The Empath’s Elixir: You Can Create Your Potion to Feel Good for Life

By Michelle Reese

At the age of 16, a dark depression brought suicidal thoughts to young Michelle Prebili. She wasn’t sure if this life was worth living. Life seemed hopeless and overwhelming. She felt lonely, scared, and confused - and deeply angry. Without skills and tools to see her way out, it seemed better just to end it all.

Yet, through an unlikely series of events, Michelle made a commitment to create a new life story, one full of love for herself and self-care. She is passionate about empowering all Empaths, like herself, to fully love and accept themselves in the lifetime they’ve been given. And to take damn good care of themselves. This book is for you, Empaths.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Apr 11, 2021
• ISBN: 9781982265304

Michelle Reese

Michelle’s education in psychology (B.A. in Social Psychology) and business (M.B.A. in Finance) created the perfect background for her to serve as a manager and consultant for several fortune 500 companies for over 25 years. She learned how to work with and motivate a variety of people in corporate America, to communicate clearly and to help others achieve their goals. Her communication and management skills continued to be developed as she went into running a small business for the last 11 years, where she has served as both a realtor and CFO of a design-build remodeling company she co-owns with her husband. In 2014, Michelle’s work took on a more internal nature, fueled by her discovery that she is an Empath. Since then, Michelle certified and licensed as a Louise Hay Heal Your Life Coach and Workshop Leader, completed Advanced Space Energy and Personal Energy Clearing Workshops annually, studied Chinese medicine, and certified as a Primal Health Coach through Mark Sisson’s Primal Health Program. She has figured out how to amp her self-care so that she feels strong and vibrant in her daily life, and is passionate about empowering Empaths to discover it for themselves. She’s been coaching and supporting Empaths, through Heal Your Life workshops, bookstudies, support groups,and energy clearing people and places for the last few years. This book is her first in a series of books for Empaths.

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Contents

Acknowledgement

Prologue

Introduction

Are You an Empath?

The Male Empath

What Is Intuition?

My Life as an Empath—Why Helping You Matters

An Empath since Birth

A Child Empath

A Teenage Empath

An Adult Empath—Coping with Sensitivity

Changing My Thinking

Changing My Choices

Finding My Intuition

Challenges of Being an Empath

Self-Shame

Relationships

Lack of Nutrition

Information Overload

Stimulants

Electronics

Environmental Stress

Lifestyle Stress

Pace of Your Life

Lack of an Elixir

Lies We’ve Been Told

Something Is Wrong with Us

Energy Vampires Drain Our Energy

Accept Yourself and Your Sensitivities

Pay Attention to Your Body

Learn from Less Sensitive Friends

Have Compassion for Them

Realize It Is Not Your Problem to Fix

Speak Your Truth Using I Words

Have a Strategy before You Go

Empaths Attract Narcissists

What Is a Narcissist?

Does the Narcissist Have a Toothache?

How to Avoid Unhealthy Relationships

Empaths Absorb Others’ Moods,

Energy, and Feelings

How We Absorb Energy and How to Stop It

Telling My Energy Apart from Someone or Something Else

How We Can Avoid Absorbing What Isn’t Ours

How to Release Energy

How Are You?

Entrainment

Are You Having Symptoms?

Give a Damn about Yourself

Commit to Holding Your Own Hand

Embracing Intuition as a Gift

How to Spot Your Intuition

Get a Grip—Change Your Thinking

Change Your Baseline

Discover that You Are Strong

Develop Your Elixir

Key Ingredients

Love Yourself 100 Percent

Become Mindful

Energy Increasers or Releasers

Use Your Intuition Every Day

Eat Wholesome Foods

Keep It Clean

Lean into Information from Your Past

Sleep and Rest

Rest Ideas

Sleep Ideas

Morning Behaviors

During the Day

Evening Preparation

Troubleshooting

Get Off Your Butt and Move

Lift Heavy Things

Manage Your Anxiety

My Anti-Anxiety Protocol

Go Outside and Play

Clear Energy

Energy Types

Subtle Energy

How We Can Experience Energy

How Energy Builds in Our Systems

Understanding Personal Energy

Personal Clearing

Space Clearing

Energy Medicine

Tapping

Biofeedback

Every Empath Needs Energy Work

Nurture Your Tribe

Other Elements to Consider

Household Relationships

Your Workplace

Energy of Places

Traveling

Environmental Toxins

You Are Your Best Resource

Where Does Health Begin?

