How to - Remove Your Success Blockers: A Personal Development Handbook

By Don Xavier

What is holding you back from your greatest success and happiness?

How to Remove Your Success Blockers provides the secrets for removing the success blockers that have been holding you back and keeping you from achieving success in your life and business.

Our only limits are the ones residing in our minds. We can accomplish anything in life that we set our minds on, believe in what we want and begin to take focused actions until the belief becomes positively contagious in our minds and hearts.

Don Xaviers first discovery was that the principle hindrance was the ineffective use of the two greatest gifts with which we have been blessed our minds and time. We each have a mind that we can develop exactly the way we want. This book will show you how to super-focus on your strengths within and understand your weaknesses in order to maximize your full potential and at the same time enjoy a happier, healthier and an overall well-balanced quality of life.

Over the years Don has helped countless people reach their dreams and live their best lives by using these techniques and he believes How to Remove Your Success Blockers will help you too.

• Language: English
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Release date: May 6, 2016
• ISBN: 9781491795316

Don Xavier

Don Xavier, is an author, motivational speaker, entrepreneur and educator. He has written two Canadian best-selling self-help books: “Motivational Cycles to Successful Selling”, “Unleash the Magnet in You” and a Portuguese version “Liberta O Seu Magnetismo Interior”. He wrote the 2-day motivation and sales management mastery program titled, “Boost the Value of your Business” approved for 11 C.E. Credits.

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Contents

What Stands Between You and Achieving More Personal Success?

Part I Identifying the Blockers to Your Success

Chapter One: Motivating Your Human Factor

The Four Human Quadrants

1 – Mr. Know It All

2 – Ms. Settled

3 – Mr. Nice Guy

4 – Ms. Hungry

Two Types of Motivation

Internal Motivation

External Motivation

Chapter Two: Setting the Groundwork

The Six Core Fundamentals to Success

Fundamental #1 – Make a Decision

Fundamental #2 – Lay Down Your Goals

Fundamental #3 – Utilize the Intelligence of Others

Fundamental #4 – Focus

Fundamental #5 – Educate Yourself First

Fundamental #6 – Take Action

Chapter Three: Remove Your Success Blockers –The Beginning

Understand the Problem to Find a Solution

The Blockers

Are You Ready?

Part II Removing the Success Blockers

Chapter Four: Fear

So How Do We Overcome Fear?

Chapter Five: Inner Conflicts

Chapter Six: Limiting Beliefs

How to Remove Limiting Beliefs – Give Your Mind-set a Tune-up

Chapter Seven: Lack of Knowledge

How Can You Acquire Knowledge and Achieve Personal Growth?

Chapter Eight: Toxic Environment

How to Recognize a Toxic Individual

Twenty-Five Traits of Toxic People

How to Help Toxic People – Environment

Chapter Nine: Lack of Passion

Chapter Ten: Lack of Self-Confidence

Chapter Eleven: Procrastination

Ideas to Minimize or Stop Procrastination

Part III Motivation and Inspirations for Success

Chapter Twelve: Daily Motivation

Chapter Thirteen: Success Phrases

Final Words

Recommended Books

Meet Don Xavier

Coaching and Mentoring Programs

Volume Purchasing

This book is dedicated to every courageous individual who has ever dared to step out of their comfort zone to alter the way they think and behave in order to change the way they live and placed their future in their own hands. I have tremendous respect for you!

To my late father, Arnaldo Monteiro Xavier, and my late grandmother, Etelvina Lopes. May you both rest in peace. I will always love you.

A very special dedication to my sister, Laurinda Monteiro Xavier, for her bravery, strength, enthusiasm and courage in beating cancer. Keep on smiling, sister. I love you!

Acknowledgments

Remove Your Success Blockers exists because of the thousands of people who have read my other books and attended my seminars, conferences, workshops and have positively transformed their lives.

Their success has driven me to write this book and to continue helping others make positive changes and achieve more in their lives.

There are numerous people who have contributed to my knowledge and success as an entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker. I’ll single out a few here but my gratitude goes to them all.

To my wife, Maria Xavier, and my daughter, Rosilda Xavier, you both continue to be my rock and I thank you both for your unconditional love and support.

To my mother, Maria Rosilda Lopes, and my step-mother, Joaquina Gomes Xavier, I thank you both for everything!

To all my brothers and sisters for your love and support.

Thank you to all the companies that have engaged me in the past and present.

