The Power of Anger: Anger Leads to Loneliness. Loneliness Can Lead to Empowerment

By Lidwine Meffo

Some feelings cannot be avoided, but the effect those feelings have on us, however, can be controlled and avoided. This book serves as a guide to control those feelings that stop us from achieving our potentialanger, doubts, and guilt. Anger is a sensation that all and sundry, at several moments in life, has felt from the time we are born to when we die. To few, it has been a constructive foundation, and to many, it has been a destructive one. This book enables readers to know who they are vis--vis this emotion and to what extend it affects them and their surroundings. It unveils the unconscious negative power of anger over self and enables the reader to start handling this emotion from a different angle of positivity and motivation. The book, which is based on real-life experiences, should push a reader who has self-doubts to build confidence, courage, and determination to forge on with conceived ambitions no matter what others say or the circumstances and difficulties that come with it.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jun 19, 2018
• ISBN: 9781984530356

Lidwine Meffo

Ms. Lidwine Meffo is a Cameroonian by birth and now an American citizen who is fluent in French and English. She holds an MBA in Project Management from Devry University and MS in Psychology from the Montclair. She is currently preparing for her PhD in Leadership and Management at Rutgers University. As a philanthropist with an holistic view in human development, She created her non-profit Organization named The Smiling Foundation since 2016 which promotes Human Rights and Humanitarian Action in the fields of education, health, agriculture and women equality in the African Continent. Ms Lidwine is currently engaged in Library Construction projects in 22 African countries. Her project Education for All has been crucial for The Smiling foundation as it opened partnerships in Tunisia, Morocco and Cameroon to meet her objectives. Some successfully established programs are: Women Empowerment Conferences at the United Nations, workshops in Tunisia with Union Des Leaders Africans (ULA); Women Empowerment Initiatives in Marrakech; allocation of basic necessities and sanitation products to over 1,200 women present at workshops in Bamenda; Organization of Gala in Yaound and Douala for fundraisers destined for school supplies at the New Destiny Orphanage. It has been her call working with several world leaders and officials to discuss necessary actions to be taken for the betterment of Africa and contribution to the attainment of the Sustainable Development Goals by 2030. Her overall vision for the economic and sustainable development of Africa in particular has greatly increased while working with the United Nations Organization. In the midst of all mentioned, she enjoys aesthetics and fashion. She owns her fashion salon named MEFFASHION in New Jersey since 2000 and two others in Gambia and Senegal. Ms Lidwine is greatly committed to the course of seeing a sustainable development in Africa and more of her exploits can be seen on www.thesmilingfoundation.com .

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CONTENTS

PART I

Chapter 1 Introduction

Chapter 2 Facade Of Anger

Chapter 3 Expect The Unexpected

Chapter 4 Things Can Be Remorseful

Chapter 5 Power Of Meditation

Chapter 6 Give Sense To Your Tête-À-Tête With Others

Chapter 7 Expect Less From Others

Chapter 8 Triggers

Chapter 9 Apologies

Chapter 10 Create A Structural Plan

Chapter 11 Anger And Humility

Chapter 12 Sex Along The Line

Chapter 13 A Dark Cloud That Does Not Exist

Conclusion

PART II

Dare Big

I Dare You That You Can

I Dare You Can

I Told Them, I Dare You Guys Can

I Dare You Can

I Dare You Will Do It

I Dare You Can

I Dare You Can if You Know What You Want

I Dare You Can Become a Better Person

I Dare You Can When You Dare It

I Dare You Can Do Anything

I Dare You Can

Conclusion

PART I

CHAPTER 1

Introduction

Anger, anger, anger— what a word! At first, I thought this emotion was mostly my state of mind, but then I realized that it was my main motivation, pushing me even further in life. What do I mean by that?

Is this how I would like to start this book? First, let’s start with basic questions that require basic and honest answers.

1. Are you an angry person?

2. Have you been in situations that turned you into someone you couldn’t recognize?

3. Does your anger lead you to negative results or positive results?

After answering those questions, you can now read the content of this book with passion. I was an angry person till the day I realized it does not benefit me in any way. Considering where I grew up, being an angry person was seen as normal at an early stage, or I would say that people paid no attention at all to kids’ feelings and emotions. I was a kid, and I was surrounded by people who always got into fights, and I had to jump in. I spent most of adolescence fighting and breaking friendships because it seemed cool and powerful. It was fun at times, and it made me look like I was the leader of all the turbulence faced by others. Yes, I call it turbulence because it has no peace attached to it, and I was happy about it.

It is a fact that we are living in a world full of stress and uncontrollable circumstances pushing people to become angrier as time passes by. Economic hardship seems to escalate by the day, political ideologies seem to be conflicting between different parts of the world, the battle for spiritual superiority burns every day, and these extend to race, gender, and what have you? As a result of this constant struggle, people get angrier by the day because life gets tougher than it was, but one thing we should never forget is being angry does not always make us act poorly and sin. It is a choice to act the way we do when we are angry. It has also been observed that it is an act fully controlled by the flesh only. I believe as well that anger may have some spiritual connotation. From the tip of my fingers, I can remember at least ten times the Bible mentioned God was angry.

1. The Lord was angry with Adam and Eve for not respecting His instructions. They ate the forbidden fruit and disobeyed God, so he cast them out of the Garden of Eden to the world of dependence and suffering.

2. The Lord was angry with the Egyptians in general and Pharaoh in particular with the way His people, the Israelites, were treated. He got angrier when His attempts to deliver His people out of bondage met with stiff opposition, so he sent the ten almighty plagues in the land of Egypt, which the people severely suffered from.

3. God was angry with the world because of their increasingly sinful nature. So he instructed the only righteous person he knew named Noah to build an ark, and for 150 days, the earth and everything that lived on it but for those in the ark were totally destroyed.

4. In Numbers 32:13, God was angry with Israel for the denial to get into the land He had kept for them. In His anger, God made the Israelites to wander in the wilderness for forty good years, and this lasted till the generation of Israelites who had offended him were all wiped out from the surface of the earth.

5. Jesus got angry with the merchants selling goods inside church because this dishonored the purpose for which the temple was built. It is said he overturned the tables and benches of money exchangers and traders;

6. In 2 Kings 17:18, God was very angry because they did not respect His commandments. As a result of this, he took the people out of his sight and gave them out in the hands of plunderers.

7. The Ten Commandments says it all.

8. God keeps His eyes away from wicked people.

9. You could take out time to read 1 and 2 Kings.

10. God says in Ezekiel 33:11, I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn from their ways and live.

God and even Jesus on several instances, as mentioned above, have also demonstrated anger. So what more of you and me, mere human beings? It is a normal tendency to be angry. God was angry, and in His anger, He punished. God looked down on earth after the destruction that lasted 150 days and felt so remorseful, and he did a covenant with man because of this to never destroy earth ever again as He did. In respect to this, He