Understanding the Differences of the Genders: What Makes Relationships Thrive. Identifying the Periods of Blues as Key to Understanding the Human Discords.

By NMD Otolorin Bell

This writing has been dictated by observation of human personalities. Most of the other writings I have read seem to placate some genders us means of pandering for sales. Also, knowing that certain human gender must be treated gently, the advice offered by earlier writings has been devoid of practical application or solution to the problem for success.
What works is more important than ideal proposition. Adolescent amore must be distinguished from the matured adult relationships. While both are affected and afflicted by biochemical mix, the later situation is more organized and better understood because experience has been brought to bear on the effectiveness of the cerebral process.
Relationship between a man and a woman is mostly based on informed selection or acceptance by the female gender who determines the dynamics of the mix. Then we can count on luck to meet our matches and prayer on the continuity of the sparks brought into the relationship, as long as equality forms the basis of the initial desire with no sides designing to take undue advantage of the other side. There would be no suppression or denial of freedom in the name of love either overtly or covertly. As long as the expression of that freedom does not inflict physical or chemical harm to either party in the pursuant of the heart's desire, love would be allowed to flourish unhindered.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Dec 2, 2019
• ISBN: 9781796068733

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Copyright © 2019 by Otolorin Bell NMD.

Library of Congress Control Number:    2019917456

ISBN:                  Hardcover                        978-1-7960-6867-2

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CONTENTS

Foreword

Chapter 1     Opposites Attract A Misnomer in Human Interaction

Chapter 2     The Basic Human Attraction to One Another

Chapter 3     Living With Natural Attraction and Compatibility with Children in the Mix

Chapter 4     Even when there’s Compatibility: What Dictates Longevity of Relationship?

Chapter 5     Environmental Pressures of Keeping Up with the Jones’ Even When in Denial (Aspects of Personal Frame of Reference)

Chapter 6     Moments of Blues and What Gives for Relationship to Thrive, i.e., Freedom of Movements and Self-Assured Security

Chapter 7     What Deepens the Moments of Blues?

Chapter 8     Religious Angle of Relationships; And the Attending-Dullness of the Sparks Brought in at the Beginning

Chapter 9     Understanding the Basic Premise of the Individual Personality

Chapter 10   Growing Up Together With Living Life to the Fullest with Basic or Minimal Affinity to Money or Social Climbing

Chapter 11   Complimentary Competition and Collaboration as a Team

Chapter 12   The Ability to Cover Up infidelity Better Done By the Female Gender

Chapter 13   Fear of the Female In-Laws more Profound with the Female Partner

Chapter 14   On Gays, Lesbians, and Others, What Gives

Chapter 15   On Sexual Attractiveness of Couples to one Another for The Long Haul

Chapter 16   Adolescent Relationship and the Denials!

Chapter 17   Love Expression

Chapter 18   The Confusion That Still Accompanies Love Relationship And Love Making

Foreword

This writing has been dictated by observation of human personalities. Most of the other writings I have read seem to placate some genders us means of pandering for sales. Also, knowing that certain human gender must be treated gently, the advice offered by earlier writings has been devoid of practical application or solution to the problem for success.

What works is more important than ideal proposition. Adolescent amore must be distinguished from the matured adult relationships. While both are affected and afflicted by biochemical mix, the later situation is more organized and better understood because experience has been brought to bear on the effectiveness of the cerebral process.

Relationship between a man and a woman is mostly based on informed selection or acceptance by the female gender who determines the dynamics of the mix. Then we can count on luck to meet our matches and prayer on the continuity of the sparks brought into the relationship, as long as equality forms the basis of the initial desire with no sides designing to take undue advantage of the other side. There would be no suppression or denial of freedom in the name of love either overtly or covertly. As long as the expression of that freedom does not inflict physical or chemical harm to either party in the pursuant of the heart’s desire, love would be allowed to flourish unhindered.

Chapter 1

Opposites Attract A Misnomer in Human Interaction

I remember a book titled Men are from Mars and Women from Venus. The connotation of opposites, however obvious, ignores the genetic connection. No man is complete without the compliments of the X-chromosome. But the chromosome with the genetic construction must bear the similarity of function for a sync of performance or interaction.

Let me begin by presenting a few illustrations of the adage above and show how fallacious the statement is: One, a convict being pursued for love by an otherwise girl next door. The union may be possible only if the so called girl next door has the same lifestyle in common with the convict. A good psychologist would find this common denominator, tile outward appearance of either party notwithstanding. And where there’s no common denominator of the character inherent in the genome of either of the parties, however well concealed, the break up is sooner than later.

There are also the feelings of some individuals that if they try bard enough, they would be able to reconstruct the partners of their dreams. This effort will always bring grief, heart breaks and subliminal resentments ready to explode at tile slightest prodding. In the end, they try to pass themselves as victims of the reaction instead of, as perpetrators. Besides, the exercise smacks of controlling and domination of the other party.

Love at first sight, must be reciprocal for a connection to be made and what pushes it forward is the similarity of the personalities which would be complimentary rather than adversarial. I don’t care how handsome or beautiful a person is, a sloppy individual fundamentally cannot have a healthy relationship with the neat or caring person. The latter would suffer from burn out, and out goes the relationship with deep bitterness. On the other hand, a fundamentally clean but otherwise over labored or over extended individual who may appear rough in appearance would strike a complimentary chord with a neat partner without reversing to the old rough stance.

Item: An active, successful or risk-taking individuals business wise looking for a detached non-business involved partner or an artistic, easy going, laid back individual with minimal interest in economic growth or progression. be it personal or continental, will soon discover that he is running after shadows. Because, no matter the amount of money he or she makes, the appreciation will be wanton in the partner. This lack or appreciation will amaze the uninformed onlookers who believe in this peculiar aspect of life. The number of children involved