Finding Brave: My Journey from a Life of Fear to One of Hope
By Jamie Taylor
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In Finding Brave, author Jamie Taylor shares her own compelling and inspiring story of living for ten years with physical and mental chains around her body, as she struggles with anxiety, depression, and loneliness before opening her heart to God and discovering a renewed bravery in faith. Jamie explains how trusting in God and giving up control is the answer to that longing for healing, and she offers personal anecdotes and practical solutions for those living with mental health issues.
While the struggle with mental health issues may not end, God’s faithful love is enduring and strong. If you or someone you love is facing anxiety and depression—and you are seeking to understand the experience—then Jamie’s story of hope and healing can help you discover who you are in Christ and start living from a place of trust. Because only when Christ sets us free are we truly free take the next step and live the purpose he intended for us.
Jamie Taylor
Jamie Taylor loves to help people find healing from emotional pain and trauma. She is a writer and speaker who uses her own experiences as a bridge to connect with others. Jamie lives in the beautiful state of Idaho with her husband and four children. Find out more at www.jamietayloronline.org.
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Finding Brave - Jamie Taylor
Finding Brave
MY JOURNEY FROM A
LIFE of FEAR TO ONE of HOPE
Jamie Taylor
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ISBN: 978-1-9736-2774-6 (sc)
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WestBow Press rev. date: 05/08/2018
For Brian, who has walked beside me on this journey - through the hardest days and the darkest nights. I love you.
Contents
Introduction
1. Baby Blues
2. The Assured Agoraphobic
3. Driving Distressed
4. The Panicked Pastor’s Wife
5. Nursery Nightmares
6. Medicine, Marriage & Milestones
7. The Scary Stage
8. Stepping out of Safety to Serve
9. Walking with Women
10. When Callings Collide
11. Joy in the Journey
12. Power over Paralysis
Afterword
Acknowledgements
Verses for Hope & Healing
Resources
Introduction
This isn’t the book I dreamed about writing when I was young.
In fact, when I first sat down to begin writing my experience with anxiety and depression; I didn’t have a fixed goal in mind. I was simply aware that the words needed to fill a page. My story needed to be shared, even if it was just with a small group of friends. I felt drawn to share what I have gone through up to this point because I wish I could have heard these words from someone during my darkest days. I needed to hear I wasn’t alone.
It can be difficult when writing a book like this, because there already are so many good resources out there on mental health. I can’t tell you how many books I have seen advertised just this year that promise to help us break out of our fears and live a victorious life. Just so you know, I’m not reinventing the wheel. This is not a self-help book, and it’s not my autobiography. This is me sharing my story and hoping you are inspired and challenged by the lessons God has taught me. I’ve been tempted to shrink back from being vulnerable because I don’t have all the answers.
This short summary of my experience took over two years to write down. Part of the reason for that is because I was still very much in process (I believe I will always be in process
). Healing from emotional pain does not happen overnight. In my experience, I’ve come across no one who found perfection in their lifetime.
There are two things that I want to tell you before you read this book. The first is that mental health crises’ are very real experiences. Let me assure you from the onset that people are typically not being dramatic
when they tell you they deal with panic disorder, anxiety or depression. I used to think these kinds of issues weren’t that big of a deal. People just need to get a grip,
I would think to myself. It can’t be that bad.
How very wrong I was. If someone in your life is going through an emotional hurdle, the best thing you can do for them in the beginning is to believe them. Assure them they aren’t crazy. Help them on the path to their healing. And, if that person who needs healing is you, I want to assure you that you are not alone in the struggle. My hope for you is that you will stop running away from the difficult journey, and will lean into it instead. You need a life more abundant. You weren’t made for half-cup living.
Secondly, I want you to understand that perfection is not the goal. Healing doesn’t mean that you won’t feel scared or frustrated or worried. It won’t mean you will always walk through each day with a cool, calm attitude. Life has mountains and valleys, and you will continue to experience those. The majority of people I talk to aren’t interested in the kind of self-help that comes off as fake and unrealistic. Instagram worthy perfection is not where most of us live. We feel deep hurts and cry real tears. (Oh, and our sink has dirty dishes in it every single day).
The goal in my writing will never be to paint a picture of wholeness on earth, because it doesn’t exist. We were created for eternity, and we aren’t there yet. However, we can reach a place of meaning where heaven comes down to meet us in our weaknesses. A place of freedom and hope in which we live the life we were created to. I want that for you. I want you to be free.
I lived for ten years with physical and mental chains around my body. I felt an overwhelming urgency to run, and yet my feet were enveloped in quicksand. I wasn’t sure I would ever feel normal
again.
Normal is defined by the Merriam Webster dictionary as not deviating from a norm, rule, or principle.
Another description is conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern.
One definition even goes so far as to say, "free from mental illness: mentally sound."
My question in response to this information is this, If so many people struggle with fear, anxiety, and depression, what does that say about our concept of normalcy?
Why is it that so many of us can’t seem to break free to live what we envision as a normal
life?
I believe that one of the reasons it took me so long to find healing is because of the stigma attached to mental health concerns. I didn’t want a label. I didn’t want sympathy. I didn’t want to be different. So, instead, I lived my anxiety out as secretly as I could. My body suffered. My family suffered. And, my mind suffered to such a great extent, that I became physically sick as a result.
Every human will be faced with periods of pain, moments of fear and seasons of emotional ups and downs. That is the normal part of life. What isn’t normal however, is what I experienced for a ten year period of my life. I lived a life of preoccupation with worry, fear, and distress. I was terrified on a daily basis. I was bound with chains that were not easily broken.
This is my story of deliverance.
It is my prayer that you find freedom from your chains of fear and anxiety, and that this book could be instrumental in helping you or someone you love further along that path.
In my experience, the words ‘now just calm down’ almost inevitably have the opposite effect on the person you are speaking to.
- Elyn R. Saks
1
Baby Blues
The Starting Point
Most of us have heard of the possibility of something called the baby blues.
Pregnancy and childbirth have a way of changing the course of a woman’s inclination toward normalcy. This was the case in my experience.
I’ve always been a firm believer in the power of multitasking. And it just so happened my first child was born in the middle of one of my greatest multitasking periods. I was graduating from nursing school, taking my state boards, and juggling side jobs right before our eldest made her grand entrance. I found I had great difficulty cultivating coping mechanisms. The baby blues turned me into a person I couldn’t hope to recognize.
First, a new mom is subject to a great deal of pressure. Everything has to be just right. She must feed the baby at the proper time and use the proper method. According to some camps, she must sleep train her child beginning at birth. According to others, she must allow that child to sleep next to her until close to his or her eighteenth birthday. Oh, and don’t get me started on immunizations! More stress has been caused by that debate than almost anything. Even though that is said in jest, a great variety in parenting standards are typically conveyed to new parents.
How is one to sort them out? I perused books and magazine articles, and talked to countless people about their particular methods. I became a student of proper parenting. After consulting a great number of witnesses, I realized I now had another problem. I had so many thoughts about the art of parenting but truly no idea where to begin with any of them.
To be completely honest, I had a great deal of expectations for my first childbirth experience and the days that followed. I told friends about the plans I had for the proper care and feeding of my child. I knew what was best for babies, and I couldn’t believe