Let Me Fuck Your Husband: Healing Black Relationships Through Consensual Non-monogamy

By Sahar Taylor

Monogamy is for some, but it isn't for everyone. This memoir offers an unconventional approach to healing Black love through non-monogamous unions such as swinging, polyamory, and open relationships. This book offers readers a very tantalizing and seductive peak into non-monogamous culture, while offering suggestions on how to enter the Lifestyle. Join the author on her journey as she discovers her sexuality through her intimate experiences in the world of non-monogamy.

Many Black people miss opportunities to restructure, rebuild, and ultimately save their failing relationships because of misconceptions and a lack of knowledge about sexual freedom. This way of thinking creates barriers to the success of Black relationships and prevents them from achieving sexual freedom which is at the core of non-monogamy. To become sexually free, one must have an open mind and be willing to challenge his/her current views on sex and love. The irony of it all is that many traditional, monogamous partners may already be participating in non-monogamous relationships without their consent. Cheating continues to be one of the top three reasons many marriages end in divorce and two-thirds of people admit to cheating before and during their relationships. Non-monogamy can be a cure to the pain so many endure from the tribulations of infidelity. The idea of consensual non-monogamy is that all partners consent to sexual and/or emotional connections outside of the primary relationship. Many have found that consenting to extra partners for emotional and/or sexual support, helps to strengthen their bond and creates a more fulfilling and sexually gratifying relationship.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Dec 16, 2021
• ISBN: 9781667800783

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Let Me Fuck Your Husband

Healing Black Relationships Through Consensual Non-monogamy

By Sahar Taylor

ISBN: 978-0-578-96189-7

eBook ISBN: 978-1-66780-078-3

Front cover image by Arthur W. Brown.

Book design by James Harris.

Back cover image by @SenSoulstudio

First printing edition 2021.

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What’s In Here

Preface

Intro

Monogamy Must Die

Sex vs Love

It’s the sex energy for me!

Lifestyle 101

The Lifestyle’s Lack of Blackness

Dick With a Side of Pussy

Non-monogamy In the Black

Agreements & Boundaries

How to Share Your Man

Insecurity & Jealousy: Your Worst Enemies

The Double Standard

Lifestyle Etiquette: Rules of Entanglements

Playmates & Playdates

Final Thoughts

Resources

Preface

This book is based on the author’s life experiences in non-monogamous relationships and entanglements. The purpose of this text is to provide Black couples with exciting and pleasurable alternatives to traditional sex and relationships, with hopes that they can find more gratifying ways to sustain love and stability through non-monogamy. This is not a historical context but rather a compilation of stories and experiences placed together in such a way for you to gain a more interesting perspective. Be prepared to read about the author’s experiences as she shifted from traditional, monogamous relationships, including a marriage, quickly divorced, then journeyed into the world of non-monogamy. While participating in an open relationship, the author found value in sharing herself and her man with other like-minded individuals. After that relationship ended, she evolved into a Unicorn, having unique sexual and emotional relationships with a variety of couples, discovering her true place among them. As she became heavily involved in the Lifestyle, she recognized the lack of diversity in sexually uninhibited environments, which evoked her desire to open the hearts and minds of Black people everywhere. Please make note, the reference to Black in this book is meant to be inclusive of any variation of Brown-skinned people from every culture. But having to write Black and Brown every time, when referring to people of color, would be time-consuming and annoying. Therefore, the reference to Black folks is speaking more to the culture of Blackness and less of actual skin color. Also, the reference to couples does not strictly pertain to those who are married or in legally committed relationships. At the minimum, it’s two people who fuck each other.

Respect is given to the choices that every individual makes regarding sexual identity. This book does not seek to dismiss any gender or sexual orientation, but it is also not all-inclusive. This book was written specifically for Black men and women seeking sexual freedom, be they straight, gay, or otherwise. This book is not about gender identity or equality. Therefore, in this text, you may not find who and what you identify as.

This book is also not intended to replace therapy. Still, it can be used as an informative text for those who struggle with the restrictions of monogamy and seek safe, pleasurable alternatives to achieve sexual freedom.

Intro

If monogamy is normal, why is infidelity so common?

I fucked my first couple in 2017. I was on vacation in the Caribbean at one of the few nudist adult playgrounds in the world. That year wasn’t my first time there, but it was my first time while having the mindset of freedom and happiness over everything. By that time, I had been divorced for four years and was no longer willing to compromise who I was to be in a monogamous relationship. I was married to a man who was jealous of his own shadow if it stood too close to me, so I was never comfortable talking to him about my desires for women or other men. When I heard about the event at the nudist resort from a friend, it was a no-brainer. It was a chocolate-filled event, complete with nudity and public sex, and it was exactly where I needed to be. I had no idea that this vacation would change how I interacted with women forever.