My Elixir

Your Elixir

Your Personal Elixir—Worksheet

Recommended Resources

Keep Your Energy Balanced

Keep Your Body Balanced

Affirm Yourself

Eat Nutritionally

MyFitnessPal

Cronometer

MyFoodDiary

Rest Your Mind

Breathe2Relax

Mindfulness App

Technology Support

f.lux:

Mineral Support

Adrenal Mineral Cocktails

Acknowledgement

I am dedicating this book to my mom. She was an empath who knew she was one, yet couldn’t accept it until right before she left the planet. If you looked at her, you would see a strong woman with a large family (eight children) who she deeply cared for. She was emotionally and physically very sensitive, and life did not give her the tools to know what to do with this during her era. Life also gave her an intuition like no other. For example, she wanted to be lucid during the birth of her first child—which turned out to be twins—and the medical practices at that time didn’t allow it. So she dreamed the entire birth while medicated.

She was the kind of person who just knew things at a higher level than many people—at a level she had a hard time accepting. Although she saw these abilities, as a devout Catholic, mother, and wife, she stayed very private. She didn’t realize her value.

As I stayed with her during the days before she left the planet at age eighty-eight, I connected deeply with this empathic side of hers. She was amazing. I could see how empathically skilled and strong she was. I could see how ashamed she was of these superpowers. To her they were a curse.

We have come to a point in time where we empaths need to embrace who we are at our very core. We need to hug it and love it and make it not just OK but very special. We empaths are the future. We can be so deeply connected to energy that we have an immense amount of information at our disposal. It’s time we use this information to heal the planet and ourselves.

My mom embraced who she was at the end of her life. I was lucky enough to be there with her through that process. My drive is that I can empower you to do that now, so you can live the rest of your life loving and trusting the empath you are.

Prologue

Empaths.

People who see more, feel more, and intuit more than others.

Known for being deeply in tune with life and sensitive to energy, balanced empaths experience life in the deepest way: seeing the unseeable, sensing the little known, dreaming future events, or feeling the energy of the plants, animals, or others around us. These are our superpowers.

We empaths have known this about ourselves for generations. Modern science is catching up: research is beginning to show that our brains are more easily stimulated; highly sensitive persons are more susceptible both to the detrimental effects of harsh environments, and the benefits of positive and nurturing ones. ¹

It may often feel like a curse if you’re challenged with the superpowers you have.

I like to look at this energetic sensitivity like the Fantastic Four. ² This fictional superhero team appeared in comic books published by Marvel Comics. The story goes that during an outer space test flight in an experimental rocket ship, a storm of cosmic rays bombarded the Fantastic Four. Upon crash-landing back to earth, the four astronauts found themselves transformed with bizarre new abilities:

• Mister Fantastic, a scientific genius, can stretch, twist and reshape his body to inhuman proportions—in any shape he needs. He’s the father figure and leader.

• Invisible Girl/Invisible Woman, can bend and manipulate light to render herself, and others, invisible. She later develops the ability to generate force fields, which she uses for a variety of defensive and offensive effects.

• The Human Torch possesses the ability to control fire, allowing him to project fire from his body, as well as generate the power to fly.

• The Thing transforms into a monstrous, craggy humanoid with orange, rocklike skin and superstrength. The Thing is often filled with anger, self-loathing, and self-pity over his new existence. Eventually, through his trials, he becomes the most lovable group member: honest, direct and free of pretension.³

The four became fantastic not because they tried to pretend they didn’t have bizarre new abilities. They embrace these abilities, somewhat awkwardly at first, and then decide to use these powers for good as superheroes. It’s a save-the-world kind of thing.