To all the Câmara Municipal of Cabo Verde in each Municipality for all their support with my 2013 tour. To Banco Comercial do Atlântico of Cabo Verde (BCA) for their support.

Last but not least, I want to sincerely thank all of my positive supporters who have purchased my books, attended my seminars, workshops, conferences and followed me religiously on social networks.

Preface

How to Remove Your Success Blockers will provide the secret for removing the success blockers that have been holding you back and keeping you from achieving success in your life and business. Over the years I have helped countless people reach their dreams and live their best lives by using these techniques.

It all started early in my career as an insurance agent working for a large Canadian insurance company. I realized that there were certain aspects of my behavior that were stopping me from becoming more successful. I quickly realized that I had the following incapacities working against me.

• I had a fear of prospecting strangers.

• I had inner conflicts.

• I had limiting beliefs.

• I had lack of knowledge – products, sales, strategies.

• I had an unfavorable environment.

• I lacked passion.

• I lacked self-confidence.

• I procrastinated – my prospecting partner highly contributed too.

Nevertheless, I was very determined to do whatever it took to become more successful in my career and business. I began to read books about successful insurance sales people, I attended seminars, workshops and motivational seminars and I eventually even hired a personal coach.

As a result of all my efforts and my hunger for success, I concluded that my success was also being blocked by what I call today the success blockers.

I understood clearly that unless I got rid of these blockers, I was going to sabotage my own career and eventually fail. In life when you want to become great at anything you do, you must first clearly understand exactly what you want and condition your mind-set to take focused actions. Your thoughts and actions must become synced with each other and become a habit.

In order to make or break a habit you must clearly understand what it is that you want, why you want it, what actions you must take and then practice it, day in and day out, to achieve your desired habit. Your habits become you, good or bad. Of course, good habits are far more rewarding than bad habits.

The only limits we have are the ones residing in our minds. We can accomplish anything in life that we set our mind on, believe in what we want and begin to take focused actions until the belief becomes positively contagious in our minds and hearts.

In the past two decades, I have hired, trained and worked with thousands of people in many walks of life, but with a heavy focus on individuals in sales. I have studied the behavior of many successful people and, more importantly, I have studied the behavior of people with little success. I discovered that successful people live by certain principles and they allow nothing to stand in their way of achieving greatness. On the other hand, people with little or no success have no principles that they live by, they are not focused and they unconsciously allow one or more success blockers to get in the way of their success.

At that point I began to research the key elements that were keeping these people from achieving what they deserved out of life. Throughout How to Remove Your Success Blockers I will share with you these findings and help you to achieve more success.

My first discovery was that the principle hindrance was the lack of effective use of the two greatest gifts with which we have been blessed – our minds and time. We each have a mind that we can develop exactly the way we want. We are all given twenty-four hours each day, so we must make effective use of that time if we want to reach our dreams and live the life we want.

When you carefully study this book, alter your mind-set and gradually begin to implement the ideas and strategies I share with you, you are guaranteed to achieve consistently more personal, business and financial objectives. You will certainly surpass the results you are presently experiencing.

This book will show you how to super-focus on your strength within and understand your weaknesses in order to maximize your full potential and at the same time enjoy a happier, healthier and an overall well balanced quality of life.

I have been an entrepreneur most of my life, experiencing different businesses from having a newspaper route, to being a professional actor, to owning restaurants, an actors’ workshop, an insurance and investment brokerage, to being an author and an educator/motivator. I won’t tell you that my journey was always easy. I tried many other businesses that didn’t work and many times I fell flat on my face. What is important is that I didn’t stay down; I learned from each mistake; I got up stronger than when I fell and started again. I will share with you some of these most significant breakthroughs through real-life experience.

As you read, focus your energy on accomplishing your goals; making mistakes can be a good thing as long as you use the mistakes as a learning experience to become stronger in your life.

This book is not magical. It is for people who are searching for super-awesome ideas to put into action in order to transform their lives and achieve more success.

Investing in yourself is the biggest and most valuable advice I can give you. By reading this book and taking action, you are giving yourself the most rewarding gift possible. I encourage you to read this book as often as you need to, however, more importantly, you must begin to take action, even small and slow actions, toward a more positive self-transformation.

Life is too precious to be lived in the shadows of fulfillment and the desires of living your dreams to the fullest. I believe that life was meant to be abundant for everyone, in all areas of our lives. We all have the ability within to live a life full of abundance, we need