From Grief to Healing: A Holistic Guide to Rebuilding Mind, Body & Spirit After Loss
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Simple, Encouraging Practices to Help You Navigate the Spirals of Grief
To be human is to experience grief, and the road to recovery has many twists and turns. This collection of hands-on activities offers support as you remain present to your grief and move toward a state of well-being. Explore the emotions, thoughts, symptoms, and spiritual energy of loss as you learn how to identify the pathways for healing. To enhance your understanding, each chapter incorporates a common set of practices:
• Chakras
• Affirmations ?
• Journaling
• Meditations ?
• Movement ?
• Essential Oils ?
• Rituals
Wherever you are with your bereavement, this guide is designed to help you navigate your ups and downs throughout the recovery process.
Amanda Mackenzie
Amanda Mackenzie is a holistic counselor, leadership consultant, and coach. Visit her at www.amandamackenzie.com.au.
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From Grief to Healing - Amanda Mackenzie
About the Author
Amanda Mackenzie (Canberra, Australia) is a holistic counselor, leadership consultant, and coach. She has designed and taught counseling education programs for St. Mark’s College and Australian Catholic University.
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Names: Mackenzie, Amanda, author.
Title: From grief to healing : a holistic guide to rebuilding mind, body &
spirit after loss / Amanda Mackenzie.
Description: First edition. | Woodbury, Minnesota : Llewellyn Publications,
2022. | Includes index. | Summary: "Using holistic arts to get through
grief. This is a practical book on moving from grief to recovery that
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Subjects: LCSH: Chakras | Mind and body therapies. | Healing--Miscellanea.
| Loss (Psychology)--Miscellanea. | Grief--Miscellanea. |
Bereavement--Miscellanea.
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Dedication
For Paul, with love and gratitude.
flowerDisclaimer
This book is not intended to serve as a replacement for treatment by a medical and/or mental health professional. Please exercise caution when using essential oils, as some may cause an allergic or skin reaction, and do not take them internally unless directed to do so by an expert. Some oils should not be used during pregnancy, or around pets; please consult a professional in this case.
flowerContents
Introduced
Chapter 1: Invited
Chapter 2: Bereaved
Chapter 3: Heartened
Chapter 4: Reminded
Chapter 5: Embodied
Chapter 6: Spirited
Chapter 7: Connected
Chapter 8: Accompanied
Chapter 9: Remembered
Chapter 10: Transformed
Concluded
Acknowledged
Appendix 1—Resourced
Appendix 2—Oils summary
flowerIntroduced
The seed for this book was planted on the day my husband was diagnosed with cancer in his mid-forties. During Paul’s illness we began with traditional medicine, then quickly and painfully discovered that it had little to offer him. On the day of his diagnosis he had to undergo a procedure under anaesthetic in hospital. I was trying to process what it all meant and was pacing around and around the block. I was relieved to find the library, only to be told that it wasn’t available to patients or their families. That experience proved to be emblematic for our encounters with conventional Western medicine.
As we began to read more widely and talk with a range of holistic practitioners, we discovered a broader range of traditions from across cultures to support healing. We began qigong and meditation; we refined our diet and engaged with a number of new modalities. After Paul’s death five months later, I continued my exploration and extended my personal practices as I searched for answers, for comfort, and for wisdom.
Over several years I made changes in my work life, broadening my base as an educator to become a leadership coach. While my business was thriving, some of my clients were not and I could see that Western approaches that segmented the person into a number of parts could reduce their well-being, sense of agency, and possibility.
I undertook a post-graduate course in holistic psychotherapy and counselling, which reinforced my beliefs about the human experience and broadened my repertoire about how to help my clients integrate and develop all parts of themselves.
This book shares what I have discovered: what helped and what didn’t. It’s not a personal narrative; it’s not a how-to book; but rather it’s an integrated approach to healing after grief that draws on the deep wisdom of my experience, both as a woman and as an influential, holistic counsellor and coach.
To be human is to experience grief. Every year millions of us die and each one leaves behind family and others who try to make sense of their loss. This book is designed as a companion and guide to the bereaved to support healing of mind, body, and spirit.
It provides a collection of simple practices to support those who have experienced the death of a loved one; it will help them to remain present to their grief and move towards recovery. I regularly use some of these myself and teach them to others in therapy and in workshops, integrating cultural and spiritual practices that have demonstrated their value. These resources focus on those parts of us that are affected when we grieve, and demand our attention as we heal.
My experience of grief and healing is captured by the energy of the spiral. There were many moments in grief when I felt myself fall lower or spin out of control. As my recovery and healing began, I had moments where I was aware of a shift or a change, a glimpse of peace or hope, and my energy spiralled upwards and outwards in incremental steps. Most importantly, my path from grief to healing was not a one-way trip. Many times, I thought I was on my way out of it, only to discover that my recovery was slipping away. Wherever you are with your grief and healing, the structure of the book is designed to assist you to navigate your own spirals by dipping in and out of pages that grab or hold your attention, or by finding something of value and following that thread across chapters.