Fast-forward to reality. We empaths have been blasted with superpowers that we are discovering. Perhaps we don’t trust ourselves yet, and we are awkward at best, but really, what were we truly meant to do with these abilities? Were we meant to stay at home, cowering in our space because there is too much energy? Were we meant to not say what we really think, feel, or intuit? Were we meant to feel alone—like outsiders, feeling like we don’t fit in? Were we meant to fear and avoid crowds in shopping malls, sports events, and parties?

Of course not.

We were meant to shine that empath light like no other.

One of the biggest challenges we face in our lifetime will be to truly accept and love who we are 100 percent. I’ve made a lot of progress toward this 100 percent so far, and it will be a lifetime achievement for me.

Perhaps it will be a lifetime achievement for all of us, as the attributes we see in ourselves we now accept on some level because we picked up this book. They are not fully accepted though—not yet.

We may know information a year or two ahead of time. We know that it’s coming because we’re sensing it, and we share it in unskilled ways that cause others to outright reject it—the way we do it alienates us from others. In fact, this happens automatically to us as children. We blurted out, without judgment, that insight or information we knew. It was met with denial, skepticism, punishment, criticism, or shame. The value of the information was lost. Many of us learned to deny our very essence and power so that we’d fit in, be accepted, and not be alone.

What if we fully accepted ourselves? That means we know we have power in the information we receive. We know it may be way ahead of its time or on a level that others won’t see or understand. Even so, we validate it and accept it for ourselves as true, because of course we know it is. We don’t run out to the first person we see to validate it. Then we get curious about what we’re sensing. We take the time to reflect on what it means to us, and how to choose the next best action by considering the best people, places, and events to share it with. The information gets disseminated effectively.

This book is for empaths who can’t accept how sensitive they are. They think that something is wrong with them because they’re so sensitive. Sometimes they have a hard time making it confidently through a day because of all they’re feeling. They wish they were not the way they are. Maybe they’ve struggled for years with their sensitivities. Maybe they’ve blocked them out at a deep level.

And why wouldn’t they? There hasn’t been a playbook on how to be an empath. Most of us have learned from one place or another, or from many places, that being an empath is not a positive trait. It feels like a curse.

I wrote this book for you, for us. My hope is that I will empower you to embrace your sensitivity and the wonderful person you are.

This book deals with the importance of accepting yourself at your core as an empath. It empowers you to define your personal elixir, that is, your current strategies to stay balanced and strong. These are the behaviors you come back to whenever you are feeling off-kilter.

You are who you are at your core. Disowning yourself and wishing you were different, as I did for so many years and as my mom did for her entire life, doesn’t change who you are. Trying to avoid yourself leaves you on your deathbed not having fully lived the life you were born to live.

You were born to be sensitive for a reason. Why do you think you were born an empath?

It’s time to assertively discover and accept who you are, reap the benefits, and share your light with the world.

To do this you need to be a strong empath, firm in your self-care, which includes well defined and nonnegotiable boundaries. This book will help you define your personal elixir so that you stay strong.

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Your lifestyle matters—a lot. Make it a priority.

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Empaths have lost their way. Most of us are feeling overwhelmed and unwell.

We struggle to get through our daily jobs; to find a meal that doesn’t upset our systems. We get disappointed in our closest relationships and can’t seem to walk through life grounded and content. We may often feel heightened anxiety and depression that seems to come out of nowhere. We come home depleted and grumpy. We crave sweets and other carbs because we feel like we don’t fit in, and we wish we weren’t who we are.

Empaths are the future of our world. With our extra sensitive nature, we can tune into what’s most important and know how to move forward. We have access to inordinate amounts of information. We see things that others don’t. We sense things at a deep level. We have a knowingness that goes beyond the logic of the mind.

This is why our planet needs us. Now more than ever, we are needed—by the earth, animals, plants, and our fellow humans. We can share what we see, hear, feel, and intuit, and shine our light to help make the world a more balanced place.

We empaths are a special breed. Our sensitivities provide us with a lot of information physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. All the energy and stimulation around us—unlike our long-ago ancestors who didn’t have huge crowds and electronic gadgets like 5G Wi-Fi, TV, computers,