What Engaged Couples Must Know

By Bruce Sherman

I wish that this book – or one like it – had been available years ago before my previous marriage. Had I read it, it might have helped me prevent one of the worst mistakes of my life...a mistake that consumed 10 years and adversely impacted my career, my finances, and my emotional well-being.
But...the book is not about my life story. Nor is it intended to be a diatribe against marriage.
Rather, it is a distillation of professional research studies from a variety of sources on marriage (including U.S. Census data) and divorce, combined with the personal observation and experience of the author and other relevant sources.
The purpose/objective of the book is to help the reader make as informed and unemotional a decision as possible about the person he/she intends to marry. It attempts to outline and examine the critical factors in the decision and why each is so important. In some cases, it will help support the reader’s decision. In others, it will give him/her pause!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Oct 21, 2019
• ISBN: 9781796067071

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Copyright © 2019 by Bruce Sherman.

ISBN:      Softcover      978-1-7960-6701-9

                eBook            978-1-7960-6707-1

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Rev. date: 10/21/2019

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CONTENTS

1.   Dedication

2.   Credentials

3.   On Marriage

4.   Preface / Format

5.   Overview

6.   Key Factors

A. Marital History

B. Financial

C. Health / Disability / Genetic Issues

D. Religion

E. The Parents Factor

F. Education /Ambition /Life Goals

G. Personality / Shared Interests

H. Kids – What About ‘Em?

I. Cohabitation (Shacking up!)

J. Ending The Engagement

K. Summary

7.   Addendum

8.   Appendix

WARNING – WHAT IF…!

What if you found out AFTER the wedding?

that your spouse had an abortion…

…had attempted suicide…

…had a bankruptcy…

…had a criminal record…

…had a mother planning to live with you!

…had a previous marriage that ended in divorce due to adultery…

…had huge credit card debt…

…had a history of violent behavior towards women…

I personally experienced one of these!

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• How to Pick a Mate…for Life!

Dedication

To Anita…my wife for 44 years, for restoring my faith in marriage and to my father, who picked the most wonderful mother in the world to be mine.

Credentials

Although I am neither a psychologist nor a psychiatrist, my qualifications for authoring this book are as follows:

• 10 years’ experience in a bad marriage that produced two children and ended in divorce.

• 44 years…and still working on…a second marriage with no children by agreement.

• Extensive research.

• 88 years observing the human condition.

• A degree from a prestigious college.

• A wide circle of friends, relatives, and acquaintances…both married and