Breaking Free and Healing the Heart Workbook: Overcoming Obstacles to Healthy Relationships
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This workbook has been written to help individuals walk into healing when life has thrown them curveballs, and they have a desire to get their life back on track. The teaching will help you obtain all God has for you. Jesus promises in his Word that he will heal your heart and set you free. The workbook will show you the steps to obtain that healing.
Sydney Gienty M.A. LMHC
I am a licensed Christian counselor who has been in private practice for thirty three years. I received a Master of Art degree in Individual and Community Psychology from St. Martin’s University in 1988. I have worked extensively in the areas of Marriage and Family counseling, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and drug, alcohol and sexual addition. I have taught seminars regionally, nationally, and internationally. I developed and facilitated a comprehensive marriage program that has resulted in many individuals and marriages being healed.
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Breaking Free and Healing the Heart Workbook - Sydney Gienty M.A. LMHC
BREAKING FREE AND
HEALING THE HEART
WORKBOOK
Overcoming Obstacles to Healthy Relationships
SYDNEY GIENTY, M.A., LMHC
(Individual, Family, and Marriage Counselor)
Olympia, Washington 98502
(360) 943-9706
31282.pngCopyright © 2017 Sydney Gienty, M.A., LMHC.
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This is a work of fiction. All of the characters, names, incidents, organizations, and dialogue in this novel are either the products of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously.
Scripture quotations marked NIV are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations marked MSG are taken from THE MESSAGE. Copyright 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003 by Eugene H. Peterson. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group.
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Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible
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ISBN: 978-1-5127-8046-8 (sc)
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WestBow Press rev. date: 04/10/2017
CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Foreword
Introduction
Beauty for Ashes—Testimony
Commit Yourself to Healing
Offenses
Trust
Hope Against All Odds—Testimony
Forgiveness
Judgments
Vows
Belief Systems and Strongholds
Defeating Sinful Thoughts, Behaviors and Pride
Saul Attitudes
How the Enemy Works
Destruction to Victory—Testimony
Traits of a Healthy Family
Seven Principles for a Biblical Family
Symptoms of a Dysfunctional Family
Delivered from Addiction—Testimony
Characteristics of an Addictive Personality
Addiction
The Fool
Delivered from Pornography Addiction—Testimony
Sexual Addiction
Anger Was Destroying Me—Testimony
Anger
Anger in Marriage
The Abuse Cycle
Depression
Feeling List
Resources
Workbook Order Form
Endnotes
This book is
dedicated to the Lord Jesus Christ, who is the author and finisher of our faith.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
The author wishes to acknowledge that without the help of my husband, children and many faithful friends this manuscript would not have been completed.
I have grown spiritually every step of the way and have learned more about Jesus and His love, power, and grace. I wish to thank my faithful, loving husband for supporting, encouraging, and instructing me as I undertook a task that seemed insurmountable. Through my children, God has taught me that His principles work, and He is faithful to fulfill His promises.
Throughout the writing of this manual, my friends have supported and helped me. They have edited, contributed insight, and encouraged me to keep going when it would have been easier to quit. I deeply appreciate those individuals who have been willing to share their testimonies about God’s miraculous power in their lives.
May God bless each of you.
FOREWORD
I’ve been using Sydney’s materials with my clients for years—ever since it helped me receive healing for my own emotional wounds. For years prior, I struggled with issues related to my own history of woundedness. Despite my best efforts, I could not seem to overcome the perpetual hurt that I carried inside. It was a pain that affected my ministry, my marriage, and my walk with God. I had already spent thousands of dollars in counseling fees and dozens of weeks of intense personal reflection. All of those counselors taught me something useful and even important about how to manage my pain. Sydney showed me how God would take it away for good. My journey in life was probably something like yours … really painful. I didn’t see the use for Biblical counseling beyond what I had already received. After one more go around with my wife during a season of unemployment and financial struggles, I couldn’t see what Sydney could do for me that all those previous counselors couldn’t. I told my wife, I don’t want to spend more time and money on more ineffective counseling that’s only going to dredge up a lot of pain as I spend weeks staring at my naval.
But with my wife’s pressure and the Holy Spirit’s guidance, I relented. I am so glad I did! Going through this material and applying the principles that are taught has definitely been one of the best decisions of my life.
Beyond the freedom of releasing my personal baggage, I have experienced the joy of using this material and seeing life after life transformed as I witness the wounds of my own clients being completely erased. I’ve seen God work intensely in their lives as we apply the Scriptures to their situations. Old, crusty solders grow loving. Scared and guarded women grow bold. Broken lives and marriages get restored. It’s exciting stuff, real early Church, New Testament Holy Spirit power. I know I am writing checks here that only God can cash, but how can I help it when I’ve seen Him work through the very same material in this book time and time again? You need to do the work like I did and apply this material to your life. I haven’t been disappointed. I don’t believe you will be either.
