Summary of Ian Tuhovsky's Effective Communication Skills Mastery Series

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview:

#1 The ability to delay gratification is one of the most important skills in life, and it is learned through experience. It is used by everyone, everywhere, all the time. The survival of a species depends on its quality and the better animals or tribes master it, the more dominant they become over others.

#2 Communication is like an engine oil that makes your life run smoothly. It is important for your self-confidence, soft skills, career, relationships, and life in general. If you don’t know how to communicate properly, you will have problems in all areas of your life.

#3 Verbal communication is the most basic form of communication between people. It is influenced by fluency of speech, skillset of a sender, accentuation of particular parts of a message, confirmation from a receiver, and paraphrasing the received information in order to make sure that the real intent was understood.

#4 The first step on your journey to a new quality of life is awareness and motivation. You must analyze your communication style and pay attention to your communication patterns. You must become aware of these things and find motivation to work on your personal development.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 7, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669381860

IRB Media

With IRB books, you can get the key takeaways and analysis of a book in 15 minutes. We read every chapter, identify the key takeaways and analyze them for your convenience.

Book preview

Insights on Ian Tuhovsky's Effective Communication Skills Mastery Series

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The ability to delay gratification is one of the most important skills in life, and it is learned through experience. It is used by everyone, everywhere, all the time. The survival of a species depends on its quality and the better animals or tribes master it, the more dominant they become over others.

#2

Communication is like an engine oil that makes your life run smoothly. It is important for your self-confidence, soft skills, career, relationships, and life in general. If you don’t know how to communicate properly, you will have problems in all areas of your life.

#3

Verbal communication is the most basic form of communication between people. It is influenced by fluency of speech, skillset of a sender, accentuation of particular parts of a message, confirmation from a receiver, and paraphrasing the received information in order to make sure that the real intent was understood.

#4

The first step on your journey to a new quality of life is awareness and motivation. You must analyze your communication style and pay attention to your communication patterns. You must become aware of these things and find motivation to work on your personal development.

#5

The 7%-38%-55% rule can be seen as the metaphor of effective and efficient communication, which must contain the core of both verbal and non-verbal components connected in a smart and congruent way. Non-verbal messages influence understanding and reception of verbal messages in a very crucial way.

#6

Communication is not just about techniques. It is the way you think about and see the world around you. A change in attitude towards everything that surrounds you, rather than just using certain techniques, is the source of the biggest changes in your life.

#7

When you understand that everyone sees things differently than you do, it will be easier for you to create healthy relationships.

#8

The concept of good intentions is extremely important when it comes to changing yourself and adapting new behaviors. Remember that your old, unwanted behaviors were caused by the fact that your brain saw a positive intention in them for you.

#9

The art of effective communication is not just about psychological techniques and tools, but a model of wise change for the better. It is not easy to change old habits, but it is worth it if you want to improve your communication skills.

#10

All of your senses are your first filter. They ignore certain parts of reality. When you are watching the world around you, you are limited by how the human brain is constructed. You do not perceive all the physical phenomena with the naked eye.

#11

We can’t see reality objectively. We can only see it through our own filters, which are acquired during our daily life. These are experiences, values, and beliefs. If you believe that the world is a cruel and insidious place, you will behave like that is the absolute and only truth.

#12

You can change how your sensory filters operate by taking stimulants. By intoxicating your brain, you make it perceive reality very differently. You can change your expectations towards the future, your beliefs about the world around you, and your deeply rooted values.

#13

A map of reality is a reflection of the world that surrounds us. It is impossible to perceive the objective world because all stimuli from the outer world is preselected by our mind.

#14

The concept of maps and filters is important to understand when dealing with other people. For example, someone may be able to pay exorbitant amounts of money for a single quirky painting, while someone else might be wondering what’s so special about an old copper fork from the 17th century.

#15

Remember that everything you say and do is a reflection of who you think you are and what you believe. When someone is mean to you, remember that they are simply reflecting who they think you are. ignore them like a fly would be ignored.

#16

The change in your beliefs or way of seeing your experiences will allow you to filter reality completely differently. The assumption that a map is not actual terrain is helpful in social interactions and building relationships with people.

#17

Everyone has their own map of the world and sees reality differently. Very rarely is there such a thing as objective truth. You must understand that everyone is right in their own model of reality, and that if you want to improve your communication skills, you must think about it.

#18

The first rule is that everything you say must be possible to realize. If not, then the verbal message cannot be done and makes no sense. Specify exactly what the matter is and make sure that it is possible to perform a constructive action to have a concrete physical result.

#19

Do not demand motivation from anyone, because it does not provide any solutions and does not point to anything in particular. Instead, you could tell someone to straighten their back up, speak louder, and talk about a specific goal or situation that makes them enthusiastic and excited.

#20

Negation is reactive and applies to the existing reality without any constructive creation of the future. It leaves the person you're speaking with no possibility of solving the problem.

#21

Rule number four is to always take responsibility for yourself. It is not possible for