How to use this book
This book recognizes that the challenges for the ones who remain can be daunting. It draws on the wisdom of lived experience and on customs and practises that reflect the wisdom of ages and cultures.
Each chapter focuses on one aspect of the experience of grief and loss, exploring its nature and its limits to better understand what may be happening within us. It uses that same lens to identify some pathways for healing.
Invited—the reality of grief and the need for healing
Bereaved—the impact of grief and loss
Heartened—the emotions of grief and healing
Reminded—the thoughts of grief and healing
Embodied—the symptoms of grief and healing
Spirited—the energy of grief and healing
Connected—the relationships of grief and healing
Accompanied—the experience of children in grief and healing
Remembered—the rituals of grief and healing
Transformed—the wisdom of grief and healing
In addition to information and personal insights about the topic, all chapters use a common set of practises to assist you: Chakras—focus your energy for awareness and intention. Affirmations—focus your self-talk for assurance and hope. Journal—focus your expression for healing. Meditation—focus your mind for calm and clarity. Movement—focus your body for grounding and flow. Essential oils—focus your whole system for healing. Ritual—focus your daily experience for healing.
Chakras—focus your energy
for awareness and intention
When we feel vital, we feel alive and connected with energies within and beyond ourselves. We might experience this when out in nature, or after a holiday, or in other peak experiences. Our vitality is an expression of the universal life force that unites all living things. While cultures express this in different ways—spirit, prana, or qi, for example—the essence remains the same, and we know when we feel invigorated and energised.
This vitality can be disrupted and depleted in times of grief. Conversely, it can be restored and balanced as part of the healing process. In each chapter you’ll find some ideas about how a particular aspect of your vitality may be affected by grief and then used to restore balance.
The word chakra is the Sanskrit word for wheel, and the chakras represent energy centres within and beyond the body. Chakras are part of the ancient wisdom and have been taught in a number of spiritual traditions and approaches to healing. Disturbances in this energy flow are linked to reduced well-being as the chakras support us with a flow of energy (or prana or chi) throughout our whole being to support health and balance.
While there are many chakras, the main seven are numbered from the lowest parts of the torso and continue to the top of the head. Each of these seven positions is allocated a colour from the rainbow.
In addition to the seven main chakras, we can draw on three additional vitality centres as we work with the energies of grief and healing: the earthstar chakra, the soulstar chakra, and the hand chakras.
Just beneath the body is the earthstar chakra, which sits about thirty centimetres below our feet. Sometimes called the super-root or the sub-personal chakra, this centre of energy connects us to the earth and, through it, to all living things. It supports our existence and our other chakras, and is often represented by the blacks and browns of the earth.
chakraChakra Figure
Just above the body is the soulstar chakra, which sits about fifteen centimetres above the crown of the head. Also known as a transpersonal chakra, this connects our energy with spiritual consciousness and is often represented by a golden colour.
There are several chakras in our hands, with the main ones sitting in the centre of each palm. These are an extension of our heart chakra, and through them the energy of love and belonging flows within and without. For our purposes it will be represented by the colour magenta.
Each aspect of our vitality has a particular energy that supports our well-being—physical, psychological, spiritual, and emotional. Each one also has a range of expressions to allow us to build awareness and access these portals to our life force.
Chakra table
The table on the next page outlines the connections between each chapter of the book and its particular focus, noting the chakra energy that may assist you in the movement from grief to healing.
Affirmations—focus your self-talk
for assurance and hope
Affirmations are statements that reinforce our beliefs. These short mental announcements repeat key ideas to ourselves and to others. As we make those statements over and over, we change the physical structure of our brains, making it easier to experience those thoughts again.
When things are not going so well, we affirm or reinforce the difficulties we are having: Life is hard; I don’t think things will ever improve; I’ll never get over this; No-one helps me. Such patterns can hold us in a rigid mindset that makes it hard to see possibilities and solutions. These statements reinforce present difficulties and predict a difficult future.
On the other hand, positive affirmations declare what’s good: I’m doing OK; This is great; I’m on a roll; There’s no stopping me; Look at me go! These affirmations have momentum and energy. They reinforce capacity and predict even more success.
Positive affirmations can be used intentionally to change patterns of unhelpful thoughts. They are more than wishes for things to be different. They declare in active language and in the present tense, those patterns you are claiming now, in order to shape your own story. They can replace negative and critical scripts that keep you stuck in unhelpful ways of thinking about yourself and your circumstances.
Using affirmations each day can deepen a sense of calm and possibility. The first step is to notice