Chaplain Jason Haddock
United States Army
30178.pngIt was because of consistent years of marital difficulty and strife that my husband and I went to Sydney. Instead of working with us as a couple, she worked with us individually using Scripture to address our woundedness, and how that was affecting our outlook and behavior. The Holy Spirit used Sydney to show me I was developing a stony heart toward my husband. Many of the issues I thought were all him were really my own issues that I had been oblivious about, even after going to several other Christian counselors. When Sydney guided me through forgiving those who had caused my woundedness and prayed Jesus’ healing over me, I felt God’s love and presence wash over me like I had never known before. True inward, life-changing healing was the result. Issues I had struggled with for years were dissolved.
It has now been several years since that healing experience. Time has proven that this was not just a temporary thing. I don’t have the anxiety, need to control, or destructive language that I used to have toward my husband and children. Where my marriage was once marked by strife, distance, high blood pressure, and accusations, it is now filled with love, unity, peace and grace. God used Sydney and her understanding and application of Scripture in a mighty way to heal my life and marriage. God wants to do this for you too. I praise God for this book and for how He is going to use it to heal many more lives.
Linda Haddock
INTRODUCTION
For many years, I have had the wonderful privilege of praying for many of God’s people for emotional healing. I have seen God heal and restore individuals and couples in amazing ways. I have come to know my God as a loving Heavenly Father who meets His children’s needs in a way that is always unique and special to them. The testimonies enclosed in this workbook reveal God’s power and His uniqueness. Many times as I am praying for someone, I know that God is ministering to them, but I have no idea how. Sometimes God just brings a deep peace. Other times He gives them a vision, or they simply feel a deep release or a burden taken by the Spirit of God. Whatever God does, it is life changing and permanent. I can only praise Him for His faithfulness and abiding love. The greatest privilege in life is to serve our Lord and Master, Jesus Christ.
God wants to heal His children emotionally and physically, but the greatest healing comes when we receive God’s Son, Jesus, as our personal Lord and Savior.
To receive Jesus into your life and have the assurance that your sins are forgiven and you will spend eternity in heaven with Him, simply requires that you ask Him to come into your life and be Lord of your life. Say the following prayer:
Jesus, I acknowledge that I am a sinner. I ask You to forgive me of all my sins and to come into my life. I believe that You died for me on the cross, and that You rose again on the third day that I might be saved and my sins washed away. I know that You will come again, and I will live with You forever. I choose this day to live for You, Jesus. Thank You for saving me from my sins.
For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.
(John 3:17-21 NIV)
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
(John 3:16 NIV)
If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, ‘Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.’
(Rom. 10:9-11 NIV)
As the scripture says, Anyone who believes in Him will never be put to shame.
Trust in Jesus today, and ask Him to come into your heart. The testimonies you will read about in this workbook are the miracles that God has done for those who have surrendered their heart to Jesus and have been saved from their sins by a living, ever present, loving Lord and Savior. Will you join them and receive a relationship with the Lord that will change your life? Ask Him today to come into your heart and be Lord of your life.
BEAUTY FOR ASHES—TESTIMONY
30032.pngA young woman who was broken emotionally, spiritually and physically writes the following story. God met her right where she was and completely set her free. She tells only part of her story here, but what she shares gives you a glimpse of how God met her in a powerful way. God did for her what no human could ever do. He not only healed her, but He miraculously revealed His power and presence to her. God will do the same for you because He loves you and died for you.
30035.png"The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me,
because the LORD has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted."
—Isaiah 61:1 NIV
In my state of mourning, I had given up on God. I had decided that He had given up on me a long time ago, and now I was done with Him. If God was trustworthy, all-knowing, and all-powerful, then why didn’t He care about me and the pain I was in? Anything to do with God angered me. At church, the praise made my heart feel like stone. Was all hope gone? I had been in church my whole life. I had even been in the ministry. But I never dared to confront God with the truly hard questions. Where was God? Who was God? And why didn’t I have a childhood filled with love, laughter, and innocence? Little did I know that Christ would soon be blessing me with comfort to my soul.
"To proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners."
—Isaiah 61:1 NIV
I lived through a unique captivity where the sins of past generations were carried onto me. I was born into a family that was already maxed out emotionally and financially. I grew up in a house filled with anger, rage, deceit, and chaos. It was survival of the fittest. Being the youngest, I wasn’t the fittest. But by the grace of God, I was a survivor. Growing up I never felt I belonged or was wanted in the family. My parents were struggling with their own lives, unable to give me the attention I longed for. I learned in most part to stay out of the way. I watched from an emotional distance, wanting someone to notice there was a hurting child who needed a tight hug, who needed a gentle smile, and who needed to know that life wasn’t going to destroy her. In the midst of all the anger and chaos, I would try to disappear, only to be found by my older brother who physically, emotionally, and sexually abused me. My brother would tell me that I was what was wrong with our family. It wasn’t like this before you were born,
he would say. It was like a sword through my heart. You don’t deserve to live for what you’ve done to our family, and someday I will kill you.
And I believed him. He would beat me if I crossed him, or at times he would hit me for entering the room he was in. He would dig a hole in the backyard to my measurements and put me in the hole. It was so narrow that I