your teen is, and be interested in him as a person rather than a