Behind Every Closed Door: Healing the Family

By Marie Tan-Hancock MA

Behind Every Closed Door-Healing the Family
In some ways the harsh details and the insights emphasized in this book will speak for themselves. With so many families now in the world being corrupted heinously - as an Author, my desire for God to use me in accordance with His will has become more heartfelt with every day. I prayed fervently for guidance, grace and strength to keep me going until I could finish this book.
Aside from praying, I also feel that, in writing, I am closest to God.
This book is God centered. It is inscribed and founded by His Words. It will provide reminders of the power of God's WORDS. His WORDS have powers to heal and make us renewed individuals in love, life and spirit.
No family is faultless. All of us are broken.
Sometimes our status and conditions, whether they be financial, health, success, age and way of life, separate us from our generational family; aside from relation problems, distance, valleys and winding roads. Our family gradually will grow in time as an endless chain connected through past and present, different intergenerational phases: beginning from our original family that we were born into, to the family we are now creating after marriage, evolving and extending to another. Each member of every family has different emotional baggage issues to carry, which can continue building up in time from infancy to adulthood. It is not about who are the rich, the poor, the famous, the naughtiest and the nicest in the family. It is about healing and loving our family where blessings and curses originate and evolve. Let's help heal our families. Let the blessings flow and stop the maledictions and spells that have befallen our families in every generation. May this book help us break those spells.
It is about letting the healing love of God become involved in our family life every day. It is about making our family, a family of God.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Aug 15, 2022
• ISBN: 9780996129985

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Copyrighted 2022  Marie Tan- Hancock Author. All rights reserved.

No part of this book maybe reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system without permission in writing from the publisher.

The stories told in this book are based on real events, however, the true names, and characterizations of individuals have been changed out of respect for the families.   

Published and printed in the USA by Hummingbird Books

ISBN: 978-0-99-612998-5

Dedication

I dedicate this book in memory of my loving parents, three deceased older siblings, and to every family who needs healing.

In every lifetime, I would choose you Ma and Pa to be my parents.

And to all my family in the present and future generations to come.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Let Peace Begin with Me

Chapter 2: Bird’s Eye View: The Human Structured Family

Chapter 3: Why We Need to Pray for Our Families

Chapter 4: Let Us Heal Our Family

Chapter 5: The Holy Family

Acknowledgements

About the Author

As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live.

Pope John Paul II

Introduction

    For almost four decades I have been involved in the healing ministry. I’ve witnessed a lot of physical and spiritual healing taking place in the renewal of the spirit seminars, in praying over, praying for intercession, and in celebrating daily church services such as the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. After finishing my graduate studies in Counseling Psychology, I began to focus more of my interest and teachings on a psycho-spiritual approach to healing of the distress that stemmed from childhood experiences, emotional or physical illnesses. I found out that there are a number of families that need healing of their relationships, their physical and mental predicaments, and need guidance in renewing their spirit. I believe with all my heart that when God is placed in the center of our life – healing becomes possible.

Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God and trust also in me. NLT John 14:1

    Many problems in the world ultimately originated from a disturbed nuclear family system. It is saddening to know that not until someone has endured an abusive relationship (they may be dead or alive, missing, in a remote hospital bed, being trafficked or killed), or when innocent victims are murdered, or someone is caught using or selling illegal drugs, or finally when the disturbed individual comes to seek help or sadly has taken their own life that it becomes evident that there is serious trouble within that home.

    A few years ago, an acquaintance’s cousin committed suicide. It was a shock to everyone concerned. In another incident, a father killed his three children then shot himself. Just recently, a body was found on the street in New York and was identified to that of a former famous beauty queen in the US. The Police suspected that case was a suicide. A mother on trial for killing her three-year-old daughter was acquitted and is presently free of charges. Parents were bludgeoned in their own homes by their own sons who were involved with drugs. Thirteen children were locked up by their own parents for most of their lives, until finally discovered in a filthy house, described to be like a horrific dungeon. These children were supposed to be raised in a loving home. Three malnourished boys jumped from a window to escape from their abusive mother’s girlfriend and partner who had treated them like animals. And the news never ends. Whatever the latest, there are serious and ever-erupting interpersonal relationship problems in our news every day. It seems we are witnessing a bursting evolution of these problems in the world right now. It is often not good to make blanket assumptions, but there is likely an unchecked but brewing emotional crisis in almost every family, and in our society at large. Denying and ignoring, not recognizing the simmering origin of these problems, can lead to the growing progression of such devastating news stories every day. Without a doubt, there are persisting root causes of these tragedies and traumas going on nowadays. Each person in our society is battling his or her own emotional, interpersonal problem quietly, and not just their own demons. If one member of the family is disturbed and unstable, the entire family can be in crisis. We are all affected because we are family. We never know what is behind every closed door.

    As our world turns, the chaos around us will never stop. Families are hurting everywhere. People keep sinning. Teenage pregnancies are widespread. Unwed mothers need help for their children. Many of the young fathers in these relationships are jobless, or possibly incarcerated. Many individuals have addiction problems causing havoc not only to themselves, but to the community. Young children are exposed to a growing atmosphere of violence and hopelessness that often starts in their own homes. A large percentage of today’s families are separated, with children often fatherless and sometimes motherless, and who may grow up poorly nurtured and not properly fed. Under these conditions, children are frequently abused emotionally, physically, sexually and verbally. Too often, spouses fall into adulterous relationships that lead them to abandon and severely damage their families. Drug addiction is rampant within sectors of our society, contributing to the dissolution of families. Moral decline and lack of discipline in society has led to so many abhorrent things happening, almost beyond imagination. Conflict is commonplace within families. The bickering among members of the extended family sometimes may continue with no end in sight. Too many people care excessively about material things and their status quo, rather than being concerned with their spiritual life and