Healing and Acceptance: The Path To Self Love And Improvement

By Amber A

I hope you will find yourself enlightened, informed and inspired on your path to healing and acceptance.

This book will explain what healing is, why we all need it, what the benefits are, how to approach it, why acceptance is important and how to practice it. Writing this book has helped me enormously on my own journey, allowin

• Language: English
• Publisher: Amber Publishing Ltd
• Release date: Jun 26, 2022
• ISBN: 9786277505585

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HEALING

AND

ACCEPTANCE

THE PATH TO SELF LOVE

AND

IMPROVEMENT

Amber A

COPYRIGHT

HEALING AND ACCEPTANCE: The Path To Self-Improvement

by

Amber A

Published by Amber Publishing Ltd

Copyright © 2022

All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced in any form without permission from the publisher, except as permitted by U.K. copyright law.

ISBN: 978-6-27-750558-5 eBook

ISBN: 978-6-27-750559-2 Paperback

ISBN: 978-6-27-750560-8 Hardcover

DEDICATION

I would like to dedicate this book to my mum, my inspiration, my tower of strength, who taught me everything except how to live without her. And my children, who are my world, my life.

I love you all so much!

Contents

INTRODUCTION

WHAT IS HEALING?

Importance Of Healing

Consequences Of Not Healing

Consequences And Remedies For Not Healing

THE ROAD TO HEALING

I Thought I Had Dealt With That

The First Leap

What To Expect During Healing Process?

When Healing Comes

Healing from the Past

Pain, Regret And Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Self-Destructive Behaviour

How To Heal From The Past

Healing From Childhood Trauma

Healing From A Broken Relationship

How To Heal A Broken Relationship?

Healing From Parental Influences

Meditation As A Healing Technique

DEVELOPING FOCUS IN HEALING

How To Stay Focused On Healing

EXPECTANCY AND FORGIVENESS: AN IMPORTANT FACTOR IN HEALING

How Can I Expect To Be Healed If I Do Not Believe?

Example:

The Healing Power Of Forgiveness

Why You Should Stop Bleeding On Those Who Haven’t Hurt You

ACCEPTANCE

The Need For Acceptance

Importance Of Acceptance

Why Does The Ego Need Acceptance?

Uncertainty

ACCEPTANCE:      SELF-IMAGE AND SELF-CONFIDENCE

How to Improve Your Self-Acceptance

Self-Confidence

How To Boost Your Self-Confidence

Embracing Love

MAKING ACCEPTANCE WORK FOR YOU

Accept Yourself For Who You Are

Tips To Transform Your Life

SELF-AWARENESS

The Power Of Emotional Self-Expression And Self-Reflection

The Healing Power of Self-Compassion

Emotional Abandonment

What We Shouldn’t Do

MY TOWER OF STRENGTH, MY MUM: SHE TAUGHT ME EVERYTHING EXCEPT HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT HER

Allow Yourself To Feel What You Feel

You Shouldn’t Put A Time Limit On Your Grief

Remember Your Mum

Give Yourself Permission To Have Bad Days

Find Your Inner Peace

Live Your Life With A Smile

FAITH

Why Is Faith Important In Healing?

DAILY POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

Daily Gratitude Affirmations

Daily Self-Esteem Affirmations

Daily Abundance Affirmations

Daily Success Affirmations

CONCLUSION

INTRODUCTION

As adults, many of us sustain soul wounds on our journey through life. It is in our human nature, during times of emotional upset, stress or loss to wound others especially those we love. Unkind words or actions, traumatic or upsetting incidences this can all cause us to be fearful, withdraw from life and lead to discontentment and depression. It is inevitable, at some point in our lives we will be wounded.

Many wounds, however, begin in childhood and while we may not remember the incident, we do have sensory or physical memories. When confronted with a specific situation, we instinctively react in a certain way. We may have been paralysed by fear at times because of something that happened to us years ago. Some people even dream about their fears or past events.

Wounds do not heal or disappear by themselves. The adage time heals all wounds is not true unless and until there is healing. We have a tendency to bury and ‘forget’ painful memories. However, when a situation triggers the memory, our old habit of thought and action takes over and we react from a place of hurt and fear rather than the current situation. Any form of trauma, as well as any form of abuse, is a wound. These wounds are much deeper and more difficult to reach, but not necessarily harder to heal. Our old patterns or templates of behaviour can change once we practice the art of healing.

What we fail to fix, we repeat.

This is the main reason why healing is so important. These deep-rooted emotions do not go away if those painful experiences are not resolved. They remain hidden, waiting for the right moment to reveal themselves.

But here’s the thing, we don’t need to ‘dig’ for wounds or look for them, they will appear naturally, without prompting and more often than not when we least expect it or wish for it! However, it is essential we address wounds that have surfaced or have been revealed because they influence our actions now and in the worst-case scenario, they will rot and become infected with the fuel of hatred, anger, bitterness and unforgiveness.

When we hear the word healing, we often assume it refers to the healing of an injury or the relief of pain of some kind. But what if the affliction doesn’t go away? What happens when doctors run out of solutions to the problem? What happens when the issue isn’t so much pain but constant confusion, unhappiness, anger or fear?

When we think of healing from an injury, we think of bed rest and taking it easy. Resting provides nutrients to help sustain us and aid in the body’s natural ability to repair itself. Occasionally, the trauma is so severe that surgery is required, as well as an active outside force to heal the wound. Friends and family play an intrinsic role in recuperation.

I am frequently asked if I must ‘believe in’ healing for it to occur. My response is straightforward. Have you ever felt as if someone is watching you? Are you always self-conscious in public? Do you often feel insecure or inadequate? All of these are indications of a natural sensitivity to our surroundings. We are more influenced by our environment than we realise, particularly by the people in it, who have the ability to change a situation, to their own advantage, through their thoughts and intentions.

We cannot heal in the same environment that has made us sick in the first place. Out of habit we take comfort in familiarity, we put all our effort into making the best out of our situation instead of moving on to new, unfamiliar and exciting possibilities. Sadly, the longer we stay in this toxic environment and we continue to inhale our toxic life the worse we feel. I am very familiar with these feelings, during the most troubling times in my life, I remind myself to look forward. I am aware that to live a truly harmonious, contented life I have to be resolute in my desire to leave behind the life that causes pain and anguish.

For years I thought I was doing the right thing but I continued to worsen. Then it dawned, when one hits rock bottom, you can find way out. You have to accept and acknowledge that you cannot heal in the same place where you have been hurt or around the same people who have hurt you. You can waste years fighting and trying to improve things but the fact is to heal you need a healthy new environment to start the healing process.

During our daily activities, our brains operate at a beta brainwave frequency. This is best for logical, time-sequential thinking, such as meeting deadlines, calculating income and expenses and managing our daily routine. When we are mentally and physically healthy, we can comfortably maintain this frequency throughout the day.

When we sleep, our brains shift to an alpha brainwave state, which is characterised by deep physical and mental relaxation.  Theta is intermediate between waking and sleeping and finally delta when we are asleep. The brain controls the rest of the body, when we are sick, when there is trauma or when we are in mental or physical pain, healing can only take place when the brain is in these resting phases.

While the alpha, beta, theta and delta states allow for healing, I have learned that it can be much more effective if the person has an open, optimistic mind and they can set aside their preconceived notions about how the mind, body and environment interact. With various forms of healing from