Love Death Love

By Ellen Long Stilwell

This book is for readers who are dealing with grief and pain while facing an end of life experience. An easy-to-read book like this is likely all he or she would want to read at such a time.

This is a collection of stories that showcase the experience of a loved one's death and how to best process the emotions felt during that time of grief. The goal is for the reader to begin accepting the journey of death with love. In these pages I express my own experiences and I hope that you can recognize yourself, that you can relate to something that lightens the pain of death and/or allows your loved one to pass over, and that you can cherish your time together.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Mar 31, 2020
• ISBN: 9781982243319

Ellen Long Stilwell

ELLEN LONG STILWELL is a registered nurse certified in hospice and palliative care. While raising her two boys, she volunteered as part of the hospice team with Metropolitan Jewish Health System. She worked several years for Visiting Nurse Service of New York, where she cared for hospice patients and families in their homes. She also worked with Calvary as a Liaison at Weill Cornell, transitioning patients and families from the acute care setting into hospice care. Ellen is working with patients and families at home, the heart of hospice. She is also trained as a death doula by a Buddhist Monk. Ellen is on the faculty at Adelphi University in Garden City, New York, teaching Caring for the Patient Nearing End of Life.

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ISBN: 978-1-9822-4330-2 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-9822-4331-9 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2020902913

Balboa Press rev. date: 06/08/2021

CONTENTS

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Chapter I My Experience

Chapter II Your Experience

Chapter III The ICU

Chapter IV My Sister’s Family

Chapter V My Husband’s Discovery

Chapter VI It’s Really Just Love

Chapter VII A Muslim Patient

Chapter VIII Catholic Guilt

Chapter IX A Beautiful Journey

Chapter X Peace

Chapter XI A Mother and Eldest Daughter

Chapter XII The Lovers

Chapter XIII Grief

Helpful References

Prayer/Ritual References

Messages For Loved Ones

Additional Resources

Acknowledgements

DEDICATION

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To Family Members

Tina, Lindsay, Stanley, Troy James, Stanley John and Austin

How Much Time is There...

  Accepting the Journey to Death

This book is for readers who are dealing with grief and pain while facing an end of life experience. An easy-to-read book like this is likely all he or she would want to read at such a time.

I hope this book will help that reader.

Please read on…these pages reflect my own experiences. I hope that you can relate to something in them in a way that lightens the pain or prospect of death, allowing you to cherish your remaining time together and to help your loved one accept what is happening.

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