On my first day in the nude pool, I met the couple who really challenged what I thought I knew about myself sexually. The wife was absolutely gorgeous! She had big hair, big breasts, and a body you would kill for. When we first saw each other, the attraction was instant. She was with her husband, who was also attractive, but it was she that got my attention. As I made my way to the swim-up bar, she approached me with a hug and pressed her beautiful breasts against mine. Our sex energy was crazy magnetic, and as we drank and laughed, all I could think about was what her pussy tasted like, and that thought alone made my head swirl. I immediately realized that a fire was set inside of me, and I refused to extinguish it, as I had so many times before. Prior to that day, I had been with other women, but none that had my pussy pulsating at the thought of burying my face between her thighs. I can’t really say I considered myself Bi at that time. I just knew I liked women and was open to new experiences. As we chatted, I noticed the shade casting my way from some of the other women in the pool. I had just arrived at the party and had already won the attention of one of the hottest women there, others wanted her, but she chose me.

We hit it off quickly in that atmosphere. Although I wasn’t new to the environment, it was the first time I was surrounded by naked, sexy people partying freely, without the worry of being judged. If you haven’t partied with sexy-ass nude people, in a nude pool, or on a nude beach, you’re missing your blessings. There’s something about nudity that changes how people interact with each other. The energy that exists in nude spaces is so powerful that you can’t help but become deeply immersed in the atmosphere. When nude, you are truly exposed and forced to be more social and relatable because you can’t hide behind the false façade that clothing creates. The nude environment is also highly erogenous and sexually stimulating, which will have you questioning and testing your boundaries in the most creative ways. I never imagined I could desire a woman so intensely, but being next to her, feeling her skin brush against mine, smelling the conditioner in her hair as she swung it from side to side, aroused me and amazed me at the same time.

My sexual attraction towards her was powerful, and although nothing was verbally stated, I knew her husband was definitely trying to fuck. He watched us intently as we flirted with one another, but he played the back a bit, laughing, conversing, and getting us more drinks. He wasn’t overly aggressive or annoying like men can be in those situations. He just chilled and let her work her magic. Although she was coming on to me strong, I could tell she wanted me to like him too because she kept saying, Babe, she’s gorgeous right? as if not only to get his approval but to let him know I was who she wanted for them. I knew some shit was about to go down that was unlike anything I had ever experienced, and I was there for it all.

I had never had sex with a couple before, but as we talked more, I could tell that that was the flow. I was already open to the idea of having sex with multiple people. However, she was the one that made me see how comfortable you can make a woman feel with fucking someone else’s husband. She was constantly pushing us together and asking him how bomb he thought I was. It was almost as if she wanted me for him, more than for herself. That honestly was the part that really blew my mind. She was invested in his happiness. She knew what he needed, somehow managed to make that what she wanted, and then participated in actualizing his fantasies with him. It seemed so natural to me that I didn’t think any of it was wrong. I thought it was perfect, really. They both get their needs met when they share each other in those experiences, which ultimately makes their relationship stronger.

The vibe we had was amazing, which eventually translated into great sexual experiences with them later. When we finally fucked, it was a movie. She tasted amazingly sweet like a fresh water hole in the Caribbean, and his dick was adequately sized to my liking. I devoured her pussy, licking all of the pink flesh I could find, trying to swallow any juice that oozed from her. I had never enjoyed burying my face into a pussy until I had hers. She was willing and wanting as she moved her waist to the rhythm of my tongue. She was also a great cheerleader for her man while he tried to fuck the life out of me. I, in turn, let them have all of me, tasting and touching me wherever they desired. However, she did need a bit of instructing from him when he wanted her to please me. He wanted to watch his wife suck my pussy, while he hovered above my head with his stiff dick inside my mouth. Although I could tell she didn’t have much experience in licking pussy, my intense desire for her and the experience with fucking them as a couple was enough to carry me through. After each of us came, we kissed and cuddled until we passed out. That was the beginning of my Lifestyle journey, and it was off to a great start. After that week on vacation, I knew two things for certain; my desire for women was going to enhance my sex life tremendously, and I would never be in a monogamous relationship or anything that looked like one ever again.

What kind of woman asks to fuck someone else’s husband? Well, a woman like me, of course. No, I’m not crazy, nor do I want to steal your man. I agree that it isn’t a request you hear every day, and asking such a thing sounds a bit mad, but I figure asking for permission is better than fucking him without his woman’s consent. I doubt that many years ago I would have jumped at the chance to permissibly allow another woman to fuck my husband, so I can understand why sharing him may seem inconceivable to you. Partner sharing was most likely not one of the agreements the two of you made when you entered into your monogamous relationship. I know for a fact it wasn’t one of mine. Finding true love or the one is so deeply ingrained within us, it’s almost impossible to let go of the notion of having a normal union. But what happens when the normal relationship no longer works? What happens when the sexual desire for one another is muted, but the longing for sex and immense