Summary of Gary Thomas's When to Walk Away

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#1 It was not until I myself was the victim of a toxic person that I realized how they feed off misunderstood piety and false Christian guilt to spread their attacks far and wide.

#2 I spent way too much time trying to placate a toxic person, and I failed to learn how to play defense. As a result, I was sidetracked and brought unnecessary misery into my life.

#3 Defense is also important. If you’ve never been a people pleaser, this may seem rather elementary. But if you find it easy to write people off, you may justifiably say, Welcome to the world of being an adult.

#4 The way we handle toxic people in our lives is an offense to God, because the Bible tells us that Jesus allowed many to walk away from him. We should view life, ministry, and service through a new lens: offense to God if we allow ourselves to become bogged down by toxic people.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 28, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669396734

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 13

Insights from Chapter 14

Insights from Chapter 15

Insights from Chapter 16

Insights from Chapter 17

Insights from Chapter 18

Insights from Chapter 19

Insights from Chapter 20

Insights from Chapter 21

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

It was not until I myself was the victim of a toxic person that I realized how they feed off misunderstood piety and false Christian guilt to spread their attacks far and wide.

#2

I spent way too much time trying to placate a toxic person, and I failed to learn how to play defense. As a result, I was sidetracked and brought unnecessary misery into my life.

#3

Defense is also important. If you’ve never been a people pleaser, this may seem rather elementary. But if you find it easy to write people off, you may justifiably say, Welcome to the world of being an adult.

#4

The way we handle toxic people in our lives is an offense to God, because the Bible tells us that Jesus allowed many to walk away from him. We should view life, ministry, and service through a new lens: offense to God if we allow ourselves to become bogged down by toxic people.

#5

It’s not selfish to want to be who God created you to be, and it’s not selfish to do what God created you to do. Therefore, it’s important to be on the lookout for toxic people, and to cut them out of your life when possible or severely limit your exposure to them.

#6

The entire book is about studying the life of Jesus, who walked away from others many times. Understanding his methods of playing defense will help you preserve your call to love and serve.

#7

We must learn how to play defense. Focusing only on offense is naive and undercuts the impact we can have with others. We must consider Jesus’s example of walking away from others, as it presents a model for us