Life Goes On: Fatherhood, #3

By Dalton Smith

I know what you  are thinking. I know how you feel. I feel your pain. The pain you are feeling is real. For the past 18 to 20 years, you have been saying, "everyone come downstairs dinner is ready", you have helped them with their homework, you taught them to drive, you have shopped for 4 or 5 people. In a blink of a second that flashes before your eyes now they are gone on their own. It is just the two of you now. While this should be a happy and enduring times for you and your children. Many couples do not handle the empty nest well. This is why i wrote this book for you. Inside you will learn: To redisciver your love. Regain your love life, to rekindle the flames that were once there before the children were born, and you will also learn ways to cope with being a new empty nest. After reading you will be a new you. Are you ready to start this new chapter in your life?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dalton Smith
• Release date: Oct 4, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201301828

Dalton Smith

Dalton Smith’s books are a culmination of profound, well-thought reflections of the experiences of everyday life. A prolific writer with over 6 years of experience writing on the topics of love, relationship, and parenting, Dalton draws from his vast experience and wealth of knowledge about different facets of life to write expressive, deep texts that exude rare, positively transformative wisdom. Dalton addresses a wide range of topics with impressive yet unique audacity and expert authority, and warm compassion that makes his readers connect with his eloquent contemplations and insightful guidance almost instantly. The pertinence of the issues Dalton addresses makes his books a haven for a broad set of readers including, couples struggling in their relationship, and parents who want to raise happy and confident children. Dalton is passionate about helping others solve their problems and takes great pride in knowing that he can be helpful. Dalton encourages his readers to face their issues boldly and genuinely guides them into finding practical, efficient solutions. To refresh his mind, Dalton enjoys biking, traveling, and watching independent films.

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INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER ONE

The Empty Nest

A Reply

Reconnecting

Redefining a Relationship

New Growth Reinvestment

Empty Nest Depression

ENJOYING THE EMPTY NEST

Empty Nest Not an Empty Life

FILLING UP THE EMPTY NEST

Empty Nest Coping Tips

Five tips on how to deal with empty nest syndrome are provided:

Empty Nest Couple Should Eject Adult Children from the Homestead

HOW TO REMODEL EMPTY NEST

The guest bed

The laboratory

Personal Training Center

The workspace

CHAPTER TWO

What is Empty Nest Syndrome?

Travel away from home?

Where are you? Who are we? What am I?

RECOVERING FROM EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

Crucial Discussion for Couples

Phases of intimate ties

Step one: Attraction

Step two: Romance

Step three: Passion

Step four: Intimacy

Step five: Commitment

7 Critical Dating Couples Conversations

7 Empty Nest Couples Important Discussions

How to Deal With Empty Nest Syndrome

Should not think about how you look

Start to talk again

Romanticism and sex

You did it!

Your best friend's period

Empty Nest Syndrome Overcoming

Overcoming Empty Nest Syndrome

Empty Nest Crisis

Successfully Deal With Empty Nest Syndrome

THE EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

Help the Empty Nest survive your marriage?

CHAPTER THREE

Ways to Vanquish Empty Nest Syndrome

Empty Nest Nurturing

Filling the Empty Nest

Inward Time

Coping With Loneliness

The cause of the problem

Taking a look at your wellbeing

Overcoming Solitude

Help out others

Coping With Loneliness after the break up

DEALING WITH LONELINESS

Five Loneliness Coping Strategies:

CHAPTER FOUR

Ten Tips to Cope When Feeling Lonely

CHAPTER FIVE

Cope With Empty Nest Syndrome

A Grandparent's Plan

Survive the Empty Nest Syndrome

6 steps to survive the empty nest

Her Empty Nest Syndrome

A Generational Crisis

How to start making sense of everything

Self-Esteem and Who I Am

The Not That Empty Nest Syndrome

That's still the case, and I'm not sure.

CHAPTER SIX

How to reignite the flame

WHAT DO YOU NEED TO KNOW?

TALK ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS

Remember your story.

HOW TO REKINDLE THE FLAMES WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Start in a new way again

Spend little time apart in different places

Schedule check-ins on relationships

Together, dream

Be thoroughly considerate

Make yourself physical, and not just in bed

Tease Each Other

REDISCOVERING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Reignite the relationship's intimacy.

