“This Is a Man’S World” . . . Not

By Ted E. Johnson

All experiences are usually made better by sharing it with a companion. Men and women have been fighting an uphill battle to stay in a good place since Adam was first brought into existence. As a result of Adams defiance against the Creator, relationships face many trials and tribulations. Chapter by chapter, this book highlights some of the results of his actions as they manifest in our lives and society today. It points to systems and a society that is poised to replace the male and remove him as the head of the family. This book also highlights the challenges many women face in relationships. The winds of change have weakened Adams sons and misdirected Eves daughters. This book is about some hard truths as they relate to male-and-female interactions. It concludes by showing that all is not lost if we have information, understanding, and the Creators will as our guide.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Sep 18, 2017
• ISBN: 9781543448313

Ted E. Johnson

Ted E Johnson was born into a broken family and hard times. Having a father whom he barely knew, raised in tough economic era, and surviving an era of few opportunities, have forced him to meet adversities head on. He was raised by a very loving mom, who coached and molded him into an upstanding and respectable man. Although the odds were stacked against him, with the support of friends and family he found a way to forge a path that led him to become a contributing and productive member of society. Ted was inspired to share with others his acquired knowledge, personal situations and a host of experiences of other individuals that he is confident will be helpful. Having lived through failed relationships, which includes a divorce, has afforded him insight and wisdom. Ted has now bundled his, and the life experiences of others, to produce a comprehensive guide that includes some hard truths about relationships. He has found that men and women face many challenges in pursuit of a happy union. There are many pitfalls that can ruin the bliss between couples. However, he’s discovered that the Creator’s will for men and women to be happy is still in place.

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This Is a Man’s World … Not

Ted E. Johnson

Copyright © 2017 by Ted E. Johnson.

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CONTENTS

Preface

Acknowledgements

Chapter 1 Keep It Real

Genesis

The Fall

Going Ape

Kumbaya

Chapter 2 It Is What It Is

The Population Status

The State Of The Nation

Something About Her

Court Systems And Her

Chapter 3 In Her Favor

Why We Hunt The Buck

The Chart

The Power Of Change

Chapter 4 Our Outlook

The Things Eve Loves And Hates

Lipstick On His Collar

Different Approaches

The Recipe For A Successful Relationship

Conclusion

Summary

Bibliography

PREFACE

D EARLY BELOVED, WE are gathered here today to join this man and this woman in holy matrimony. If you have ever heard these words, you were probably the witness to an event that changed the lives of two people forever—an event that, for some strange reason, sometimes has diverse meanings for the individuals involved. One may see this event as the start of a new life, while the other sees it as an end to a previous life. In either case, both parties are right. This is a place and time where new challenges and demands will test their will and conviction in all aspects of their lives. These two poor souls—I’m sorry, I meant to say these two wonderful people will now have to confront all of each other’s strengths and weaknesses head-on. This new journey they have embarked on is now underway.

I’ve often wondered why any two people would want to go through all the rigors of meeting, learning, discovering, dating, growing, committing, and finally uniting as a couple. This is a very demanding experience that will eventually take all involved to the edge of personal challenge. However, many end up traveling this road. Most are hoping for a good outcome. Statistically, a large percentage of those meet with failure. The truth is that we all seek some sort of place among society. We all have a sense of wanting to belong to something important. We seek affection and confirmation of our worth from others. We want to know that somebody wants and needs us in their lives. In short, we can call this a desire to be loved.

There have been countless songs made about the word love. So much of our time and energy is dedicated to the pursuit of love and fulfillment. We unconsciously but rather frequently commit, buy, dress, act, socialize, date, fight, and sometimes die for the sake of love. It is probably one of the most commonly used and misused words in our language. Yet we endure whatever it brings just to get to that perceived utopia that, unfortunately, will never arrive. The best that we can hope for is a peaceful and pleasant coexistence.

At this point, I would like to prepare you for what is to follow in this book. I’m going to visit some of the facts, falsehoods, fictions, frustrations, and fun of relationships. I like to refer to these as the five Fs. In this book, I will touch on issues that are very common in relationships. The main difference is that it can be viewed from a very different perspective. Human interaction is key to a wholesome life, but let’s face it—it’s not completely fair. The traditional roles of males and females have essentially remained but bear many signs of erosion. The relationship game is not entirely equitable for both parties involved.

The way I see it, a disproportional amount of resources and investments are slanted toward the well-being of the female species and sometimes at the expense of the male. This book is not intended in any way to induce a Mars vs. Venus (male vs. female) conflict. It is intended to point out what I’m convinced are realities of relationships.

This book contains some hard truths that are neither popular nor palatable. Nonetheless, they are brought center stage so we can confront them. No vulgarity is used, just simple highlights of a number of systems and accepted practices that seem to exist between males and females. Some will find disagreement with some points of view, and that is to be expected. As you explore the chapters, keep the title in mind as a reference to understanding the motivation for the information.

It is hoped that by the time you complete this book, you will have an appreciation for the male point of view as related to who he is and his position in society and family. This book will also shed light on the challenges that women face in relationships. I will reference some experts in different fields to support statements and evidence presented. Just in case you have not made the connection to the title, the deceased recording artist James Brown made a song entitled This Is a Man’s World. This song highlights how man is the producer and builder of structures and things in society. In addition, Brown relates how the male designs all the things we enjoy in life but the woman brings meaning to it all. I’m in total agreement with the part that points out how the woman brings meaning to life. Conversely, I strongly disagree with the title that states This is a man’s world. I think Mr. Brown got it all wrong. I see very few things in life that illustrate men are in control and running the world. From my perspective, the male is the figurehead only. The one who is really in control is the female. It seems that nature and society heavily favor the female species. As far as the male’s true status … Well, let’s just say his place is not what it’s all cracked up to be.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I  WOULD LIKE to take this opportunity to give thanks to my creator and savior the Lord. Without H im, nothing can happen. With Him, everything is possible. I also want to thank the people of the various disciplines that contribute to our understanding of the world around us. Without great minds, we cannot flourish. I want to thank my close friends and family for their support and encouragement through the entire process of this book. Your help has been a wonderful blessing. Lastly, I want to thank my beloved mom and my son, Terrell, for being who they are. I love you both. You guys keep me honest. Though life offers many challenges, you two define the meaning of life for me.

CHAPTER 1

Keep It Real

Genesis

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G OD SAID, LET us make man in our image, after our likeness. So God created man in His own image. In the image of God, He created male and female. Both were created, He in them. God blessed them, and God said to them, Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air and over every living thing that moves on the earth (Gen. 1:26–28 KJV). And with the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man, He made a woman and brought her to the man (Gen. 2:22).

Here was where it all began—the start of the male and female relationship. This was the green light for all that was to come. The participants took their corners. Ding, ding! Both met in the center ring of life for an all-out courtship, each looking to the other for that which each is lacking.

Both were made incomplete as individuals. As a unit, both are complete. Individually, the value of each is great. The value of the unit is much greater. The creation of man was God’s glorification to Himself and the earth.

When God created the woman, it added significance to the man. As the breath of life was breathed into Adam, so was the same gift afforded his mate as she was from him and he was now part of her. Each was made to live in harmony with each other. Like a hand in a glove, it was a perfect fit. She had all that he required and desired, and likewise, he had all she required and desired.

If there was some way this event could have been video recorded, we would truly have been treated to a wonderful event. We would have been able to see firsthand the creation of mankind, to see the Creator set the course and standard for all relationships to follow. The setup of the family unit and its foundation is the basis for all interpersonal interactions. Without a doubt, this was an