Produce new routines

Together, pray

SEEK HELP IF NEEDED

TIPS FOR REFOCUSING ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Create a Second Honeymoon

Invent a jubilee

Go through old photographs

Spy on your spouse

Check in

Slowly create space between your children

Try falling in love with yourself.

Create a top 10 list

REDISCOVERING YOUR SEX LIFE

Invest in yourself

Start again by dating each other.

Remain curious.

Fill out a sex menu

Vitamin D

Morning mood

Supplement your sex life

Detach sexual intimacy from routines

Make it a priority for sex

CONCLUSION

INTRODUCTION

When your children start moving out, a growing reality to couples is that they will soon be alone. Many couples do not have to address the issues of bringing up children for the first time in their relationship. To some, they had time without children so many years ago that it feels like the first time. Because this is a time when couples plan to work and are generally concerned about how things will happen when the family consists of just the two, it refers in particular to couples who have lost touch over the years.

It would appear that children's obligations, mortgages, jobs, and life usually play a central role. It is also inevitable, and it is easy to forget that you should concentrate on your relationship if these issues take over more than they should.

Too many couples face the question of how to respond to each other while they are very close to each other. As something else, preparation will encourage this transition. Plan ahead and you know that sooner or later will eventually be this moment.

You should speak to your partner about your plans. There may be other desires that you both have during the time you focused on raising children. If so, you will intend to rediscover this hobby or interest. Schedule an activity you will enjoy together.

Now that the kids move out, you and your wife will stay together every minute apart. In reality, you will now have more time for both your partner and yourself.

Along with reactivating old interests in past hobbies, imagine jointly doing new stuff. This is vital because spending time together in a fun activity helps to renew the relationship and establish a unique bond between you two. It offers you an opportunity to chat together and spend quality time together. You will rediscover yourself and your partner during this exciting stage of your relationship.

CHAPTER ONE

The Empty Nest

John and Marry are dating sweethearts of the college for thirty years. They feel that they have a healthy marriage, which has brought up four children. It was a crazy parenthood trip with a lot of hair-raising encounters. I accept that all four have been released successfully into adulthood. And now that their younger child is married recently, they are indeed a vacuous nest family, not just the shifting nest of college years and years.

From the moment their first baby was born after two years of marriage, the couple became very involved with friends. Life with four children was stressful, and always parenting tired and depleted emotionally. They broke up for several days as they took the children to their various events and activities. It seemed like they never had enough time to talk about how things would be when the children grew up, and they were just a few.

Now it's been time. John and Marry do not know how to start living it to their shock. They have committed so much to raise a family, and much of their contact has been for this reason. We feel a peculiar void in their daily life and sometimes feel awkward in their conversations. All of them are deeply committed to each other, but they are not sure what their good life will be like again. 

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A Reply

It's not shocking that John and Marry feel unsettled and out of control. They move from one phase of their marriage to another significant step, which involves new challenges as well as new adventures. It is not the first change in their life cycle in their marriage. Both have lived together through the newly married stage, early childhood stage, primary and young schools, and the beginning point of their life as an adult. Every stage includes developmental, emotional, and spiritual activities that need to be gradually modified. 

Yes, some new marital ties have already been renegotiated through these numerous shifts in the life cycle. We have changed their positions every time and learned new skills as we step into the uncertain future of the next level. When they face transition, they can feel unstable and maybe even unconsciously fight it. The more they understand how to handle this next stage's gradual shifts, the easier it will be for them to make a smooth mutual transition. 

Reconnecting

Even in the best cases, married couples have the struggle to stay even in contact with each other in partnership. They may suffer in their communication style by focusing on their daily work and not relating to a level of intimate friendship. Having time every day to think about the ups and downs of any person is a good start. Many people have a habit of walking together every day. After work, come relax on the patio. As partners interact at a vulnerable stage, they frequently share their essential thoughts and feelings, they reconnect and bond. 

Redefining a Relationship

Sometimes the marriage is too child-centered to the detriment of a couple. It is crucial that couples who join every stage of marriage commit to keeping the relationship partner-centric. The love relationship of the couple is central in their everyday lives in a we-centric marriage. This helps your love to flow to your children and others. The Church makes it clear that couples are called in an unusual